Trouble At Urinals :(

[jstusbys]

Ok so i find this quite embarrassing to talk about.
I cant use urinals when others are around, i just seize up and it doesn't come out! If i go into a toilet and am alone its ok if someone walks in i am ok, but if i enter and there are others i don't even try because i know nothing will happen so i have to go into the stall. Im sorta getting to the point where i just avoid public toilets all together unless i know it'll be empty which is frustrating because then i have to hold on and it can be quite painful when im busting. I really don't know what to do!!! Im not afraid of being seen by guys infact im proud of my junk and so it must all be in my head, ive tried distracting my mind by counting or thinking of complicated things but it doesn't seem to help.

Can someone please help me!

 

[kallipolis]

This revelation of shyness, or fear of being identified as gay will eventually disappear as you grow more secure with your sexual orientation.

It is nothing to worry over, and is in reality a fairly common condition born out of your fears.

Restrict your consumption of liquids when you know that you are going to be away from a convenient toilet where your shyness, and fears are not a matter of concern for you.

Many in your circumstances merely close their eyes when arriving at the urinal, enabling them not to be distracted by others urinating at adjoining cubicles.

 

[Seasoned]

I'm 65 and I'm still piss shy. I once had to go for a physical for the draft ( thank god I didn't get called). Knowing that I had to leave a sample, I held it all night until I got there. I had so much i actually filled another guy's cup because he couldn't go The only way I can do it is if I really have to go and I have to count, really slow. I usually opt for the stall. I guess some of us are just piss shy.

BTW, I have an adult son who lives with me and whom I believe is straight although he has Asperger's Syndrome and has never dated. I don't believe he has ever used a public restroom after he was old enough to use one by himself.

 

[jstusbys]

i dont have any probs with being gay or people knowing i am, i would just like to be able to get over this problem and be able to use them, its so much more convenient.
also reducing what i drink is sometimes not possible.

 

[kallipolis]

i dont have any probs with being gay or people knowing i am, i would just like to be able to get over this problem and be able to use them, its so much more convenient.
also reducing what i drink is sometimes not possible.

We are discussing cause, and effect.

The causation of shyness in relation to a gay man visiting a public toilet is rooted in his need not to be distracted by those urinating at nearby urinals.

It is a very common condition for a reserved, gay man not to want to be distracted by other men urinating at adjoining urinals, and as a result not to be able to urinate, or urinate with little or no pressure resulting in a very slow, or partial discharge of urine. This is part and parcel of an anxiety syndrome that is triggered by the very circumstances of being in a public toilet with other men who are urinating.

It is always possible to restrict what we drink when we know that our programme for the day ahead entails being away from our home toilet, or not having access to a private toilet at our work place.

That you have accepted that you are experiencing this condition, is in itself a recognition of your need to be much less anxious, when entering a public toilet. This takes time and is part of the human need to better know our self, and then to make changes that will enable us to surmount our daily challenges.

Next time you visit a public toilet close your eyes, while attempting to urinate and imagine a running stream of water flowing into the yonder distance. Focus only, on the running water. Let that stream of water dominate your mind's eye during your visit.

 

[HornyHenry]

I had a similar problem as a kid and teenager due to being harassed by classmates in the school boys room one week when I was in fifth grade. Many men become pee-shy due to harassment or assaults as kids or teenagers while trying to urinate. Some of us are fortunate to outgrow it while others cant.
It can also adversely affect a man's sex life.

 

[godson112]

This revelation of shyness, or fear of being identified as gay will eventually disappear as you grow more secure with your sexual orientation.

It is nothing to worry over, and is in reality a fairly common condition born out of your fears.

Restrict your consumption of liquids when you know that you are going to be away from a convenient toilet where your shyness, and fears are not a matter of concern for you.

Many in your circumstances merely close their eyes when arriving at the urinal, enabling them not to be distracted by others urinating at adjoining cubicles.

Where did he say it was because he was gay?

Pee shyness is a really common thing among all types of men. Loads of people I know have it. I have it. I can't use urinals unless the wee comes out before anybody else arrives. Otherwise I wait to use the cubicle. I don't think there is a way to get over it I don't think. If you find one, let me know lol

 

[paatreides]

I don't believe this condition has anything to do with sexual orientation. It has to do with feeling vulnerable... I can't get a stream started if someone is at the next urinal unless I can't hold it any longer. If it's started and someone walks in, I'm usually okay - but it will halt for a split second. If there is a guy there when I walk in, I will either leave and come back or I'll go into a stall.
I just don't like being exposed like that - back to the room with my cock in my hand. Personally, it scares the hell out of me - like some guy will walk in and shoot me, punch me, or whatever. And what could you do???
So, for me anyway, it's a matter of vulnerability.

 

[Lefty]

Hard as it is to believe, I was picked on a bit as a child.

This led to insecurities and they included public urinals.

My macho cousin taught me to get past several of my

'hesitations'.including Shy Bladder Syndrome. He drug me

off to the stand alongs and said I was being Stupid. (you

need to know, I idolized this boy)"We aren't leaving here 'til

you piss... period and I'm watching.""" Holy Fuck talk about

a drought."""Now close your eyes and then imagine you're

pissing on XXXXX ''''a disliked protagonist''''...now Squirt squirt.."

Problem solved...and it even works today...now I drown a lot

of politicians.

 

[jknightuk]

Oh crikey...

I'm 38, and about to embarrass myself here too, jstusbys.

In all my years on this world, I have only used the urinals a few times. I absolutely hate using them as I find it extremely uncomfortable. Not because I get turned on by the other men either! Quite the opposite. For me, it's nerves that cause it.

I have only recently been able to start using them after putting myself through a routine of self-confidence checks.

Here's a sort of idea how I do it:

Don't think of it as the men are staring at your package.. ok? They are probably just curious as to who has just walked in. Once they've glanced, checked out who's walked in they are more than likely just to get back to doing their... well.. you know.

Don't even think about packages! LOL. In all honesty, if you think of other things (even thinking about lyrics to a song you know well works!) then you're more than likely to be able to.. erm.. pee! ok?

Good luck.