too paranoid about my body to date, tips on how to cope?

[erobert]

There's noting with the way you look. You should try to gain a little more weight though as you are a bit underweight.

When I was 24, I weighed 125 pounds.

Trust me.

You can gain weight.

This.

Two years ago when I was 22, I weighed about 150 pounds. I'm 6,5" and even though I have a fast metabolism I knew that wasn't a healthy weight for someone my age and height. So I started eating more and working out more. I didn't want to become an muscle model just more tone. After a few weeks of working out (at home- was too insecure to work out at my college gym) and eating more calories the scale finally went above 150 and I became more tone- slowly but surely.

There's a lot of great threads in the health section of how skinny guys can gain more muscle mass. Corredor(sp?) has a great long running thread on his progress.

What ethnicity are you btw? The reason I ask is because some are more hairy than others (Greeks and Turkish for example) If you really don't like the hair there's also some threads on how to properly shave body hair so it doesn't cause in-grown hairs.

Even great looking guys are insecure about their looks. It's more about your personality in the long run.

 

[Jimmylikesit]

What ethnicity are you btw? The reason I ask is because some are more hairy than others (Greeks and Turkish for example) If you really don't like the hair there's also some threads on how to properly shave body hair so it doesn't cause in-grown hairs.
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i'm half german, and a quarter irish, the other 25% is a mix of a lot of stuff, and im not too sure what they all are lol

 

[YeahIknow]

If i knew which part of pennsylvania you live in, i would come there and give you a huge hug =) youre rediculously cute. but i do have a thing for skinny guys, and a lot do too. dont let your body get in the way of your personality, i prefer personality over figure any day, anyone who wants a relationship does too. You have nothing to worry about, being skinny is a good thing =) and body hair is awesome. and as long as you dont have bad breath no one cares about teeth.

 

[rareboy]

How tall are you rareboy?

5'-11"

Oh. And by the way. I've seen the OP's pics in Show Yourself Off.

There's nothing to be worried about except self-image.

 

[gdwatcher]

so long time lurker here, but this is my first post.
i'm 19 years old and have never had a boyfriend, had sex, or even made out with a guy. recently i've started online dating because i'm tired of being single and if i never get out there i'm sure i never will. but whenever i start talking to guys and we hit it off, i tend to make some dumb excuse to not meet because i'm too scared that they are going to reject me for my body, i'm very thin (106 lbs last time i checked) and very hairy, my ass has a ridiculous amount of hair (i won't shave it because i've done it twice before and i always end up with multiple ingrown hairs and it stings like a bitch lol) i also don't have that great of teeth, i'm just so worried that when guys see my body they will lose all interest, does anyone have any ideas to how i can get over this? i really want to start dating and have sex, don't want to be a virgin forever lol

Confidence and negative self image is a common issue among everyone. Before dating anyone I would suggest building your confidence. This will help your self image. Your teeth are probably not as bad as you think. Secondly, if this is your picture then you certainly have nothing to worry about.

I would suggest finding a local gay youth group to attend and meet people that share a common interest. Or perhaps donating your time to a local LGBT center. On line dating or going to clubs can be damaging to yourself confidence. Set yourself up for success by taking the hooking up and dating "by pictures" aspect out of the equation for now. Network and build up friendships. The rest will naturally fall into place.

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“I would rather die than to live by your fear” - Levi Kreis

 

[fuggit]

Oh Jimmy, You know I would fucking make love to you every day if I could. Honestly, your hairy ass alone would be enough to get me just playing with it. Add your amazing facial hair, you hot legs, and the fact that your a little guy I can throw around, it's needless to say I would SOOooooOO date you! And I'm totally obsessed with the way my partners look. I'm a 22 Yr old, 6' 1", 173lb model. And I like small hairy guys with cute faces. Love yourself, I sure do.