Tops Cum, Bottoms Don't

[cocksucker4use]

I often wonder how the fuck most bottoms seem to be able to keep their dicks limp while getting rammed.


I'm always incredibly turned on and rock-hard while doing it. The whole time.

I don't know as the limp/hard state while getting fucked is a conscious decision. Part of it is nature....your an upper or a downer bottom. Also, age probably plays a part. Personally, I just love getting fucked. The emotional, psychological and physical aspects. My dick is most often limp when getting banged, but not always. If I jerk it, I would cum way before the top. If I wanna get fucked by multiple guys I purposely don't cum. As a bottom, I have options to suck a bunch a dicks and get mounted several times in a night, or day, or weekend or afternoon, morning, etc. as long as I don't cum. Being a male, once I shoot..it's pretty much over. So, why stop the music?

 

[ithinkimgay]

Plus being stopped from cumming can help you learn to cum solely from being fucked. Which is a great trick if you can pull it off, because then you can both be satisfied with quick encounters (like bathroom, etc).

 

[KeptINLine]

My boyfriend is a top, and he doesn't let me cum during sex. He says that a bottoms dick is useless, likes that I use a jockstrap so he doesn't see my cock, and when I'm not with a jockstrap, he likes me dick to be completely limp, and doesn't like me to masturbate or touch my cock. I like this, and want to know how can I satisfy him more and get more pleasure without ever touching my dick

Thanks for sharing! Your situation is very similar to mine. Ever since my husband first brought me to a hands free orgasm, we were both hooked. Fast forward several years and I am happily locked in chastity.

Cumming purely from receptive anal sex has several benefits for both partners. For the bottom, he becomes more willing to serve and please his Too. He begins to crave anal sex more than ever before. Because he's not distracted by the competing stimulation of his own cock, the sensations from anal sex become that much more intense. The Top's benefits are more obvious to the casual observer - quick and easy access to a hole without the added pressure of needing to make a partner cum. But chastity and orgasm denial is often just as enjoyable for the Top as the bottom.

My suggestion is - get fucked a few times in a row without touching your cock and without cunning. Don't masturbate in between. When your boyfriend is fucking you, think to yourself that you are completely dependent on his cock for pleasure, that his cock is the only cock that matters. Tell him that while he fucks you and tell him how good he makes you feel when he fucks you. Often, simply being pent up enough is the key to achieving a hands free orgasm.

Most Tops I've talked to love making a bottom cum like this and I expect your boyfriend will be no exception. If you find yourself unable to hold off on masturbating, then invest in a quality chastity device and give your boyfriend the key. Staying locked during sex is a great way to teach your body that it doesn't need to feel cock stimulation or even get an erection to feel good.

Keep at it and good luck!

 

[chicagobtm]

Woof! That is HOT what you described KeptINline! I want that exact thing with a Top who owns me.

 

[otkboy]

With or without a chastity device I like this kinky "bottoms don't get to cum" rule.

I always find it hot to see pictures/videos where the cock of the guy getting fucked is completely ignored and untouched. Either the bottom's cock is hard and he is very horny and frustrated or the bottom's cock is completely limp - either option is exciting as long as the bottom's cock does not get touched at all.

I think this rule is hot because the bottom not getting off exaggerates the difference between the experiences of the DOM (top) and the SUB (bottom). It shows that the bottom is focusing 100% on pleasing the top - not playing with his own cock.

To make the "bottoms don't get to cum" rule even more unequal, humiliating and humbling for the SUB I think it is hot if after the sex is over and the DOM (top) has enjoyed his wonderful orgasm(s) the two guys cuddle. Then during the cuddling the bottom boy thanks the man (top) very much for the sex and he talks at great length about how good the sex was EVEN THOUGH HE DID NOT GET TO CUM. The top man either continues to ignore the bottom boy's cock or perhaps the top man slowly edges and teases the bottom boy's cock a little - but he makes no effort to get the boy off and the boy very submissively does not ask to cum - he remains completely focused on the man's pleasure and on thanking the man for the sex.

On a related note, I think it is very kinky if the top man tells the bottom boy BEFORE THEY START TO HAVE SEX that the boy will not be allowed to cum DURING or AFTER the sex but if he really really wants to cum then he is allowed to very quickly jack off and cum BEFORE the sex starts. Thus, if the bottom boy decides that he wants to have an orgasm he must very quickly JO and squirt his cum as fast as possible - no wasting time doing it slowly. Then after the boy squirts his cum he will clean up his spunk and focus on giving the top man pleasure. The bottom boy might discover that it's not much fun getting ass fucked shortly after orgasm, so perhaps the next time he will decide to skip the offer of pre-sex JO and go without orgasm entirely.

If anyone is curious to try chastity you can buy some very inexpensive chastity devices on www.dhgate.com - but note that items are shipped from China so you must be prepared to wait two weeks to receive your device.

 

[osirisboi15]

haha, good boy! you should absolutely be wearing a chastity device. there's little reason for you to ever not be wearing one, honestly. the longer you go without getting to cum the more resigned you'll be to it and the stronger the urge to serve your man will be.

Thanks for sharing! Your situation is very similar to mine. Ever since my husband first brought me to a hands free orgasm, we were both hooked. Fast forward several years and I am happily locked in chastity.

Cumming purely from receptive anal sex has several benefits for both partners. For the bottom, he becomes more willing to serve and please his Too. He begins to crave anal sex more than ever before. Because he's not distracted by the competing stimulation of his own cock, the sensations from anal sex become that much more intense. The Top's benefits are more obvious to the casual observer - quick and easy access to a hole without the added pressure of needing to make a partner cum. But chastity and orgasm denial is often just as enjoyable for the Top as the bottom.

My suggestion is - get fucked a few times in a row without touching your cock and without cunning. Don't masturbate in between. When your boyfriend is fucking you, think to yourself that you are completely dependent on his cock for pleasure, that his cock is the only cock that matters. Tell him that while he fucks you and tell him how good he makes you feel when he fucks you. Often, simply being pent up enough is the key to achieving a hands free orgasm.

Most Tops I've talked to love making a bottom cum like this and I expect your boyfriend will be no exception. If you find yourself unable to hold off on masturbating, then invest in a quality chastity device and give your boyfriend the key. Staying locked during sex is a great way to teach your body that it doesn't need to feel cock stimulation or even get an erection to feel good.

Keep at it and good luck!

With or without a chastity device I like this kinky "bottoms don't get to cum" rule.

I always find it hot to see pictures/videos where the cock of the guy getting fucked is completely ignored and untouched. Either the bottom's cock is hard and he is very horny and frustrated or the bottom's cock is completely limp - either option is exciting as long as the bottom's cock does not get touched at all.

I think this rule is hot because the bottom not getting off exaggerates the difference between the experiences of the DOM (top) and the SUB (bottom). It shows that the bottom is focusing 100% on pleasing the top - not playing with his own cock.

To make the "bottoms don't get to cum" rule even more unequal, humiliating and humbling for the SUB I think it is hot if after the sex is over and the DOM (top) has enjoyed his wonderful orgasm(s) the two guys cuddle. Then during the cuddling the bottom boy thanks the man (top) very much for the sex and he talks at great length about how good the sex was EVEN THOUGH HE DID NOT GET TO CUM. The top man either continues to ignore the bottom boy's cock or perhaps the top man slowly edges and teases the bottom boy's cock a little - but he makes no effort to get the boy off and the boy very submissively does not ask to cum - he remains completely focused on the man's pleasure and on thanking the man for the sex.

On a related note, I think it is very kinky if the top man tells the bottom boy BEFORE THEY START TO HAVE SEX that the boy will not be allowed to cum DURING or AFTER the sex but if he really really wants to cum then he is allowed to very quickly jack off and cum BEFORE the sex starts. Thus, if the bottom boy decides that he wants to have an orgasm he must very quickly JO and squirt his cum as fast as possible - no wasting time doing it slowly. Then after the boy squirts his cum he will clean up his spunk and focus on giving the top man pleasure. The bottom boy might discover that it's not much fun getting ass fucked shortly after orgasm, so perhaps the next time he will decide to skip the offer of pre-sex JO and go without orgasm entirely.

If anyone is curious to try chastity you can buy some very inexpensive chastity devices on www.dhgate.com - but note that items are shipped from China so you must be prepared to wait two weeks to receive your device.

MMMM all this sounds good. Virgin ass here and would love for a great dom top to teach me to orgasm only with my ass

 

[Kamikaze]

I have my guy, who is verse, but is a sexy bottom, and when I top him he doesn't seem to ever get hard. Sometimes it seems like he enjoys it, but very rarely. He has told me that he just needs to practice so it's not too painful. Idk. When I bottom, I'm usually pretty hard the entire time, and I have loads of precum. I've never been able to cum handsfree, maybe a little, but it's a little difficult, but my top guy likes to cum inside me first, and then I cum on his chest while I'm riding him after... it's even better when he strokes me to orgasm, either way such an intense orgasm. I want my other guy to experience that, but maybe some guys are just not into anal... He likes when I rim him though. lol

 

[mascent]

Some guys are hard wired to cum hands free from prostate stimulation but unfortunately many are not. You will need to re-train your mind and body to cum this way. You must complete stop masturbating by using your dick. If you don't have the will power for this, get a chastity device. You must also stop thinking about using your dick to cum and only think about cumming from prostate stimulation. When you are getting fucked or anally masturbating, relax as much as possible and focus on totally submitting yourself to your top and the pleasure that comes from it. Abstaining from using your dick to cum and re-focusing your mind on how you cum are key. With your body's need to ejaculate and how horny you will become from abstaining from normal masturbation, you will eventually ejaculate hands free.
It took me 3 weeks of abstaining before I had my first hands free orgasm. I was off the charts horny and when I came it just started flowing out what seemed like for ever. It was incredibly intense and completely different from an orgasm from dick stimulation. From then on, this is my preferred way to have an orgasm. In fact for the next year and a half it was the only way I would cum.
I think your boyfriend would enjoy making you cum by using his dick on you. I know you will like cumming hands free.

 

[ithinkimgay]

With or without a chastity device I like this kinky "bottoms don't get to cum" rule.

I always find it hot to see pictures/videos where the cock of the guy getting fucked is completely ignored and untouched. Either the bottom's cock is hard and he is very horny and frustrated or the bottom's cock is completely limp - either option is exciting as long as the bottom's cock does not get touched at all.

I think this rule is hot because the bottom not getting off exaggerates the difference between the experiences of the DOM (top) and the SUB (bottom). It shows that the bottom is focusing 100% on pleasing the top - not playing with his own cock.

To make the "bottoms don't get to cum" rule even more unequal, humiliating and humbling for the SUB I think it is hot if after the sex is over and the DOM (top) has enjoyed his wonderful orgasm(s) the two guys cuddle. Then during the cuddling the bottom boy thanks the man (top) very much for the sex and he talks at great length about how good the sex was EVEN THOUGH HE DID NOT GET TO CUM. The top man either continues to ignore the bottom boy's cock or perhaps the top man slowly edges and teases the bottom boy's cock a little - but he makes no effort to get the boy off and the boy very submissively does not ask to cum - he remains completely focused on the man's pleasure and on thanking the man for the sex.

On a related note, I think it is very kinky if the top man tells the bottom boy BEFORE THEY START TO HAVE SEX that the boy will not be allowed to cum DURING or AFTER the sex but if he really really wants to cum then he is allowed to very quickly jack off and cum BEFORE the sex starts. Thus, if the bottom boy decides that he wants to have an orgasm he must very quickly JO and squirt his cum as fast as possible - no wasting time doing it slowly. Then after the boy squirts his cum he will clean up his spunk and focus on giving the top man pleasure. The bottom boy might discover that it's not much fun getting ass fucked shortly after orgasm, so perhaps the next time he will decide to skip the offer of pre-sex JO and go without orgasm entirely.

If anyone is curious to try chastity you can buy some very inexpensive chastity devices on www.dhgate.com - but note that items are shipped from China so you must be prepared to wait two weeks to receive your device.

It's also hot to REQUIRE the bottom jack off in the shower beforehand, where the top isn't forced to see him enjoy it. Then he'll be limp and won't enjoy the sex as much, which helps drive home his position.

 

[jlubber69]

I'm totally OK with not cuming. I only want to make my partner cum and take it anyway he wants me to. I have a hard time getting hard when I'm sucking a man. I just don't care about my own pleasure. I get pleasure from him fucking my mouth and cumming on my face or down my throat. It's his hands on the back of my head that gets me off and the taste of his sperm and the smell and the feel of it. It's the whole experience of being used.[video]https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B5-YzyUijrMyLThPWU1ySzVzSFU/view?usp=sharing[/video]

 

[KeptINLine]

The latest Jason Spark Live vid with Jakob Johnson and Zack Grayson features this. The bottom keeps his jock on the entire scene so that we never even see his cock, and he does not cum at the end of the scene. This is rare in mainstream porn, and I get so turned on whenever I find a scene where the bottom not only doesn't cum, but makes no effort to stimulate his own cock at all. Does anyone have any good porn or scene recommendations to find this?

 

[netgayone]

Try an over the counter lidocaine cream on your dick. You will still get erections but you won't feel stimulation on your dick. You will focus on your hole this way. What your bf will love is that you won't feel any spams so your hole will open and stay open

 

[Dombottom]

Is anyone else turned on by porn scenes where the top fucks the bottom and cums in or on him and the scene ends with the top and bottom kissing or relaxing together without ever seeing the bottom cum?

Or is anyone else into this in their personal life? Tops - do you care if your bottom cums or not? Or do you even want him to cum? What about the bottoms out there? How do you like to get off, or do you even need to cum if you've had sex with a really great top?

It's like everytime I read this forum I read sumthin I thought I was the only one thinking it, lol.
I'm a total bottom and frankly I don't want my top worrying himself about whether I cum or not. I'm there to drain him. If I wanna rub one out later I will, but while I'm servicing him, I'm the to suck, be fucked, and swallow every drop I can get out of him. So, I'm not worried about cumming, don't want him worrying about it either.

 

[miatajeff]

What an awesome thread!
I have three different takes on this.

1. Yes I love to watch porn where a cute bottom is used as a sex toy for the sole purpose of satisfying the top(s), Drown the slut in jizz. Maybe a little cbt just to make sure he can't cum even if he wanted to. But in real life...

2. I really really want to find a cute guy to, "own", have him submit to my control. Edge him for hours in bondage, control his body and when he cums. I especially love to watch his well used hole quiver while he cums.

3. One of my favorite things in sex is when a cute guy is riding me hard and he cums all over me when I am inside him. But the bitch better keep riding until I'm done! (just kidding--maybe)

Sigh, can anyone find me a sweet cute little bitch boy?

 

[Matt77]

I'm both, I really love getting fucked, but I also love to be a top. I love when a guy cums in my ass when he fucks me. Just knowing that his hot cum is deep in my asshole is so hot. And there's nothing like jacking off while getting fucked. I love to cum while a guy is fucking me in the ass. It's amazing.

 

[Shelby29]

What an awesome thread!
Sigh, can anyone find me a sweet cute little bitch boy?

I'd LOVE to find a hot, sweet, cute little bitch boy, too.

 

[IceColdLover]

I can be a little slut when I want to be. As for the question, I have watched several videos where only the tops cum. I myself don't cum during sex but have been given loads of it.

 

[paulad39uk]

That's how I think, even though I top and bottom equally. When I fuck a guy, I want him hard, and when he fucks me, I'm hard. The whole idea of satisfying only one guy isn't a turn-on for me. That's too control&domination role-playing to seem very erotic.

I want everybody's jizz spewing.

Same here I'm versatile and ensure that everyone gets off. I'm sorry if some self centred guy fucked me solely for his own pleasure, murder could be committed.

 

[ryanboy]

I prefer not to cum when I'm being fucked. I love to see my top getting pleasure from using me. As a matter of fact I never met a top who even cared if I got off. Most drop their loads and leave. A very few hang around to get at my hole a second and third time. Some have thrown me out of their homes after they've unloaded. It's all good.

 

[MrAss]

Im a complete slutty bottom but i love to cum while being fucked my sexual enjoyment is just as important as my top if i cum first he can keep pounding me till he cums.