Thoughts on PDA?

[erobert]

I went on a first date yesterday which went fine for the most part but near the end the guy was going a little overboard on the PDA. Like wanting to French in public- on the streets of New York, in the subway, in a store.

I don't mind a little peck or quick kiss but I think that was a bit much and I was tempted to tell him to cool it. A guy in the subway even gave us the "get a room look". I'd feel this way even if I was straight btw.

What are your thoughts on PDA?

 

[tcrawford18]

I know I'm probably in the minority in this but, I think PDA is gross. I'm sorry, it has nothing to do with being gay, or being ashamed of showing it off in public, or whatevs, I just feel uncomfortable holding hands, kissing, even having arms around each other in public. I feel that sentimental, and affectionate/passionate moments should be private. I feel my stomach turn when I see straight people involved in PDA, and I feel my stomach turn when I see gay people involved in PDA. Just my two cents. Sorry if this comment is offensive in any way to anyone.

 

[bulge]

Str8 PDA always makes my stomach turn, but gay PDA never does.

 

[erobert]

Sorry if this comment is offensive in any way to anyone.

No, I understand most of what you're talking about, I also think PDA should be done in a private place, almost seems like exhibitionism when I see people Frenching in public. Maybe I'm a bit prudish though, idk... It does depend on the context like you said loki81. I'm fine with hand holding though.

The funny thing is one of my friends told me they were the same way and then he kind of turned into one of "those" couples when he found someone he really loved. That's a bit ind of ironic.

BTW, I hear in France and many parts of Europe there's PDA going on all over the place so maybe it's a cultural thing...

 

[hollywooder18]

I'm with you guys, I'm not into excessive PDA whether it's me or it's people around me. Like said already, a quick kiss or for a few seconds is alright but a full on makeout session is unnecessary.

 

[AlmondMilk]

I think holding hands or locking arms is fine, but when it comes to kissing, keep it to a quick peck! Anything like french kissing or rubbing asses or something, save it for home or a bathhouse or something. This is for gay/straight/bi/whatever couples.

 

[FPNY]

I wouldn't hold hands with my guy in NYC, full making out is also out of the question. I don't like seeing str8's do it so I wouldn't do it myself.....

I don't really see "JUB" being anything but people's personal opinions on stuff. If you wanna make out with guys on the subway, be my guest, I've seen it and watched, but that doesn't mean it's ok for me...

 

[JayHawk]

I agree with the over the top stuff... seriously get a room.

However, I also see a lot of the couples who don't show any affection at all in the gay community. Which I can understand at Barnes and Noble or on the subway but in the gay-borhood of any city where several couples are out and about.... then it just seems overly afraid of who you are in this life. I mean if you are offended by the world seeing the guy you love kissing you on the cheek then I would imagine your not very in love with that guy. BUT that is just my humble opinion.

On a first date.... hell no.

 

[erobert]

Where were you in New York? I saw two guys sucking face the other day at like 9PM. One was tall and the other one was short and they both had really short hair.

Fi District. I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought he was going a bit fast for a first date, I wanted to slap him for getting fresh like that. Hopefully, it wasn't us; I was already a bit embarrassed and felt a bit awkward after the second time he did it.

 

[bulge]

No, I understand most of what you're talking about, I also think PDA should be done in a private place, almost seems like exhibitionism when I see people Frenching in public. Maybe I'm a bit prudish though, idk... It does depend on the context like you said loki81. I'm fine with hand holding though.

The funny thing is one of my friends told me they were the same way and then he kind of turned into one of "those" couples when he found someone he really loved. That's a bit ind of ironic.

BTW, I hear in France and many parts of Europe there's PDA going on all over the place so maybe it's a cultural thing...

Never saw it in France except between str8 couples. Saw gay PDA only twice in Antwerp (Belgium), twice in Ghent (Belgium), once in Trier (Germany) and once in Berlin (Germany).

I of course don't count the kiss ins in which I participated.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-london-13096519

http://www.guardian.co.uk/uk/2011/apr/15/john-snow-kiss-in-london

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http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-13103599

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[IowaGuy]

I'm not a big fan of PDA either.

 

[MoltenRock III]

I like PDAs. When I see another couple gay or str8 it makes me smile. It's great to see a couple love each other.

 

[MMMonsterBoy]

I'm very affectionate, so I don't mind a little PDA. By that I mean holding hands, a peck on the lips, and hugging goodbye/hello.

Anything more than that might be over doing it. I don't really want to see another couple making out intensely in public. I know people wouldn't want to see me do the same. I just like to keep it classy

 

[justsimon]

I like holding hands or brief kisses. A hand on the leg when sitting down is fine, too. Anything more is impolite.

 

[StationToStation]

I like holding hands or brief kisses. A hand on the leg when sitting down is fine, too. Anything more is impolite.

agreed!!!!

 

[Nomenclature]

Assuming you're at a park, a restaurant etc. . .a hug is always fine. Holding hands or a peck are alright in some situations, but prolonged kissing, tongue kissing, groping, or having sex sex should always be done in privacy.

 

[freefall]

What sinfulsimon says.

Do whatever you want to do in your bedroom, in your bedroom. I don't need to figure your sexual explorations and adventures or foreplays.

In addition, teasing each other in public, verbally or physically, is also somewhat repulsive. Once awhile is fine, but a constant thirty-minuted teasing is way beyond.

 

[healingduck]

A simple kiss on the lips is fine, but making out in public is just tacky, gay or straight.

 

[MoltenRock III]

I'm also bothered by boat shoes, people who wear ratty sneakers with nice suits, and anyone who tucks their shirt into their pants without wearing a belt

Bitch, don't EVEN get me started on flip-flops!

 

[maxpowr9]

I do that all the time!

Bad gay!!!

If you have belt loops, wear a goddamn belt.

Sorry Loki, I do love my flip flops especially in the summer. Hell, I tend to drive barefoot in the summer despite it being illegal.

As for the whole PDA thing, I agree. Outside of holding hands, an embrace (not a grope) or polite kiss, anything else is a bit over the top and that goes for any couple. I have definitely done some PDA before but it usually causes a scene and not in a good way.