True or False about Bi Guys

[kevbo]

More often than not, that's the case

 

[crzyrazn]

I used to think that bisexual guys got an unfair bad rap, but from what I read on these boards the consensus would indicate it's true. But that's heresy, and I've never experienced one (bi dude) myself. Not to say that there aren't bisexuals out there who know what the they want, and aren't afraid to live the life of a confident bisexual. They're just rare.

 

[Narcissism is fun]

Maybe, but don't try to tell me that some people in the gay or straight community don't pull that stuff too.

 

[crzyrazn]

Maybe, but don't try to tell me that some people in the gay or straight community don't pull that stuff too.

TRUTH!

Wait...how would this apply to straight guys? They only date girls anyway.

 

[morgaes]

I think some use it as a transition phase or something to "ease the blow" for themselves or their family but I'm certain that most bi guys just actually swing both ways.

It's hard to say something concrete about it because it's a personal preference and you can't tell someone that they like or dislike something,

 

[kevbo]

The trouble with bisexuality is the dichotomy of sexuality that everyone thinks of. Being a monogamous bisexual man, if I'm in a relationship with a guy, people will automatically assume that I'm gay, because I wont have sex with women. If I'm in a relationship with a girl, they assume I'm straight, because I wont have sex with men.

 

[Ram]

You all very well know someone will say something stupid about bisexuals and -- boom! -- this thread degenerates into Gay V.S. Bi boys in hot speedos, in a mud bath tub.

One truth maybe someone else's myth, and one myth someone's truth.

 

[Narcissism is fun]

Um... huh?

Straight people date people of the same sex so everyone thinks they're gay? I've never heard of that.

I knew someone was going to be awkward about it, you don't have to be *insert orientation here* to behave completely different from one relationship to the next.

 

[Alpha1851]

TRUTH!

Wait...how would this apply to straight guys? They only date girls anyway.

Narcissim, did you mean there are "straight" guys who have married women, had kids, pretend to be straight, yet they run off w/ their Craigslist boy toys on the weekends. And, there are "gay" men who have screwed around w/ chicks, and may still hop in bed w/ them every now and again, but they'll hide this fact and claim to be completely gay so as not to run off any other gay fellas that may be interested in them. Therefore, it's not just the bi population that's fake. That's the only way I could think of it in order for the statement to make sense. I can't imagine a hetero really pretending to be gay. There's nothing to gain from that. Or do you know some that do?

Do you guys think bi gals act/think the same way? Is a bi girl heading straight to lesbian land eventually?

 

[Narcissism is fun]

Narcissism, maybe you shouldn't have mentioned straight then in your response. You've been at JUB long enough to know that would probably be the only thing people noticed..

Meh, my bad, I'm still learning

The OP was about bi's treating both sexes different in a relationship, I was merely pointing out that anyone can do it.

 

[Alpha1851]

But I only have yet to find a fag that actually is a closet "straight" that secretly finds GILFS on craigslist, but maybe it is just hush, hush amongst the gay guys here, as closet bi guys would be around their straight world.

No, not a closet hetero, that person would be a closet bisexual. But that's just how I view bisexuality; how I define it. To me, if you can swing both ways AT ALL, you're bi. Realistically though, I'm all for self classification when it comes to sexuality. If you want to call yourself gay even though you fuck girls when guys aren't available, or you call yourself straight even though you fuck guys when girls aren't available, then okay.

I only personally know three bi guys (no gals) and those guys are completely bi. They are equal opportunity fuckers/daters, and are the biggest players I've ever met (and I love 'em). I realize not all bi folks are like that, and I don't care if these guys want to screw the whole world. To each his own. I don't know if they are "out" to their fam, but they are out to their friends.

JUB has a few posts in the bi section where the JUBBERS label themselves "gay" even though they are willing to sleep w/ girls and are sometimes turned on by them. Their reasoning (I think I remember…) was that they prefer sex w/ guys and will notice a guy more often than a girl. So, even though they enjoy sex w/ women from time to time, they still prefer cock and would only want a lasting relationship w/ a guy—thus they're gay. Now, in real life, I only know two "gay" fellas who are like that. One is partnered to a guy (they're both awesome guys), but he's also dated plenty of gals and he admits to enjoying sex w/ gals. He also watches straight porn sometimes (and straight porn sucks, so I totally don't get that!). He labels himself that way b/c he's partnered and in love w/, a guy—thus, he's gay. The other "gay" fella is a close friend who desires men more often than women, he seeks out men more often than women, but every now and then he feels this sudden need to slid his dick into a vagina. It sounds really funny when he explains it. Oh, and he still classes himself as gay and he usually hides that little tid bit of his life from other gay men. Now are these folks just closet bisexuals?

 

[Narcissism is fun]

^ Dont put words in my mouth, especially not convoluted idea's like that.

You can be gay/bi/straight and treat 2 consecutive partners in completely different ways. That's all I'm saying.

 

[Alpha1851]

^ Dont put words in my mouth, especially not convoluted idea's like that.

I wrote, "I think..." not "I know..." I'll edit if the time isn't up. If it is, I'll report it.

 

[kevbo]

Who cares with what people think at that point. It's not like it's your job to prove "hey look at me even though I'm a monogamous bi-guy, I can still fuck a guy on the side because I'm you know... bi."

Here is what I think, a lot of times Bi guys treat gay guys as weekend happy time, like instead of going out to the bars to see hot chicks pole dancing, he will easily pick up a guy to fuck the brains out. This has to do with how gay culture presents itself in general as non serious guys where stable relationship is not the norm, as it is with dating women.
So ,bi guys do not see an incentive in treating homo relationships as they do with women.

It's not just what others think... I get confused with myself. Just when I get interested in a guy, I think about what life would be like with a woman. When I get interested in a woman, I think about what life would be like with a man.

I can settle down with either sex, but I'll always be left wondering...