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tips for dealing with sexual frustration

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excer93

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Hey guys,

I'm 22 so as you can expect I have quite a high sex drive, but this has unfortunately led me to being quite sexually frustrated.

In my life I've never had regular sex, I've hooked up with guys, I've dated guys but I've never slept with them more than a few times. I'm happy being single now, I've just moved to a new country so things are quite exciting for me, but I just can't seem to get over my sexual frustration. I'm also a bottom so it's quite hard to give myself the stimulation I crave.

I masturbate a few times a day usually, I spend a lot of time on hook up websites etc. It's not really interfering with my duties in life as such, but it kind of takes some time away from my personal life.

Does anyone have any alternative solutions for this other than having sex?
 
When I was 22 years of age I was lifting weights, and training with my martial arts teacher. The training tired me sufficiently not to over think my sexual drive. Reading books, and eating chocolate is also helpful. Chocolate can be addictive. Life's dilemmas can be challenging, less so when ones responses are garnished with a little humour to lubricate the way ahead.
 
excer93 said:
...I've dated guys but I've never slept with them more than a few times... I just can't seem to get over my sexual frustration...

I masturbate a few times a day usually, I spend a lot of time on hook up websites etc... it kind of takes some time away from my personal life.

Does anyone have any alternative solutions for this other than having sex?
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The question to think about is, "If you were having sex with someone, would that alone satisfy your need for sex?" After all, masturbating "a few times a day" isn't resolving your desire.

There is a biological drive that makes men crave sex. But there's also a line where normal cravings cross over into addiction. What we often hear is that sex becomes a solution for every impulse- anxiety, boredom, loneliness- much like food, alcohol and other addictions.

What distinguishes sex addiction from other addictions is that it is normal to want sex and to have sex. So, the solution is to figure out why you're getting off and wanting to get off so often and to work on that issue. Sometimes it takes working with a therapist to unravel the issue so that sex isn't used as a panacea for whatever is triggering your need to have sex so often.
 
I don't really do much in the way or cardio, has that worked for anyone else? I always thought exercise increased the sex drive.

While I get what you're saying, I believe I would be satisfied if I was getting regular sex. As I said I'm a bottom, stimulation of the penis isn't what I enjoy the most but it's all I can really achieve by myself. Whenever I have sex I'm normally satisfied for a while but then then the desire returns.
 
I'm 32 now and I'm in the same situation. I never had a very regular fuckbuddy, nor a boyfriend. For different reasons I'm not meeting new guys for a while. Plus, I'm a bottom, too. I spend quite some time looking at porn (not always masturbating). But the biggest satisfaction is playing with big toys. I'd say give it a try (start with the small ones, obviously). For me it's a lot of pleasure and excitement.
 
Keep yourself busy, I like kallipolis advice. I jerk off a lot too which helps ease the frustration.

Really think about what KaraBulut said too, what is it that you want or are looking for?

Maybe it's deeper. Why don't you want to bond with someone? Maybe you have a fear of intimacy with someone? Are you afraid of getting hurt? Do you have difficulty bonding with people emotionally? What happened with the person that you were closest to? Do you have low self-esteem and feel like you don't deserve to be loved?
Maybe I'm way off, but try to get to the core of the issue. There are also healthy people who are fine with being single and it's natural for them. Maybe that's you so you need to define sex in a different way than the majority. Continue the journey to know yourself.
 
I'm actively dating alongside this and I'm happy with that, I can separate sex and emotional attachment. As I said, I have a very high sex drive, I've used casual sex to prevent myself from going too quickly with guys I'd like to date.

However I want to stop this or at least reduce the need for it. I appreciate the advice but I was looking for tips to curb the sex drive. Looks like I'll pick up some cardio and give it a shot.
 
excer93 said:
While I get what you're saying, I believe I would be satisfied if I was getting regular sex. As I said I'm a bottom, stimulation of the penis isn't what I enjoy the most but it's all I can really achieve by myself. Whenever I have sex I'm normally satisfied for a while but then then the desire returns.
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Have you tried using a butt plug or Dildo while you masturbate?
 
other than playing with toys and pleasing urself, there isnt a great deal u can do if u dont want to meet someone. Maybe as stated distract urself from the problem join a gym?
 
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