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LemonMonk

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I regularly go to gay bars, LGBT meetings where often I'll pick up a guy and will sleep with him. Only problem is that I seem incapable to get an erection with a guy. I have limited experience with women also, I do not know if my sexuality is the issue, or if I am incapable of an erection out of a condition.

I like to please a man, make him feel special, hear and see him having a good time, I like to be gratified afterwards, just as "You're amazing" or arranging another meet up.

Whatever sexuality I am, I do not mind particularly, I enjoy what I am doing, the others do also. It would just be nice to give it [my sexuality] a name.

I'm very open to saying anything here, if you want more info to try to help me out, or whatever.

Thanks
 
The erection is a very complicated and often overcomplicated matter. Unability to get an erection can have dozens of reasons, both physical and psychological or a mix of it.

Do you only have problems with your erection when you are with guys or also with girls or while masturbating?
 
Less than half of the time I have difficulty trying to get erect for masturbation. I have no idea how common/uncommon that would be.
It might be because I'm quite picky with porn, only certain things seem to turn me on in porn, BDSM, public that sort of thing.
I do have a slightly smaller than average penis, in the past I was quite determined not to show it off out of embarrassment, maybe that has something to do with it, I don't know.
 
It's best to rule out a physical issue first. See a doctor and have a complete physical. If nothing is wrong there the next step might be therapy to help sort things out. In the meantime stop masturbating in between dates and see if that helps.
 
http://www.justusboys.com/forum/threads/388150-Fantasies-erections-or-both
^ This links with the other, made this when I put it in the wrong section.

As said in other thread, which is slightly different. In the presence of a woman I can get an erection, I am able to perform, maybe not well they'd be a better judge than I there. With men I am possibly the opposite, I know I'm great with guys, it is just how my member doesn't rise to the occasion.

I'll heed the advice from both topics, in regards to Loveguys72, I see your point. I thought myself as Bi for a while, the whole erection thing, just keeping me unsure. To reply to your questions: I've never been in a relationship with a man. Closest to it was friends with benefits. Oddly [or maybe it isn't odd] when I think about men on my own, certain men, doing certain things I do get off. I am able to think about the acts I do and get off remembering what took place. Just at the time my penis isn't interested.

As for your advice Seasoned, I'd love to see a professional about this. I have seen my ex-GP about my penis before, asking about erectile dysfunction. He was unable to confirm/deny I had it, but did give me a medication, which I use and so far hasn't helped. Perhaps, not a cure but way to get around this would be to take Viagra.

Thanks again. I'll post here with an update, hopefully a positive one whenever this is sorted.
 
Were all potential physical problems ruled out?
 
I agree with Seasoned, if you also have problems to get an erection for masturbation you should rule out physical reasons first.
 
LemonMonk said:
Less than half of the time I have difficulty trying to get erect for masturbation.
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How old are you? And have you always had problems with this? Are you taking any medications such as anti depressants?

You definitely have a problem if this has been going on long term, and you can only get an erection for masturbation around half the time. I say this because if you've always had this condition you might be thinking this is normal and how it is for other guys, it isn't im afraid. In the past 20 odd years of wanking i've had problems getting it up about 10 times, and on those 10 occasions I was extremely drunk or had taken something I shouldn't have.

Get a new doctor if your current one isn't helping, but make a fuss and insist this gets looked into so they can find out whats causing this whether it be physiological or psychological.

Best of luck xx
 
Well that comes as a surprise to me somewhat. I've been thinking all this time it was normal! I do use rare medication, they might act as anti-depressants. These drugs are important to me being alive [as I have a rare condition] so they can't be removed from my life. I'm 19, only recently came out to my family... just over 3 months ago now. I'll book an appointment with the doc, I have a new one now as I moved a long way, meaning I needed a new GP.

Thanks for all the help you guys.
 
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