Ugh...pissy bf

[purpilia25]

Okay, I just need to vent. I am currently in a "relationship", the first one with a guy, and I am seriously in love with him. Never been in love, not someone known to get attached but our realtionship has been amazing! The best part was, it wasn't just sexual, and we spent a lot of time together. The bad part is, I am American and he is not; he was in the country working legally this summer and then went back home...to Bulgaria!!!

So, because he is coming back next year, I am totally down to remain faithful and not do anything; he says he wont have a problem with that. So everything should be good right? We talk all the time on Skype and fb despite the time difference and things are good most of the time. But then sometimes he will just be like, "bye" and stop talking to me and be pissed off. I like to talk about my feelings all the time. I don't like to be angry. I wish he would just say, "Hey I don't wanna talk right now" and I would be fine. But I hate that he can take total control of communication and just disappear. Hate that I love him sooooo much!!!

Thanks for listening!!!

 

[G-Lexington]

Welcome to JUB!

Obvious Gargoyle has Obvious Suggestion. Next time you're Skyping or IMing, TELL HIM THIS. Don't wait for him to do it. Just say "I'd like to be able to sort of wind up our conversations, so if you'd like to go, let me know you're leaving, and let me say goodbye, OK?"

Lex

 

[hylas]

But then sometimes he will just be like, "bye" and stop talking to me and be pissed off.

let me get this straight... hes pissed off? why? youre not giving us the full story here, arent you?

 

[AlmondMilk]

Is him leaving the skype chat suddenly only a recent occurance? or has it been happening sporadically? Maybe he just doesn't realize that he should say bye or something since it's not physically face-to-face, but still, it's pretty rude. Hmm

 

[purpilia25]

I have asked him to give me the courtesy of a decent goodbye but the time difference doesn't give me the relief of an instant reply. he does it it seems every other day. We have a really good talk, and then he gets annoyed with me. I asked him why he is doing it and he just ignores me.

 

[BiMike]

It rather seems that the 'loving relationship' is only working one way . Very dificut in your sort of long distance relationship to really find out the other guys feelings. If you want to maintain the relationship until he returns next year I think you will just have to be patient and hope you can sort it all out face to face .

 

[maxpowr9]

Unrequited love is a bitch. That is half the joy/sadness with online communications. It takes a simple click to end it.

 

[KaraBulut]

In relationships, there are often the little things that people fight about to avoid the big fights.

The big fight here is the fact that he left you behind to return to his own country. You're in limbo emotionally and romantically. And you have no certainty for what the future holds.

So, you have a choice- you can fight these little fights over the small things. Or you can deal with the real issue- where is this going, should the two of you just break up, should you move to Bulgaria and is all of this worth trying to keep alive something that is largely in the past and has such an uncertain future?