Threesome Worries

[thekspot]

I may be worrying over nothing but id like your guys opinion on something...

Well I met this couple online, and they were looking for a third for a threesome. I chatted once with one of them over msn, and he was really nice. He said he would pick me up, pay for hotel, drop me off and pay for taxi if neccesary.

He wants to meet in less than a week, I havent even really chatted or gotten to know the guys and it all seems really rushed. We chatted once and the guy constantly says whatever is comfortable.

I dont mind meeting in less than a week if they are nice guys, but they seem to be really really nice guys, the guys are driving a far way just to meet me and they are really going out of their way.

The fact that they are really accomadating makes me really nervous, it seems too good to be true, we chatted once, I hope to chat a couple more times before we meet and get to know them more and address my anxieties.

Any advice

(I always get a little nervous before I meet a guy off the net, I dont know if I should actually meet them or not, because they sound nice and are both very hot, but I dont know if I am stepping into a potentially dangerous situation)

Thanks for any reponses ...

 

[ineffablejk]

Meet them in a busy open place like a shopping mall or some where you can see them first decide if you still want to go with them then talk for a while and make a decision at that point. Be safe.

 

[looseliam]

To add to it, make sure someone else has their contact information and when to expect an update from you that you're O.K..

 

[TomahawkEagle]

Without sounding paranoid, I think that is very dangerous given that they want to rush your mind. Just like Ineffablejk said, better to meet in a public place.

Apart from security issues, group sex is very risky from the disease perspective.

 

[Orlandude]

First off, the fact that you are worried about this tells me that you are not comfortable about meeting these people. If you are uncomfortable about it, DON'T DO IT! Or meet them under other circumstances and decide.

There are also a few things that bother me. How old are these guys?? You didn't say. They seem to be telling you only what you want to hear. That's troublesome. How do you know they have to drive far to meet you...because they said so? I hope you realize you are dealing with TWO TOTAL STRANGERS. I don't care how "nice" they are on line, you do not know them. You have never met. You are taking a chance. Granted, they may be harmless and sincere...then again...

If you decide to go through with this, insist that you meet in a public place, where other people are around. Do not meet them in a hotel room or any other secluded place...by yourself. A PUBLIC place means like a restaurant, bar or coffee shop (even at the hotel) where you can sit and talk and be seen BEFORE you go to any room. If they won't do that...it's a huge yellow flag. Don't go. Also, do not give them any personal information like your home address. Agree to do nothing until you have talked with them and you feel completely comfortable. And even then...be safe and keep your eyes wide open.

I don't mean to sound so "mother hen" about this but you can't be too carefull in these kinds of situations. Personally, I would never do this. But that's me.

 

[TomahawkEagle]

Okay Thekspot, forget my last post about disease protection. That would take a back seat for now.

Just one thing though, you've said that you get nervous meeting guys off the net. How often do you meet guys that you run into online? Also are you out of the closet yet?

I can see why you want to do it with someone but there are lots of issues involved so like everyone else has said, don't rush it. You're only 21 so you'd have plenty of time to find someone.

Are you working or studying in uni right now?

 

[thekspot]

Thanks for all the responses everyone.

Wanted to add they said they are okay with meeting me in a public place, and they agree to talk first to make sure im comfortable before we go to a hotel. I also told them that I wont do nothing I dont feel comfortable (which means basically no anal) and they said thats ok

Thanks for the words TomahawkEagle, Orlandude, looseliam and ineffablejk I do realize that I am actually dealing with two strangers at the moment I do need to get to know them better

I dont do this often, I have only met up with one other guy before these guys

Thanks a lot for the responses they have been helpful

 

[jockboy01]

All that has been said is good advice. Most of the time, meeting people off the net is fine. But every once in a while, guys get themselves into trouble. I agree that you should meet in a public place for sure. But also agree that somebody should know where you're going just in case. It also depends on how good you are at reading people. I'm pretty good at getting a sense of who a person is when I first meet them. Some people are TERRIBLE at it. If you're the latter, I'd say wait to go to a private place a bit longer.

Also, your hesitations are normal, but at the same time, signal that this might not be the best idea.

 

[thekspot]

I am going through with it

After I made this thread I chatted with the guys and had this window open and addressed every issue you guys raised. They said they are cool with it all.

The only risk I was worried about was the STD risk, and they said if I dont feel free doing anything I dont have to.

Im no longer really nervous, thanks for all the helpful words, I am looking forward to meeting them.

 

[Corny]

don't foreget to tell us afterwards

 

[TomahawkEagle]

I am going through with it

After I made this thread I chatted with the guys and had this window open and addressed every issue you guys raised. They said they are cool with it all.

The only risk I was worried about was the STD risk, and they said if I dont feel free doing anything I dont have to.

Im no longer really nervous, thanks for all the helpful words, I am looking forward to meeting them.

About diseases, always remember the protection such as covering up open wounds, condoms, gloves etc. Make sure blood doesn't get spilled.