very sexually confused

[chrismac9]

Hi long time reader never poster. Lately ive been very confused as to what my sexual identity is. At first i identified as straight, then gay, then bisexual. Ive had encounters with both women and men. Still a virgin here. Ive performed oral on men and while i used to think i was leaning towards gay after giving oral a few times i found i did not enjoy it. I have no interest in recieving oral and anal sex kinda turns me off somethin about the going in where the stuff is supposed to come out skeeves me out. Ive also fingered banged a few chicks, i must say i really enjoy doing this and when they are so wet and turned on it turns me on (i.e. i get hard unlike when i give a bj). However i dont see myself really in a relationship with either sex. Atm i think im more leaning towards heterosexuality ( i know weird right lol ). Like gay porn does turn me on ( well the bj stuff anyways anthing with bums semi skeeves me out as ive said before). So I throw myself for judgement from the jubbers wtf am i? I know most people here dont like labels but please id like one, im also wondering if anyone is/ever was in my situation? Thanks!

 

[AngelFromAbove]

Well, do you find yourself attracted to men? Do you find yourself attracted to women? You said that you get aroused by fingerbanging women, so there's probably some attraction to them. However, from what I've read, there does not seem to be any interest in sex with men; on the other hand, you could still be attracted to men, but not interested in the sexual aspects of being with a man.

 

[easyroad]

Well, from what you said, the only things you can do with a man are making out and handjobs (and oral sex, but you don't always enjoy it - rimjobs are a no-no).

Are you attracted enough to men that a simple make-out session + mutual masturbation would be enjoyable? If not, then I think you're mostly heterosexual.

 

[versatileplayer]

No result returned - too little data to make assessment.

 

[Seasoned]

Unlike some others here I think labels are useful but only when they come from within. The question is what do you fantasize about when you masturbate? Do you have sexual dreams? What are they like? The important thing is to not pressure yourself but to keep exploring. Perhaps the answer will cone when you fall for someone. Not all gays enjoy or engage in anal sex. At the same time straights can enjoy it too.

We grow up with certain taboos, but our body us ours to explore and enjoy as is the bodies of any consenting adults. Get in a hot bath sometime and gently start waging your butt. Explore inside with a finder like you do vagina. There's some pleasure to be had in there. When you're with a guy rake time to explore his body. Do the same with a woman. If this remains confusing for you and worrisome a bit of therapy might help sort things out.

 

[AlmondMilk]

You could be bi to a degree? I can't label you, though I know a guy who is also into giving oral with guys. He's not into receiving oral, anal etc. But with girls, he can have sex...he's just not interested when he cums.

I say, just go for either when they present themselves. you'll find out eventually.

 

[stevexxx]

sounds to me you like sexual exploration. i dont think your gay, you just like how some sexual things feel.

 

[strangepoetry]

Unlike some others here I think labels are useful but only when they come from within. The question is what do you fantasize about when you masturbate? Do you have sexual dreams? What are they like? The important thing is to not pressure yourself but to keep exploring. Perhaps the answer will cone when you fall for someone. Not all gays enjoy or engage in anal sex. At the same time straights can enjoy it too.

Really great advice and questions posed there.^ Worth repeating.

sounds to me you like sexual exploration. i dont think your gay, you just like how some sexual things feel.

This sounds like a reasonable assumption as well.^

 

[The White Stripe]

Take porn out of the equation for a moment. Anwser me this:

Do you ever see a guy walk by you and think "wow he is really sexy/good looking" or have you ever developed feelings for a male friend?

If you have done either of these I would say you are at least somewhat into guys. Porn has very little to do with your sexual preference when you are not sure what your preference is. lol