Tops who suck dick are such a turn off

[Isurudeboy]

How is that an exception? And if sticking the dick directly into the mouth is the exception just what exactly are you doing to it?

Using teeth to control is the exception.
Most dick suckers are scared to bite because
when they do they are met with a slap from their top.

The teeth exception only works if the Top is tied up.

 

[asu1117]

What's with the desperation to force heterosexual labels onto homosexual sex?

 

[fetaby]

Using teeth to control is the exception.
Most dick suckers are scared to bite because
when they do they are met with a slap from their top.

The teeth exception only works if the Top is tied up.

The possibility that a cocksucker could bite your dick off at any point and submitting to that risk is not the exception... the only exception is if he didn't have teeth, and you shouldn't be doing that with your grandpa anyway, or he's been on some hard drugs and his teeth have been corroded away, and if you're messing with that you're nasty...

 

[sixthson]

I'm feeling conflicted now. Being versatile, I can bend over and take it like a man. But...if I get my mouth fucked, I'm a chick? Uff da!

 

[NineOfClubs]

Gotta chime in that I love the whole "feel the teeth" thing when being sucked. Unfortunately, almost no one does that.

 

[NineOfClubs]

How?

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Exactly, how?

My experience talking with straight guys tells me that few women are into giving BJ's.

 

[WIZZARD101]

isurudeboy: man your attitude is the thing that sucks here. as gay men we have tried to get past the stupid "who is hte man" thing and show that mutual pleasure is what love making is about. If you just want to fuck someone go get a hooker and have her tell you what a stud you are. I will take a man that knows how to please another man with all of his body.

 

[rareboy]

I've just realized.

Isurudeboy is the return of JustLove.

I want to personally apologize to any who feel the regulars are destroying the boards by acting like the cool kids and not embracing the newbies like Isurudeboy who have apparently been created to breathe life into a moribund forum in 2011.

Can we all start using sis, gorl, niece, mandingo and fagg too in order to liven up the language?

So Isurude gorl, all us 'faggs' apologize for not understanding that truly, bottoms should only be bitches and that sis's like you only should give up what I would assume you must call your 'manpussy' to a guy that never touches your, let's say, 'boyclit'.

 

[Andrewm]

But you see top penis is never bottom opinions everyone sex subjective why can't we all just get along one up our ass troll is troll assumed but hotlinking is femininity to moderate true man solipsistic ass winks submit how dare!

 

[jaysizzles]

Tops who don't like their dicks sucked are such turn off

Agreed! But, I'll add "to me" to that quote.

Everyone has their preferences when it comes to sex and roles...for me I prefer a versatile guy and prefer a partner that does not specifically identify with a gender or gender role. I could get past/deal with a guy who won't do anal...but mutual cock sucking is a prerequisite. That works for me.

However...I can fully understand how some gay/bi men may be turned off/on by a more male/female role or perhaps a stricter top/bottom role is a better way of phrasing it.

So...I won't admonish them; I'll respect their right to enjoy their sex lives as they choose, just as long as they respect mine in turn. Besides...a strict top that won't suck cock ain't going to be with me...and a strict bottom that won't let me suck them off ain't either. So, whatever they do is not my concern.

 

[Spiff]

Everyone is entitled to their preferences. But I think tops who do not reciprocate in any way are such a turn-off and selfish. If I wanted that, I would get a gay-for-pay or just a confused straight guy, which is not really gay. And if you are into guys who are not really gay, then you are posting at the wrong forum.

Tops can be very hot and dominating and still suck dick. If you do not agree, then you need to get out and explore more.

 

[Charmander]

I've been with a guy that insisted on no BJ for bottoms, even if I wasn't topping, and this sloppy bitch that insisted he was the least gay guy he knew, even though my gaydar was pinging badly.

I think there is some kind of inferiority complex going on if you are hung up on whether someone sucks dick.

 

[ncguy7]

First, those gifs are annoying as hell.

Second, I find this topic very interesting despite the drama and BS that has accompanied it.

My thoughts:

I see -- and live -- both sides of this debate. Ultimately, I'm versatile. I like to suck. I like to get sucked. I like to fuck. I like to get fucked.

Here's the twist: Typically speaking in any given sexual encounter, I tend to like to either being the cocksucker/bottom or being the top who gets sucked but doesn't suck back.

There is a certain turn-on to me to fuck a guy's face and his ass without ever sucking his dick. And there's a certain turn-on to me to be face fucked and ass fucked without ever having my cock sucked. Generally speaking, *flipping* at any given encounter is a bit distracting to me. Once I'm sucking, I want to concentrate on that. Once I'm getting sucked, I don't want it to stop and I'm not particularly interested in having cock in my mouth at that time.

I actually saw a guy for four years or so who never once sucked my cock. And yet I'd sometimes spend two hours or more with his cock in my mouth. Don't ask me to explain it, but it was a turn-on for both of us. I REALLY WANTED him to suck my cock, but his refusal left me with nowhere to put my sexual energy except into sucking his and being a good bottom at fucking time.

I'd get extremely aroused when he push my head down on his cock, knowing he was never going to return the favor, and there he was taking that pleasure anyway.

I also use to see this twink-ish bottom, and now as I recall, I never once put his cock in my mouth. We kissed. I ate his ass. He sucked me and I fucked him. And we both loved it.

I'm currently seeing another guy who does not suck dick. ... He's openly said it's very erotic to him to be sucked without sucking back. And that's what we do. For hours. He's not an asshole about it. He doesn't call me names, belittle me or anything like that. But he openly admits it's a huge turn-on for him when I hang my head off the bed and he fucks my throat, full well knowing he's not going to suck my cock. And that arouses me to no end.

Now to completely muddy the waters ... with the right guy, I love a totally mutual encounter. Lots of kissing. Lots of body contact. Lots of mutual back-and-forth cocksucking. It's wonderful. Blissfully wonderful. I think you build a deeper connection -- sexually and otherwise -- that way.


So I've really done it all with different guys. The total top who doesn't even suck the partner's dick. The versatile guy who switches back and forth. The total bottom who never even gets his dick sucked.


And all were erotic, each in their own unique way. It just really depended on the energy, the other guy and hell, maybe what phase the moon was in.

 

[ncguy7]

Adding on to what I wrote above -- I also have the same mixed feelings about threeways.

I find a two strict tops / one strict bottom scene to be extremely hot, where the two tops both get sucked and both fuck the bottom while the bottom doesn't even get his cock sucked. There's huge erotic energy to that.

Conversely, lots of mutual sucking and flipping also is very hot, in very different way.

So again, I fall on both sides of this, depending on the guys involved and the sexual energy at that given moment.

And I guess to sum up and address the original question: Broadly speaking, it does not diminish the top to suck dick, at least in my mind. But at any given encounter, there can be a certain point where I've entered a *zone* where yes, it does actual disappoint me when a top disrupts the flow of the energy to suck my dick. If you've got me to the point where I'm totally jazzed up sucking your cock and getting fucked, let's just keep it there. At that point, I'll actually enjoy it more if I'm totally servicing the top. I do lose some interest in the top at that particular moment he breaks the flow by sucking me. Because if he sucks me for more than a minute, I don't want him to stop and I don't particularly want to go back to his dick anymore.

But I'd never question a top's *credentials* in general for sucking cock. And it's very hot to be sucked by a top if that's where the energy's been from the start of the encounter.

I hope all this makes any sense to you guys! Sometimes, it doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me.

 

[rareboy]

But I'd never question a top's *credentials* in general for sucking cock. And it's very hot to be sucked by a top if that's where the energy's been from the start of the encounter.

And therein is the crux of the matter.

The subject of the thread was not whether people prefer to have their ass drilled without any oral attention from the guy fucking them.

The argumentative nature of the thread was built upon the ugly little premise that tops who suck cock are somehow inferior in some way to those who don't.

And that is just stupid, bent and erroneous thinking.

 

[ncguy7]

And therein is the crux of the matter.

The subject of the thread was not whether people prefer to have their ass drilled without any oral attention from the guy fucking them.

The argumentative nature of the thread was built upon the ugly little premise that tops who suck cock are somehow inferior in some way to those who don't.

And that is just stupid, bent and erroneous thinking.

I agree with you.

And now, in one of the many contradictions of my life, I'm about to go meet with a guy who wants me to suck him for a couple hours and then let him fuck me, and he's not going to suck my dick for even a minute. LOL.

 

[rareboy]

I love this thread. lol

Bitch, if you're going to fuck me then you better get on your knees and suck dick.

And you better get ready to get fucked too.

I'm not anyone's whore.

...and now you have us all hot and bothered.

 

[FanofFiction]

My husband doesn't get to fuck me, but I love to suck him off. So I'm a top that sucks dick and that seems to be working just fine for my guy.

 

[Alan]

"Tops who suck dicks are such a turn off"

This thread has gone to over five pages now so I really can't be arsed to read all the posts at the moment......

I'll just say that if someone is topping me they had better get me in the mood with some kissing, nipple play, dick sucking, ball licking, plenty of rimming. I will reciprocrate of course.

Then my arse is ready for penetrating.
Tops who don't suck dick are a turn off in my opinion.
And a genuine top will be focused on pleasing the bottom.

 

[diamondstar]

I'd like to qualify that by saying that a genuine good lover, regardless of role, will be focused on pleasing his or her partner.

This is a five star comment y'all