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Unequal attractiveness in relationships

spencer said:
What's funny is I just went on a date with a guy last night, that is ton better looking than me. He was talking about how looks were once very important but those guys were just looks and he was our more for a connection. I'm thinking, did he just call me ugly? ;) lol, but really I'm thinking, thank God for good looking jerks :)

Oh and he called me after work today and asked me out for tomorrow to a movie. Yay me.
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sounds awesome spencer, give us another update when things progress.
 
I spent most of my life getting fit, but I did try picking up one hottie one night, and he totally shot me down - he told me that I was "anorexic" for his tastes, as he was a "chubby chaser"#-o
 
highland said:
sounds awesome spencer, give us another update when things progress.
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Here was the summary. Justin is a sweet heart. I talked to him on the phone today and paid him a compliment on how motivated he is and I haven't met someone as motivated as him in a long long time (he works over 70 hours a week as a manager in training). He said and I quote, "You've never dated anyone that was motivated? What kind of guys have you been dating?"

Woohoo, I think that was a dating insinuation ;) Lol, he actually called us hanging out dates to his mom and sister so I know he considers them dates. I hope it actually goes somewhere. And damn he's good looking. Even his profile, I could stare at him for hours :) A friend of a friend said he's pretty blessed too and my ass is scared, literally :eek:
 
andysayshi said:
I was in Splash in New York some years ago and this incredibly hot, built muscle dude came up and started chatting to me. After a while he said "You're a really sexy guy, Andrew", and I did my usual bashful laugh when I get a compliment, and I replied (trying to be charming in a self-deprecating way) "Well, you are really really hot! But you could have any guy in this room; how come you're talking to me?"

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You were apparently insecure, pal. But still better than I. If windfall like that befalls me, I might just give that hot dude a cold back like he totally sucks :(:(:(

Yeah, I'm superficial and loser. I crave yet am extremely jealous of hot, good-looking guys, and I act accordingly.

BTW, I feel the divine spirits of charity, generosity and compassion glow in this thread :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:
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so, i guess what everyone is saying is my singleness can be solely attributed to a lack in my character and/ or personality.

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>>>so, i guess what everyone is saying is my singleness can be solely attributed to a lack in my character and/ or personality.

Or, much more likely, lack of action.

Lex
 
G-Lexington said:
If you interviewed Hot Guy as to why he liked Ugly Guy, he almost certainly wouldn't say "I find his ugliness a turn-on" or "I can't do any better". He'd probably say "he makes me laugh" or "I feel a special bond with him" or "I can really be myself around him" or something similar. Their relationship almost certainly goes beyond the superficial at that point.

Lex
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That is a great, great point.

The guy I'm currently dating (we've been going out for almost a year and a half) he wasn't that physically attractive to me at first - but I enjoyed being around him so much - we became great friends first and then he became more physically attractive tp me
 
What would I say? I'd be glad that people are comfortable enough and happy enough to the point where they don't care about the shallow options of others.
 
>>>I'm kind of surprised at all the responses saying that a big heart and good personality is more important than looks. Why can't I meet a guy like that around here?


Did you skip over the parts where we pointed out that the attractiveness of hearts/personalities take time to grow?

Lex
 
Try walking up to a hot guy in a bar and telling him that you have been admiring his personality from across the room and see what happens;)
 
well .. i kinda quickly grow attached to a the looks of a guy.
but it takes a bit more time, to get really attached to a guy. to everything .. and if you are attached to all the rest - he is there to stay. if you like his personality, if you lust for him just to enjoy his presence, just to hear his voice, just to have him around you - then you are above the pyhsical attraction
 
Beauty is indeed subjective, but is possesses a certain kind of objectivity also. Our subjective feelings, our personal interpretation of beauty, often strains against the supposed objective definitions imposed by the shared social consciousness, how we are conditioned towards particular definitions of beauty. But even these definitions change over time. Its said that beauty lies in the eye of the beholder. I want to make an addition, to say that beauty is born, and is always being born, in the eye of that beholder. Good looks are to be enjoyed, but one cannot love an oil painting. The dick must be attached to its owner, not the reverse.
 
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