Tired of hiding

[TX-Beau]

Well, maybe it's different now, or wherever you are, but I don't remember the Greek environment as one conducive to acceptance and diversity.

What I remember was pack dynamic, pressure to get laid (heterosexually), too much drinking and too much pot.

When I came out, I dropped out of that. Some of the guys stopped associating with me because I was a fag, which in the end meant most of them stopped associating with me by default - because your social life revolved around the Frat.

There were some decent guys, but there were always plenty of straight up assholes starting shit however they could. Being gay, made a huge, glowing neon target.

But that was fifteen years ago in Texas, maybe things are different now. I walked away because I had enough pressure to deal with, without having to run that gauntlet all the damn time as well, and frankly, I didn't miss the constant pressure to conform.

 

[bhandsome]

Ok, I have a son 18 and a daughter 19 in college. How important is this frat house to you? Will it help you advance your degree? Or will it give you cheap housing?

What I just read was " My frat buddy made a total homophobic statement, as told to him by his homophobic parent. None of my frat brothers told him to go to hell, they just accepted it"

Move away - it is the end of the semester and a good time to get a shared apartment. Then you can pick any former frat brothers you wish to level with. But stay away from Mr. Homophobia. This man is trouble.

Do I sound incensed? it might be because my son attends the same college I did. And it is also the same college Tyler Clementi (see the garden of memories forum) attended until he jumped from the GWB spanning NY and NJ because of a wealthy, harassing homophobic roommate who made his life a living hell. This crap isn't supposed to happen in the northeast forty years after Stonewall.

Where I attend college, frat/sorority house are not permitted. We all live in sepearate houses or dorms. Thankfully he is moving away in a few months but he is also my friend so it's hard to know I might not be associating myself with him if he continues to think this way. He is also in the military so who knows if that has anything to do with his comment.

Well, maybe it's different now, or wherever you are, but I don't remember the Greek environment as one conducive to acceptance and diversity.

What I remember was pack dynamic, pressure to get laid (heterosexually), too much drinking and too much pot.

When I came out, I dropped out of that. Some of the guys stopped associating with me because I was a fag, which in the end meant most of them stopped associating with me by default - because your social life revolved around the Frat.

There were some decent guys, but there were always plenty of straight up assholes starting shit however they could. Being gay, made a huge, glowing neon target.

But that was fifteen years ago in Texas, maybe things are different now. I walked away because I had enough pressure to deal with, without having to run that gauntlet all the damn time as well, and frankly, I didn't miss the constant pressure to conform.

The Greek community seems to be more accepting. Although there aren't many frats with openly gay members. The stereotype for heterosexuals are still the same; get laid, talk about pussy, and drink. None of that ever interested me, except for the drinking lol

The main reason I joined a frat was to have the male friends I never had. I always had female friends and at the time I thought this was a problem (when I was denying my sexuality). Now my brothers are my best friends and it's unfortunate a good amount of them will not look at me the same...