The Original Gay Porn Community - Free Gay Movies and Photos, Gay Porn Site Reviews and Adult Gay Forums

  • Welcome To Just Us Boys - The World's Largest Gay Message Board Community

    In order to comply with recent US Supreme Court rulings regarding adult content, we will be making changes in the future to require that you log into your account to view adult content on the site.
    If you do not have an account, please register.
    REGISTER HERE - 100% FREE / We Will Never Sell Your Info

    PLEASE READ: To register, turn off your VPN (iPhone users- disable iCloud); you can re-enable the VPN after registration. You must maintain an active email address on your account: disposable email addresses cannot be used to register.

  • The Support & Advice forum is a no-flame zone.
    The members offering support and advice do so with the best intention. If you ask for advice, we don't require you to take the advice, but we do ask that you listen and give it consideration.

Um, I just came out to my family...!!!

T

TorontoBoi

On the Prowl
Joined
Jan 27, 2006
Posts
130
Reaction score
0
Points
0
I'm 24 and i just came out to my parents and older brother. I cant believe i actually did it, but it's been eating me up for so long that I just had to let it all out. They are quite traditional, but also have an open/somewhat liberal mind.

I did it with a letter - and i know some of you posters are really against that - but it actually was a really good idea now that all is said and done. I really had a chance to explain everything that was on my mind through writing...and they got a chance to read it all at once and swallow the news together as a family. We spoke together after they read it....

Obviously they are hurt that things turned out this way, but they told me that everything will be fine, that nothing will change, etc ,etc. So I guess that's a good start. But still, it's quite difficult. They new that something was really bothering me, and I think they were more concerned about my well-being than about my "secret".

Hopefully things will improve in the future...
 
Hi desks4567

I'm glad to hear things went relatively well with your family. Keep in mind as you had to deal with coming out they will be going through a similar process. It will take time but I'm sure life as a family will improve for everyone.

Congratulations
 
desks4567 - it went very well. believe me, you are doing fine. of course, there's a little period of adjustment for them, but you should be proud of them at this point. and be proud of yourself too.
ding
 
it's funny, my dad even started cursing out religion and society for being so intolerant...

but still, there was some crying along the way, I'm sure the topic is constantly on their minds, and that they feel confused and sad inside....
 
You are very brave, desks. Well done for taking that difficult step. Your family will adjust and love you just the same. :)
 
I'm happy for you man. That was a very brave thing you did. It was probably far harder for you to do than it was for them to receive the news. My heart goes out to you and I hope you feel a bit liberated. I would. well done man and wish you every happiness in the future. (*8*)
 
*hug* Well done, it's a hard thing to do. I'm coming out this year. I've decided it, and I'm not gonna go against my own decision. I used to do that, and I had no self discipline. I've got some now, and I can do it now.
 
Hey! Congratulations, Its a huge thing for anyone to have to do, you are really brave, it takes a lot of courage to take those steps.

I came out at 21, almost about a year from today, I remember the bad reaction I got from my aunt, she said it was nothing to be proud of, my nan and my mom were the most open about the whole thing, willing to talk it through...

I fell out with my dad about it, the arguments became so tense that I moved out, some horrid things were said that night, the next morning I moved out from home (after getting my mobility back) and stayed away for about 3 months, struggling to make ends meet, living from £50 per month to cover every mortal bill.

Even though all that happened it made me stronger, I'm closer to my family now, and they have adjusted better than I thought, especially my dad who's still on my side, and getting that from my dad is a huge thing - especially as he's so damn "macho" and always believed that gay people were very promiscuous etc lol

So its not always easy, trouble is trying to second-guess how others will react, I lived in fear of this for 7 years until in the end I got fed up with the "got a girlfriend yet?" questionning lol.

So good on you for making a brave leap like this, if I never made the leap I'd have never felt comfortable or confident enough in getting a boyfriend, but all that changed.

Good luck!

Happy new year everyone!(!) :kiss: ..|
 
Congratulations Desks! That was a very brave thing to do.

Sounds like your family is trying. Good luck!
 
Jacobim said:
*hug* Well done, it's a hard thing to do. I'm coming out this year. I've decided it, and I'm not gonna go against my own decision. I used to do that, and I had no self discipline. I've got some now, and I can do it now.
Click to expand...

I also set myself a "deadline" of sorts as to when I wanted to tell them. It gave me enough time to think about the best way to do it and gather the courage needed:-)

Thanks to all for your kind words. I wish you the best of luck as well!

And I must say this forum is great...
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top