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too paranoid about my body to date, tips on how to cope?

altlover85 said:
Hyperbole perhaps? :rolleyes:

Most people don't have huge cocks and great abs, so don't compare yourself to them if possible.
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I'm not comparing, and i wasn't speaking literally, i'll break it down more.. What i meant was, that most guys on these online dating sights either lie about their personal features or have body types that franky blow mine out the fucking water imo. I've been working out (insanity ftw!) so thats not the issue, I'm an attractive guy and if i was straight i wouldn't have a problem with women at all. I DONT have a problem with women whatsoever. The problem is within me. Self confidence is something you really have to work at, and its not a simple as flipping a switch. I'm sure everyone is insecure about some aspect of their being and i'm no different but the o.p. seemed to put down in words exactly how i feel and it really opened my eyes
 
You should keep up the gym work for sure.

I'm not sure what sites you go to, but when I used to go onto dating sites, I found plenty of average guys around.

If you can think about what you find attractive (physically and mentally), you might be able to increase the number of guys you find attractive.

Good luck!
 
I just "finished" looking at your pics - man -- i know it can be difficult for you to actually see what you are looking at in the mirror - but you ARE HOT- you ARE sexy -- AND your furry ass practically made me need to go change my shorts !! i mean - seriously -- you're friends are not lying to you - neither are we -
you look taller in your pics - but tall is not prerequisite for ANYTHING -
it's what's inside that counts - and the parts you've shared with us - are totally awesome --
and I'm sure you have the "goodheart" to go with the hot sexy exterior- get yourself out there and make some friends - they will be clawing at your pants in nothing flat -- if you let them -- and you will hear the same things in person - that you are hearing from us --
There are TONS of guys out there that want what you got !!
any questions?

good !!

I'm gonna go back to your pics and try real HARD not to get them all sticky (again) !!
 
You are being way too self conscious. You have a cute face and there's plenty of guys who like skinny guys and plenty that like hairy guys.

If you want to change things about your body sure you can explore that but you shouldn't make that a barrier to meeting anyone else.
 
Oh my god.

We almost all have our imperfections we're sensitive about.

Building body mass isn't that difficult and there are a lot of guys that would love thin boys with furry asses. Seriously.

As far as teeth go, talk to your dentist and see what you can do without it costing a fortune. Imperfect teeth are no biggy as long as you do take good care of oral hygeine.

Get out there lad. You've got nothing to fret about as far as I can see.
 
rareboy said:
Oh my god.

We almost all have our imperfections we're sensitive about.

Building body mass isn't that difficult and there are a lot of guys that would love thin boys with furry asses. Seriously.

As far as teeth go, talk to your dentist and see what you can do without it costing a fortune. Imperfect teeth are no biggy as long as you do take good care of oral hygeine.

Get out there lad. You've got nothing to fret about as far as I can see.
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well i have very fast metabolism so even if i eat alot i dont put on weight, in turn i cant turn that into muscle lol, besides my local gym is 400 dollars for a membership.
and i also recently my dad dropped my insurance so i cant go to the dentist, im in a really tough spot financially and i cant afford it even if i had insurance lol
 
Do you go to college? Do you have insurance from school?

Where do you live that your gym is $400? That's a ridiculous price. You could always just buy weights if you want to start working out.
 
1. You don't need a gym. You need to find some hard, volunteer physical labour that requires upper body work-out.

2. There's no metabolism that makes body mass impossible.

3. So your dad cut you off from dental. Figure it out.
I'd love to sit here all night long thinking up reasons why you can't do something too, but you seem to have that corner covered.

Maybe what you really need is an understanding of why you are building these walls to rationalize why you can't get out there and have a good, happy time and find love.
 
from your post in the "health" forum I'd say you got your answer. That should help your fears that guys won't want you because of your body. Obviously someone didn't think you were too bad.

Steven.
 
rareboy, i have tried to gain weight trust me, but im still skinny as can be, and i cant eat any more because i have ibs and acid reflux and it hurts if i eat too much, we also dont have much money so i cant overeat anyway, my dad didnt just cut off my dental, he cut me off completely. and as i said im not in a good place financially so theres really nothing i can do about my teeth.

georgiadude, yes i did actually get out there, but tbh i dont think he was all that interested and i have a sneaky suspicion i was just a lay lol =/
 
You should only be trying to gain weight if you think it's something you really want to do for you. You shouldn't do it just to get a guy and you shouldn't be doing it if it's giving you health problems.
 
altlover85 said:
You should only be trying to gain weight if you think it's something you really want to do for you. You shouldn't do it just to get a guy and you shouldn't be doing it if it's giving you health problems.
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i do want to gain weight for me, im very thin, and i would like to do something about it to make me feel better about myself. and the eating didnt give me health problems. ive had acid reflux for a long time, and the ibs i heard can be brought on by stress, which would make sense since ive definatley been stressed about stuff. not this in particular though
 
Those nexium pills really work for acid reflux. There are places you can get them for free - legally. Also, there are natural remedies like different foods.
 
georgiadude, yes i did actually get out there, but tbh i dont think he was all that interested and i have a sneaky suspicion i was just a lay lol =/[/QUOTE]


even if that's all it was. There had to be something there. If he were repulsed by you he wouldn't have gotten it up. I'm just saying to give yourself some credit. Sometimes we see things in ourselves that others don't. What we think is a major flaw others find barely noticeable. Of course there has to be some attraction for things to work but many guys are more interested in the type of person you are. A nice personality will go a long ways. I've known some guys that were gorgeous but had the personality of a stick. Most of their relationships didn't last very long.

Work on the things you can but honestly. Most of the time we see things differently than most people do. Be a good person. Someone people would want to be around. Keep yourself groomed. Know how to use a shower and deodorant. Even if your teeth are bad, brush often and use a breath mint if needed. That will go a lot further than muscles and good teeth.

Steven.
 
I don't know what to tell you, other than I know how you feel. I've gone through years of insecurity about my body, especially cock size.
 
Are you sure it is just reflux and not Crohn's?

I think you should try to get seen in a clinic if you don't have access to a family doctor. Besides the troubling dietary issues, I think you need to get access to other counselling assistance as well.

And c'mon. you can't waste an entire life erecting barriers and excuses. At some point you've just got to grab yourself by the balls and pull yourself forward.
 
Damn dude I was you when I was 19, except my body hair is strangely distributed and not really even. Despite that, I still managed to date and get laid: I guess there are dudes out there who find guys like us adorable and sexy. Don't lose hope, man. I still struggle with my body image to this very day (now I think I'm too fat where I used to be too skinny), but listen to the blokes here on JUB and they can give you some nice doses of reality.
 
Royal Heart said:
Damn dude I was you when I was 19, except my body hair is strangely distributed and not really even. Despite that, I still managed to date and get laid: I guess there are dudes out there who find guys like us adorable and sexy. Don't lose hope, man. I still struggle with my body image to this very day (now I think I'm too fat where I used to be too skinny), but listen to the blokes here on JUB and they can give you some nice doses of reality.
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lol thats what i was trying to say! haha i was tooo skinny now i'm not skinny enough!
 
When I was 24, I weighed 125 pounds.

Trust me.

You can gain weight.
 
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