Unlucky/Unhappy To Be Gay...

[kevinsexh8]

Do You ever feel unucky to be gay??? I know growing up on my early teens I hated my self for being gay.I felt like out of all the people in the world,why couldn't I just have a normal life.I still kind of have these feelings,not as much though.Anyone else evr feel the same way at one time or another???

i feel the same way but when I'm with an amazing guy I fotgot everythin'

 

[Audio Tech]

Yeah, I can identify with that. But I have now after 45 years of life come to terms with it. While my life has been and will be "different", I will no longer regret it. I hated myself and cursed God for making me this way. But once I finally gave up and accepted myself, nothing else matters.

Read "My Story" in this thread.

And to think I waited THIS long.

It just is what it is. Embrace it.

 

[bokan800]

To the OP:

Can you tell me, what are the things that make you feel this way?

 

[Iniquity]

I've felt a bit unlucky sometimes when the thought comes across my mind that this could potentially make my life do a 180 if I ever get the courage to come out. But, for some reason, I've never really felt unhappy about it. It's just hard to suppress that happiness sometimes.

 

[Ragoris]

Yeah, when I was younger I hated myself and tried to force myself to like Women. But I couldn't, finally I just said screw it I don't care anymore and now I don't let it bother me . I'm only 19 and I don't want to spend anymore time pretending to be straight / being angry at myself for being gay. But when I was 13-17 I was horrible on myself, I think that was one of the reason I overate A LOT... and why I'm fat now, but I'm working on that... Still have a ways to go but I've dropped 60 lbs lol.

 

[spunk-junky]

Being gay (or bi, or lesbian) is sort of like being left-handed, or short, or blue-eyed, or bald, or having bad acne, or having dyslexia. Who knows why we get what we get? Believing God made you just the way you are (if you believe in God) doesn't offer much comfort either, if you ask me. Why do I suck at sports? To this day I still can't hit, bounce, catch or throw any type of ball. I am absolutely pathetic. I felt humiliated every single day in gym class. Thousands of times I wondered why I wasn't born with more coordination/skill at sports?!!! I still don't have an answer. That is just me. The very same thing goes for being gay. Who knows why I am gay? Why me? I don't know. That is just me. However, I do know that if I want to be happy, I have to accept myself the way I am, and so do you. I came out to family and friends in 2002 and it was the BEST thing I ever did for myself. I am infinitely happier than I was when I was trying to date women, the years I struggled to figure things out, when I was closeted and lived a double life dating men but pretending to everybody else I was straight. The process takes time, but you can, and will, eventually get here too.

 

[youngnihilist]

I dunno, I kind of like it. But I like being an underdog in general. The one who bucks the trends, who does something different. So being gay is just part of that image. Doing something that most people disapprove of and is still seen as revolutionary and taboo is kind of cool.

 

[rahulxxx]

i enjoy every moment of being gay !

 

[MindBlast]

I felt like that at first.

Now the only reason I feel unlucky is because there are less potential partners for me than if I were straight (ie: a much smaller percentage of the general population is suitable because I'm gay).

But then I meet awesome gay/bi guys, and think I'm the luckiest guy in the world.

 

[booyoshi]

i'm not so much unhappy with the fact that i'm gay.
my sexual preference really isn't a problem.
but it's the struggles that come along with it (i.e. - prejudices, dating, etc...)

 

[IllgetyouHackman]

Being gay (or bi, or lesbian) is sort of like being left-handed, or short, or blue-eyed, or bald, or having bad acne, or having dyslexia. Who knows why we get what we get? Believing God made you just the way you are (if you believe in God) doesn't offer much comfort either, if you ask me. Why do I suck at sports? To this day I still can't hit, bounce, catch or throw any type of ball. I am absolutely pathetic. I felt humiliated every single day in gym class. Thousands of times I wondered why I wasn't born with more coordination/skill at sports?!!! I still don't have an answer. That is just me. The very same thing goes for being gay. Who knows why I am gay? Why me? I don't know. That is just me. However, I do know that if I want to be happy, I have to accept myself the way I am, and so do you. I came out to family and friends in 2002 and it was the BEST thing I ever did for myself. I am infinitely happier than I was when I was trying to date women, the years I struggled to figure things out, when I was closeted and lived a double life dating men but pretending to everybody else I was straight. The process takes time, but you can, and will, eventually get here too.

It's okay Spunk, Chicago sports don't exactly supply a whole lot for us to aspire to!

 

[arekux25]

I used to be pretty unhappy, just always asking myself why I had to be this way, but as of lately i'm just going with it and exploring it. I can ask why as much as I want but it's not gonna change anything. I mean sometimes I still have those low points but I just pick myself up and move on. I've had a recent boost in my self confidence, specifically with guys, so that's certainly helped me a lot.

 

[G-Lexington]

It can be an obstacle. But pretty much anything can be an obstacle - being tall, being short, being good-looking, being ugly, being skinny, being fat, being male, being female. It's meant I perhaps had to work harder to find boyfriends and get into relationships, but I also think it means I earned the good one I got.

Lex