For me, the biggest jump going from dildo to dick wasn't ANYTHING to do with size or firmness or texture or anything....
What you can't anticipate at all is the fact that with a man, HE will be getting pleasure too.
sounds like its obvious, but when you hear him moaning and saying how tight you are and how good you are making him feel, you realize that its just a different thing altogether. when you are dildoing yourself, you can imagine a guy, but he is just not real; its just you and a toy. you sort of have in mind this generic bag of meat. but the moment he slides in your asshole and you understand that YOU are being used like a toy, and the another man is taking pleasure from your tight naughty boy hole....that is a feeling.
With a dildo, you control the pace, depth, angle. whatever feels good to you. and this is NOT a post about "I LET ME MEN DO WHATEVER THEY WANT NO MATTER HOW MUCH IT HURTS" etc..... but at some point with a man, he is going to find something that feels REALLY good and start moving in a way that you can't anticipate. good tops listen and adapt to their bottoms, but when you are getting fucked, YOU have to adapt to another man, and truthfully, you're adapting to another man that is in a much more dominant position than you. you are NOT in control as a bottom. That is part of the excitement. with a dildo, you cannot be surprised, but with a man, you need to accept that no matter how good and gentle he is, you are his fuck doll.
You've hit the nail on the head, about the magic of experiencing a real dick. A real, flesh and blood dick, attached to a man.
With a
Dildo you're in control and you only feel whatever you do to yourself. With a man, he's fucking you, he's in control, and he's going to keep fucking you until he's done. With a
Dildo there's always that sense of finishing when you're done: "okay, that's enough, I'm satisfied". But with a man, he decides. Within reason - we all know we could tap out, but who wants to be a quitter and spoil the moment? When we've done all that preparation and work that gets us to that moment of having a hard dick in our ass, the right thing to do is to see it through. A little bit of pain or discomfort? Absorb it, let it make you stronger.
Even in positions that give me some control, there's still that feeling of submitting to being fucked, feeling the changes of speed, depth, angle, that he chooses to give you. There's the beautiful feeling of knowing that he's enjoying your body, he's inside you enjoying the feeling of his dick encased and pleasured because you're willing and able to give it to him.
I love the anticipation in the build-up to being fucked by a real dick. When you're finally in a room (or forest clearing, or wherever), alone with a hard dick, there's one inevitable outcome - he's going to fuck you, and he's going to keep fucking you until he's done and satisfied. All that preparation, lead-up, courtship or pursuit or however you agreed to get to that moment - the magic moment is now. Feeling his hard shaft press against your hole, and you relax and allow him to slide in and you feel yourself stretch and accommodate his manhood, that's the ultimate excitement and relief.
Everyone who has tried a
Dildo and loved it should go the next step and try the real thing.
