Too polite vs. impoliteness.

[Fucker29]

Basically, you say potato. I say potahto.

See? Now THAT is not polite.

 

[Level27]

See? Now THAT is not polite.

Will you kindly explain?

All I am saying is, you and I mean the same thing.

 

[Fucker29]

Will you kindly explain?

All I am saying is, you and I mean the same thing.

Lol. I should've used the safe smiley --->




Yes, but you worded it in a way that made you sound like you were contradicting yourself. You said "too weird" or "not polite enough" DOESN'T exist...I said it DOES exist.

A matter of wording but sometimes it can lead to misunderstandings. Anyway, it's clear now we meant the same...moving on...

 

[Level27]

Well,

 

[Fucker29]

Well,

Are you giving me the tongue? How rude!!

 

[Eternaldarkness]

Most everyone is saying that people nowadays are not polite enough and treats others without respect. Nobody says Please and Thank you anymore and it is too easy for a person to suddenly ignore you without caring for your feelings.

My question is:
If you were to meet someone new, and the person is wayyyy too polite...doesn't he starts to creep you out? You know, almost like he had just pop out of "The Village." Would you continue to date him?

I know I wouldn't. If this was something a few years back, when politeness and mannerism still defines a person's character (as important as "coolness")..then it would be fine. Nowadays, when nobody even cares to give a shit about saying Please and Thank you, would you start to wonder and be cautious if a person is still as polite as he should be?

A lot of you guys are sitting here typing and trying to explain that politeness does not come off as insincereness and you think that polite is necessary. To be honest it does not have anything to do with the point that I was trying to talk about.

Notice that in the first post, the main ideas is that...Nowadays...meaning presently, the younger generation does not care about politeness any more. In a younger guy's perspective about his age group, I clearly declare that there are other young people who is very rude and impolite. That was the age group I was focusing on.

That does not mean I am one of them. I do care about politeness and I think it is a nessessary quality of any living person to have. I am as polite as I should be.

I am starting to wonder if this truly depends on geographic locations, because there are a lot of people that agreed with me among the facts that "nowadays, the younger generations are more rude and impolite than before..

" Now, there are a few of you guys here claiming that where you live EVERYONE is polite and I wan't to ask you are you sure that the younger generations growing up are still as polite, as they should be? Or, have you starting to see rude people as well?

I guess I should put the question more clearly and simple. I asked that..Since nowadays most younger guys out there are not polite at all, wouldn't you feel cautious if there was an exeptional person. Someone who is young and is way too polite for his generation. In my personal opinion, I thought that this is uncommon.

Notice, I'm not talking about older guys than my age being polite and I'm not saying "I hate politeness", or am I saying politeness is insinceresness. I am just clearly asking a simple question about the politeness/impolitness of a younger person.

Youngsters nowadays are rude=impolite.
You meet a young guy who is too polite=exceptional, because most are rude.
You wonder if this politenes is real or false=an act to lure you in, thinking he's nice.
Will you be wary=cautious
or will you be pleased=gladly welcoming.

There no right and wrong answers because I am asking for personal opinion if it was you in the example.

argghh!
You guys are thowing me off topic, thus sending the whole main points of the question into chaos.

hehehe

So continue arguing with me if you still believe that kids nowadays are still growing up to be polite little angels.

 

[StlKj]

Well, it was rather impolite of you not to make that clearer in the first place.

 

[Eternaldarkness]

lol... I didn't thought that I had to scream and yell numerous times over and over again mentioning "Nowadays Young People" and having to bold it every time.

Hahaha. People don't read and try to understand something fully..they skip through the whole entire point and started a strike against something entirely different.

 

[StlKj]

People stayed on topic, Hon. They just didn't stay on YOUR topic.

 

[Eternaldarkness]

Ofcourse I noticed that...but then there were some that went on ahead and started to personally pick on me..

ahem*the asian men* post

that got me pissed off, but I'm done pissing. LOL.

 

[Eternaldarkness]

its when you start to imagine he belongs to sisterhood of the nuns.

hahaha, i'm just kidding

 

[Level27]

So where exactly do you draw the line between being "polite" and being "too polite?" What defines "too polite" exactly?

Great point, bw92116. I'd like to add that to mine.

So really, here's the bottom line, you guys: it all really depends on the personal upbringing of the individual. Those who grew up with hearing less "thanks" and "please" and "excuse me" than those who heard a lot of it when they were young will tend to think of certain 'polite people' as being 'too polite'. Those who grew it hearing more "thanks" and "please" and "excuse me" than those who barely heard it when they were young will tend to think of 'polite people' as normal everyday people and think of 'politeness' as a social necessity.

To simplify my point, there is no 'too weird' or 'not polite enough'; it's non-existent. It's all a perception of our own minds.

We can sit around to argue who's perception is correct, but I think that would be a total waste of time. Some of us might be more easily swayed, but we'll each hold our original perception of manners in the end.

If you were 'caused to question your perception of manners, blame it on your upbringing.

 

[kevbo]

^ Or Sister Mary Clarence from Sister Act?