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Tips on how to pick up guys in public (non-bar meets)

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Don't ever get shy at the kind of stuff. Just go up and be hey what's up?


Confidence is the key to everything. Remember that.
 
You could have tried smiling at him during one of the looks. If he smiled back, it would be a sign to approach and start some idle chat. From there, if things were still clicking ask him for his number to have coffee some time (or something similar).
 
YES! hey whats up iis the way to go!! I did it once and met the coolest guy. kinda botched it after that but got a date out of it. he lived too far away from me and I couldnt afford to hang out with him but it was great to go up to somebody I didnt knowand be like "HI, my name is Chad"
 
Look for a bench and sit down...He probably would have worked his way over and joined you...small chat and take it from there...

This has worked for me before
 
I don't think I lack self-confidence, but I'd tend to think twice before approaching someone, just coz he looked and I looked, too.

Out of major gay cities, asking a completely unkown dude for coffees can be seen as nothing short of a gay flirt. Not every dude, gay or str8 may welcome that.

So, yeah, smile back, say hi, and stop there. You don't want trouble, rite?

SC
 
Well, there's nothing illegal or immoral (or, I suppose, fattening) about saying "hello" to somebody you don't know. The key thing is to take it one step at a time. Make sure the first "hello" is cheerful, kind of butch, and certainly not suggestive in any way. (No "hello, there", smirking, or batting of the eyes.)

If the guy is straight or not interested you will find out immediately. If he responds with at least equal friendliness, you can continue with, "how ya doin" or "can you believe how hot it is" or "say, where's the best place to buy jeans," or whatever. Still being neutral and somewhat impersonal, but friendly.

By now, you'll have a pretty good idea whether a hookup is possible. If it is, you don't need to worry too much about the topic of conversation. Just keep him talking long enough to exchange more signals until you're each pretty sure.

Then you close. And here I have to admit that my technique usually fails me, so maybe someone else will have some pointers. But for sure don't give up yet. How about something like "You know, now that I think of it, I really don't feel like going grocery shopping. You want to go outside and get some air?"

If he accepts, it's now an official pickup. As soon as you get out of the mall, say, "Hey would you like to come over to my place for a beer?"

Under no circumstances invite him to a neutral place for a cup of coffee. That would be a date, and we're talking about cruising here, right? By the time he finishes the coffee, he could be out of the mood again. Make sure you get him onto your turf (or his, if he suggests it) as soon as possible.
 
Stroker1 said:
How would you have handled the situation? Any tips or other stories to share?
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I'd probably have walked up to him and asked "You any idea where I can get (insert totally unrelated item) around here?" It usually sparks a smile and then you can start yappin'. :cool:
 
I would probably look away. I don't have the confidence to go up to someone in public and ask for their number. It makes me feel ..well..inadequate/not good enough and I have this overwhelming fear of failure.

Though if someone takes enough of an interest in me that it's completely blatantly obvious, I might do something about it.
 
herenthere said:
Look for a bench and sit down...He probably would have worked his way over and joined you...small chat and take it from there...

This has worked for me before
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Thats a good one never thought about this. especially for the more shy guys.
 
And a good way to keep in practice is to say hi to strangers you don't want to pick up. Just look them right in the eyes, smile, and say hi. Then when somebody a little more interesting comes along, it won't seem like such a weird thing to do.
 
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