Tonight I told my parents and my brother "I am Gay"

[TKrandy]

You sound like you have a big heart, good for you. =)

Yeah I do.

I just don't have anyone to share it with.

One day....

I agree, you have a big heart and you've got a lot to give

Patience my friend. You've taken the first courageous steps to a new life - the real you Now some cool guy might actually have the opportunity to share it with you.

You deserve to be happy CB

 

[crowboy]

I agree, you have a big heart and you've got a lot to give

Patience my friend. You've taken the first courageous steps to a new life - the real you Now some cool guy might actually have the opportunity to share it with you.

You deserve to be happy CB

Thanks TK. You are a sweetheart. to you too. You know how to make me smile.

I thought I would just add that while PMing a nice guy ^, my mum rang.
Just ringing to see how I was.

I had wondered if I would hear from her this week after the bombshell I dropped. While they suspected, they didn't expect me to say it at the time.

All is good. She was asking what sort of cake I wanted for my bday lunch coming up in two weeks. I love cake.

Oh and about that phone call I made last night.

It was good speaking to someone. I was pointed in the direction of a few things.
I'm feeling so much better today. I don't know what I'll do so I'm just sitting on it for now. I'm feeling more comfortable about just letting things be for a while. Just taking time to get use to it all.

All is well.

Cheers guys.

 

[crowboy]

So Crowboy, you are a sweetheart and the man who finds you will be very lucky.

Aww shucks Simboy.

I had an RDO today so I decide to do a bit of retail therapy.

I thought the new me needed to look and feel better than the old average daggy me.

I spent way too much but who cares. I had the money (tax return) and I figure I have given a few retail staff a good day letting them talk me in to buying things. I've also helped stimulate the economy. So it's win win win.

Next week I think I will get some new shoes.

When this gay boy finally gets out to explore the gay world he's going to at least try and look good.

 

[Telstra]

Hi all.

I have finally come out and told my family I am gay.

Details are in my blogs here on JUB if you are interested.
You can read how I came to finally do it and how it went.

But the short version is I haven't been disowned, they did suspect (20 yrs and no girlfriend) and they are OK with it. I think I still need to give them time to process though.

I don't think I would have done it if it were not for JUB.

JUB you rock.

Thankyou.

good on you. Now are you allow to go to the crows players locker rooms ?

 

[crowboy]

good on you. Now are you allow to go to the crows players locker rooms ?

If only I could. I wouldn't get past locker 21.

 

[Telstra]

If only I could. I wouldn't get past locker 21.

nah, afl players are not that hot. Go for your local soccer players .... the italians, the greeks, the croats ... etc ... they are hot .

 

[TKrandy]

So Crowboy, you are a sweetheart and the man who finds you will be very lucky.

...........I had an RDO today so I decide to do a bit of retail therapy.
..........
When this gay boy finally gets out to explore the gay world he's going to at least try and look good.

Simboy you're dead right on both counts

CB, nothing quite like retail therapy to get the spirits on high i reckon - puts a smile on my dial

what's this "try" bit? the new gay CB is out running (well maybe run/jog/run for now), into retail therapy and more confident. As simboy says, the man who finds you will be very lucky indeed

 

[thisisinteresting]

Glad you got it off your chest. It's a shame people even need "time to process" things like this (except maybe homophobic and/or religious folk, I don't understand how it affects them), but nonetheless I applaud your brave act.

 

[crowboy]

Tonight I decided to post the first version of my "Being Gay is Hard" blog.
Feel free to check it out.

It gives an insight into how fucked in the head I was at this time last week.

It is a reminder to me not to let things get on top of me.

In other news I have decided that I am not going to pretend at work anymore.
I'm not going to come out and announce myself (I don't feel the need to) however I'm not going to lie either. For example if someone says to me that I need to find myself a nice girl (something said to me more than once) I may say something like "nah, I want a nice boy".

My workplace is a very diverse accepting place and my job is secure so there is no worry there. I just can't be bothered pretending anymore. I want to be me. And if people don't like that, it is their problem. I'm not going to flaunt my sexuality to them, but I have a right to be me as much as anyone else.

 

[hvk1989]

It's great things are going good for you. I find my own truths in your original post. It's great you are deciding to be honest with your co-workers. Your approach is one I kinda fantasize about with certain people at church--I happen to attend the same church as my parents (they live on the north side of town, I live in the south). It also happens to be the church in which I grew up. As a result, I'm known as the one "who never married" and am constantly being told by my parents' friends they have some girl they want me to meet. The warped sense of humor side of me would love to take your approach and next time one of them tells me they found a nice girl for me, I'll tell them thanks, but no thanks, go find me a nice guy. They'd faint right away but I'd feel a lot better and smile really big.

 

[Telstra]

It's great things are going good for you. I find my own truths in your original post. It's great you are deciding to be honest with your co-workers. Your approach is one I kinda fantasize about with certain people at church--I happen to attend the same church as my parents (they live on the north side of town, I live in the south). It also happens to be the church in which I grew up. As a result, I'm known as the one "who never married" and am constantly being told by my parents' friends they have some girl they want me to meet. The warped sense of humor side of me would love to take your approach and next time one of them tells me they found a nice girl for me, I'll tell them thanks, but no thanks, go find me a nice guy. They'd faint right away but I'd feel a lot better and smile really big.

have you done that yet.
So if someone ask "have you got a girl friend" what would be your reply?

 

[hvk1989]

have you done that yet.
So if someone ask "have you got a girl friend" what would be your reply?

LOL, no I haven't--only in my fantasies. I figure I need to work through coming out to my family and friends first though the "shock treatment" would certainly get it over with. . . and quick. My usual response is to furrow my brow and give them a "no and you're an idiot for even asking me that question in the first place" look. The only enthusiastically positive response I give is when someone tells me that I'll eventually find someone who is right for me (as opposed to the right "girl."). I haven't figured out if my close friends at church have ever caught the difference in my manner of responding. Over the last thirteen years since I got out of post-graduate schools, there's only been one couple at church that managed to make it past my usual response of "have her send me her last three years' tax returns and a current personal income statement and balance sheet." They offered to go with us to dinner so I felt a bit out of options (yes I know, there was always the truth, but. . . ). Fairly miserable experience. . . and she was bipolar. No kidding.

 

[crowboy]

I just updated my profile.
I added the year I'm out. 2009
I use to think that would never happen.
Yay it was good to do that.

 

[hvk1989]

It must feel good. . . way to go. . .

 

[crowboy]

Today is my birthday.
I am using this as the starting point for the new me.
I want to look back at this time as the time in which everything changed for the better.
I want to begin to say goodbye to the old lonely, shy, self loathing me. And well say hello to the new gay me.

I am meeting my family this weekend for a bbq for my bday and my brothers partners bday. I have spoken to both mum and dad since I came out to them and it's like nothing has changed......I'm still unsure how to take it. I really want them to have a question or two for me. I'll just have to wait and see what happens.

Cheers guys.

 

[Deandbn]

Happy Birthday Bud!

A little late maybe because it's already 6.00am Tuesday in Australia...

Have a good one anyway.

 

[crowboy]

Happy Birthday Bud!

A little late maybe because it's already 6.00am Tuesday in Australia...

Have a good one anyway.

Not late at all mate.

I've just gotten up and out of bed (09:00) and there is a happy bday post from you. A good way to start the day actually.

Thankyou

 

[crowboy]

I had a good bday this week and in fact this week has been grand. The best in a while.

Latest update is I have now told a number of people at work.
I started with one, then another few and today I told 4 co workers. I had been rather off (not my usual self) and I wanted to explain why. All have been good and supportive. I even received a few hugs and congratulations.

I have decided that I will no longer evade certain questions or pretend with answers like before. I will simply be me and be truthful to me. I am becoming much more confident about who I am and I feel much better about all that.

Thanks again to all those who have wished me well with this post or sent me a PM or commented on my blogs. You've all helped me and I am thankful for that.

 

[Críostóir]

Thank you for making us all happy with such an upbeat story! I wish my coming out had gone so well.

 

[crowboy]

I realised I should update my profile again. I have changed it to totally out.
I don't think it truly describes my situation but it was the best on the list now that "Out at home, in at work" doesn't apply.

I wouldn't have the courage to come out at work. Personally I don't see the need. My work life is separate from my private life. But I applaude your courage and gusto in which you're embracing being gay. I'm enjoying reading about your progress. What's next for you? Do you plan on joining any gay groups?

I do know what you mean about work life and private life being separate. I just felt that I was not being myself and I have a few poeple at work I consider friends and I wanted to tell them because I knew they would be supportive. And they have been. I really need that right now as I'm still coming to grips with it all.

As for joining gay groups, I'm thinking about that sort of thing. It's just a matter of courage for me. I am a chicken deep down. I'm scared shitless about it all. That's also part of why I came out at work. The more I do it the better I feel and the more courage I get. Step by step you know.

Congratulations, it was brave of you to come out and I'm glad you're family is okay with it.

Thanks mate.

Críostóir - Thank you for making us all happy with such an upbeat story! I wish my coming out had gone so well.

Thanks to you too. I find posting therapeutic and if you are a little happy in the process...bonus.