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To All People Scared of Coming Out

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Hi,


I thought I would post my coming out story quite quickly, in the hope to help people who have yet to do so. Im a gay guy just to let you know :P

2 months ago, the thought of coming out to the people closest to me scared the hell out of me. I did everything possible to make sure my secret was hidden, and I would have to tell so many lies and stories to sound straight. Noone was aware of my secret and I felt it was the only way to grow up; to pretend to be someone I was not.

About a month ago, I woke up one day as normal and went out with one of my closest friends, a girl. And we had a laugh as normal and I felt so comfortable with her, that I was almost scared she would think I fancied her. But I didn't want that, I wanted her to know I liked her for her as a friend... So I told her I had a secret and to make it easier for me I asked her to guess. She guessed I was gay strait away and it was such a relief. It felt weird at first, but I felt a huge a lift off my chest straight way.

Over the period of the last month I have slowly told each person closest to me one by one and it has felt amazing. Most of my friends are girls so it was relief from them and my relationships with all my friends have grown so much.

And considering 2 months ago the thought of coming out was so scary and now Im completely happy with it and the thought of anyone knowing is amazing.

But anyway to sum up my story, I'd like to say this.
Only come out when you feel the moment that you are ready. Tell the people closest to you, who you know will love you for it. And to everyone worried about it, it was the best thing I think I have ever done.

I'm not saying that everyone will be ok with it, but I can assure you that you will make more friends than enemies. :)

Don't be scared, But do it when the moment feels right.

You were born this way ;)

x
 
Mango1 said:
Hi,


I thought I would post my coming out story quite quickly, in the hope to help people who have yet to do so. Im a gay guy just to let you know :P

2 months ago, the thought of coming out to the people closest to me scared the hell out of me. I did everything possible to make sure my secret was hidden, and I would have to tell so many lies and stories to sound straight. Noone was aware of my secret and I felt it was the only way to grow up; to pretend to be someone I was not.

About a month ago, I woke up one day as normal and went out with one of my closest friends, a girl. And we had a laugh as normal and I felt so comfortable with her, that I was almost scared she would think I fancied her. But I didn't want that, I wanted her to know I liked her for her as a friend... So I told her I had a secret and to make it easier for me I asked her to guess. She guessed I was gay strait away and it was such a relief. It felt weird at first, but I felt a huge a lift off my chest straight way.

Over the period of the last month I have slowly told each person closest to me one by one and it has felt amazing. Most of my friends are girls so it was relief from them and my relationships with all my friends have grown so much.

And considering 2 months ago the thought of coming out was so scary and now Im completely happy with it and the thought of anyone knowing is amazing.

But anyway to sum up my story, I'd like to say this.
Only come out when you feel the moment that you are ready. Tell the people closest to you, who you know will love you for it. And to everyone worried about it, it was the best thing I think I have ever done.

I'm not saying that everyone will be ok with it, but I can assure you that you will make more friends than enemies. :)

Don't be scared, But do it when the moment feels right.

You were born this way ;)

x
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Well this was very reassuring. XD I was also thinking of coming out last week with my friends, but i just felt that i wasn't ready to tell them yet. After reading your post i feel hell of a lot better. :-)

And nice Lady gaga touch in the end.;)
 
Nice of you to tell your story. I wish you the best.
 
Mango1 said:
Hi,


I thought I would post my coming out story quite quickly, in the hope to help people who have yet to do so. Im a gay guy just to let you know :P

2 months ago, the thought of coming out to the people closest to me scared the hell out of me. I did everything possible to make sure my secret was hidden, and I would have to tell so many lies and stories to sound straight. Noone was aware of my secret and I felt it was the only way to grow up; to pretend to be someone I was not.

About a month ago, I woke up one day as normal and went out with one of my closest friends, a girl. And we had a laugh as normal and I felt so comfortable with her, that I was almost scared she would think I fancied her. But I didn't want that, I wanted her to know I liked her for her as a friend... So I told her I had a secret and to make it easier for me I asked her to guess. She guessed I was gay strait away and it was such a relief. It felt weird at first, but I felt a huge a lift off my chest straight way.

Over the period of the last month I have slowly told each person closest to me one by one and it has felt amazing. Most of my friends are girls so it was relief from them and my relationships with all my friends have grown so much.

And considering 2 months ago the thought of coming out was so scary and now Im completely happy with it and the thought of anyone knowing is amazing.

But anyway to sum up my story, I'd like to say this.
Only come out when you feel the moment that you are ready. Tell the people closest to you, who you know will love you for it. And to everyone worried about it, it was the best thing I think I have ever done.

I'm not saying that everyone will be ok with it, but I can assure you that you will make more friends than enemies. :)

Don't be scared, But do it when the moment feels right.

You were born this way ;)

x
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Girls are gays allies.
Boys are lesbians allies too ? :)
 
Telstra said:
Girls are gays allies.
Boys are lesbians allies too ? :)
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Hmm I guess so. I'm not sure, as long as you have some true friends out there who like you for you rather than your sexuality. I dont think it matters what sex they are :)
 
There's no way you can speak for millions of other people. Many people do have families, schools, jobs or careers where it would be against their best interests to come out.

"I came out and it went well for me, so it's certainly going to go well for you, too" is a blatant fallacy.
 
Thank you everyone for your nice comments, I'm glad my story has helped some people.

Nomenclature thank you for your comment and your view on my story. However I will have to agree with hylas and admit that what you have "quoted" doesnt actually appear in my post. Sorry you don't agree with my views on coming out, just thought it would be nice for people to hear my views as I have now actually been through it.

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