Very confused...of course

[christophevans22]

First time post, but feel as though this is a good place to go to.

So I have been straight my whole life, I am attracted to women love pussy and all that but I am also very into men. Last year I thought I was full blown gay because I was attracted to men. I met up with a guy and hooked up with him, blowjobs were as far as we went. It really was an amazing experience, i just loved the feeling of being sexual with another guy, i loved the feeling of a cock in my mouth and pleasing a guy. I also love having something in my ass and the orgasm is truly incomparable to anything else, when you have something in your ass that is. I never thought I could ever love a man though. However recently I am starting to think that could be a possibility. Men are just so different, I feel like my orgasm is so much more intense when being with a man or thinking about men, i want to do much more with guys but am so confused how to go about it. I realize how people can simply just get off to men but I just loved it so much Im really starting to think I may be better off gay. I plan on going to a gay bar sooner or later and have no idea what to expect but i probably will enjoy it. So can anyone offer any type of advice (pretty silly question)? Like i said I didnt know where to turn . Thanks

 

[HunterM]

Have fun exploring your sexuality! You don't have to stop having sex with women either. Keep playing both sides until you're sure what you want in a serious relationship. Always use condoms for anal sex. That's it.

 

[evanrick]

you dont sound confused to me lol

 

[pai mei]

you dont have to define your sexuality to yourself with one word, be it gay or straight or bi.

it sounds pretty clear to me that you are fully bi, and maybe more into guys than you are girls, but sexuality doesn't fall into one word summaries.

just be happy that you like all sorts of different people.

 

[Audio Tech]

It does sound like you are bi. Enjoy! What does it matter, anyway.

 

[Eagle653]

It's hard to tell, by your post, what your next steps should be. If you're interested in exploring your sexuality with men, then bath houses and hook up sites seem to work well for many. If you're interested in a dating relationship, then putting yourself out there where gay men tend to be is probably in order. That doesn't necessarily have to be just bars, but other cultural things like shows, art, literary circles, and the like tend to attract a wide range of gay men. Becoming involved in gay sports leagues, or even your local Pride organization can be a way to network with other gay men (many larger cities have professional gay men dinner clubs, too).

Good luck! You're discovering much about yourself--enjoy the journey!

 

[Rand]

Labels are for things on the shelf or in the file cabinet. You are neither so don't try to label yourself as anything other than you. Be yourself and love yourself and celebrate your life. Do be safe.

Rand

 

[SteveyBoyLA]

Labels are for things on the shelf or in the file cabinet. You are neither so don't try to label yourself as anything other than you. Be yourself and love yourself and celebrate your life. Do be safe.

Rand

This!

By the way, you are either gay or not - no need for the label of 'full blown' to describe gayness. (I guess if you are 1/2 blown gay you would be 'bi'???)

 

[morgaes]

Don't worry about being straight or bi or gay. Sexuality can be much more fluent than those three categories allow. Just do what feels natural and don't feel too boxed in my some preconceived notions about straight/bi/gay.

Whatever floats your boat is a great philosophy to go be