Trying an anal vibrator

[Teddybear71]

Hi guys!
I've been in a relationship for many years now, and my husband and I have gone a little off sex. I am usually the top in the relationship, and to spice things up a little again, I wanted to try having a vibrator inside me that he could control. I have seen in porn videos that a lot of guys use a little pink, rubbery thing (I am assuming that it is the Lovense Lush), but on other sites, I hear more men recommending the Lovense Hush Butt Plug. I must say that being a novice at anal, I feel more comfortable with the size of the Lush. I have tried anal/prostate massagers before, but found them uncomfortable (making me want to pee) and creating more pressure than pleasure, so I am therefore a little wary about the Hush.

At any rate, there seem to be so many conflicting recommendations out there. I realize that it's individual for each person what they enjoy, but does anyone have some experience with these products, and be able to share some much-needed insight?

A thousand thanks in advance, and many happy orgasms to all!

 

[KaraBulut]

The pink rubbery thing is often a Lovense Lush. It's popular with straight cam guys because it is small and integrates with the cam software so that fans can control the plug remotely by tipping.

The Hush Butt Plug is more popular with gay guys because it is much larger and more in keeping with the size of butt plugs. It's also about $125 and comes with a phone app. It's a pretty sizeable (no pun intended) investment for something that you might not enjoy if you haven't had good luck with prostate massagers and plugs.

There are some cheaper options and they are marketed as pelvic floor exercisers for women (e.g. "kegel exercise balls" or similar names).

A suggestion: think some about what it is that excites you about what your proposing for your relationship. Is it the butt plug? Or is it the role reversal and dom/control scenarios that you're proposing?

There's a lot of fun accessories to spice things up and indulge in mild BDSM play. You might look through a site like Fort Troff or AdamMale and see if there's other things that might indulge your fantasies and spice things up in your relationship. If you find that these things are fun and are turn-ons for both of you, then invest in the more expensive toys.

 

[Teddybear71]

Hi KaraBulut, and thanks for the advice! I will have a look around and see what looks interesting, although I do know that it is not the role reversal/control scenarios that is the prime motor here - it is more so that I have heard so many guys raving about prostate orgasms, and it is something that I am very eager to experience. Involving my husband in such a project might be a good way to get things spiced up again in the bedroom. He was the one who opened me up to the world of leather, so maybe I can be the one to open this new door for us.

Small might be the best option to start with, and then work my way up to the larger toys - bearing in mind that I probably shouldn't be too rough with a slightly enlarged prostate...

 

[darian]

Have a read through https://www.aneros.com/community/general-discussion/ about prostate massage and prostate orgasms, although it is more about generating solo prostate orgasms than integration into mutual activity (although it could be used as a mutual solo activity or part of couples activity).

 

[JSRD]

have you looked at the lovesense edge? i'm interested in getting that for my husband.

 

[cumlover91]

I bought the hush butt plug a few months ago and it's amazing. I use it almost every day because my friend loves to torment my ass lol.