unprotected sex in a monogamous gay relationship?

[lookin4sum1icantrust]

Re: unprotected sex in a monogamous gay relationsh

I was also thinking about this the other night. I would be willing to have sex unprotected in a monogamous relationship, but I would have to make sure he get tested before we do anything each time. Even though guys can be sweet, they can also lie about things as well, and can't be trusted at times. Everything would have to go my way before committing to unprotected sex with my boyfriend/partner is a huge thing, cause of all the STD's out here.

 

[BabiGayPimp]

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I love the idea of being in love, but men can be such stank hoes honey. I'm not sure any of them can be trusted.

 

[bankside]

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You know I believe in a little adventure and even though I did, I don't expect people to remain virginal and chaste until they meet their one true love.

I suppose not every situation has to have the same level of trust. But it seems a little desperate to sleep with someone you can live with and say "i love you" to, but still not actually trust them.

what the hell. wait a bit, figure out the trust thing. if it never happens, move on. if you do get to a level of trust, then enjoy the guy completely...

 

[BabiGayPimp]

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so i'm assuming all straight couples in committed relationships fuck with condoms on regardless?

just sayin.

if you don't think you can trust them, don't fuck them. come on people.

it's acceptable to fuck everyone on the planet as long as i'm wearing a condom?

why do people forget to mention oral?

do all of you suck dick with condoms on, because that little delicious taste in your mouth that isn't gum or a condom... yeah, sperm cells are there too.

You're muddling things fellow. Unprotected anal sex, receptive or insertive, is infinitely more dangerous than oral sex, receptive or insertive, for reasons that are well understood.

It's not a bad idea to suggest that people consider use a barrier to make oral sex even safer, but its a terrible idea to equate the two activities.

Safeguarding your health really has more to do with your own hygienic, protective actions than trusting someone else to be an angel.

Do we wear seatbelts when we're riding the passenger seat alongside our lover? Of course we do. Because as much as we love them, we don't trust the four-eyed mutherfuckers to make ALL the right moves 100% of the time.

 

[LatinoSTAR]

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Whatever. i mean, if im with someone for a long period of time i wouldnt worry about protection. thtas just me tho..

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

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no idea about every guy on planet but fucking with condom and taking it up your asshole horrible

Maybe if whatever guys say on the internet they had all better start learning how to treat people more then the sum of their hot bits first and then go learn how to give great sex or whatever sex ( guys think it is to them )

 

[BabiGayPimp]

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I mean, the basis of any relationship is trust, and if you can't trust that your partner is not having unprotected sex behind your back, then perhaps it isn't a very stable or healthy relationship. What are your thoughts?

This is the sentinement that really gets my goat. Suggesting that protecting yourself and your partner from bugs known and unknown means that the relationship is not healty or stable. Demonstrating love means offering your body as a sacrificical lamb, on the altar of romance and disease?

And, we're not just talking about HIV. There are a whole lot of other things people pick up, casually, that you don't want up your butt. The mouth and the vagina are better protected from numerous nasties, because they are built to have objects inserted in them.

I just think gay men need to be more careful with our "ass-ets," even with our true loves. Especially with our true loves.

And why are men intent on having unprotected anal sex always asking for other people's opinions anyway? Is it because they know, deep down, it's an unwise thing to do.

 

[alley]

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Best post in the whole thread.

This is the sentinement that really gets my goat. Suggesting that protecting yourself and your partner from bugs known and unknown means that the relationship is not healty or stable. Demonstrating love means offering your body as a sacrificical lamb, on the altar of romance and disease?

And, we're not just talking about HIV. There are a whole lot of other things people pick up, casually, that you don't want up your butt. The mouth and the vagina are better protected from numerous nasties, because they are built to have objects inserted in them.

I just think gay men need to be more careful with our "ass-ets," even with our true loves. Especially with our true loves.

And why are men intent on having unprotected anal sex always asking for other people's opinions anyway? Is it because they know, deep down, it's an unwise thing to do.

 

[sb]

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I don't use condoms with my bf because we trust each other and it feels much better not using them.

What 2 people in a relationship decided to do is their business. Just because I am gay doesn't mean I have to sentenced to condoms for life, if this thread were called 'unprotected sex in a monogamous straight relationship' there wouldn't even be a discussion.

 

[BabiGayPimp]

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So therefore, a penis should never be inserted into an anus in the first place because it's not naturally designed for it. Do I have that right?

I'm saying your little asshole is a whole lot more delicate than your big mouth, and you should exercise care in determining what you put in it. I can eat chitlins because my voracious mouth and carnivorous throat are loaded with enzymes that KILL contaminants and break bacteria down.

I would never consider shoving chitlins up my butt because the same natural protections are are not down there!

And a dick is is a whole lot more dangerous than some well-cleaned and cooked chitlins.

Serve your body like a temple and it will serve you in return.

 

[BabiGayPimp]

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From what I read, he was saying it's not 'healthy' or stable to have a lapse in trust in your partner when it comes into a relationship. And it's correct, if you truly cannot trust your Partner in the relationship, then there is something wrong in the relationship.

I also find it funny that people are stereotyping in this thread, meh.

This is starting to feel like the "my brain on drugs" commercial. Once again (with feeling), a deadly virus seeking to perpetuate itself does not care about trust, or other romantic sentiments. It only cares about opportunities to infect.

We're confusing basic health and hygiene with romance and passion, and that's how a lot of people who thought their partners' were virtuous maidens got a great big "sorry, neither" when the lab results came. Oh well...

 

[Shepherd 2]

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I have read all 92 posts here, and I for one am glad for a frank and open discussion of unprotected sex even in a monogamous gay relationship. I am a clergyman and I am in a 22nd year of a monogamous convenanted relationship with my partner. One thing is certain, my fall from grace and violation of the trust of my partner is documented here in my blogs, and it is the one showing just now on my profile. I never intended to be unfaithful. I had only one slip, but I will always regret not remaining faithful to him. So far as I know he has never been unfaithful to me. We talked this through and reconciled and we again talk with confidence about our mutual trust.

Also we get ourselves tested at least once annually, and there are no secrets about the report, for we openly look at them together. Yes we do use condoms for those sexual acts that could infect the other person. This decision must be made in my opinion by the couple together. It may differ for some of us.

So there is no easy answer to this thread, and it does not depend upon intent, but the reality of what happens.

Shep+

 

[Ninja108]

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back and forth it goes. For the record, me and my bf don't use condoms