Very, very sad.

[rammeh]

I'll just cut to the chase.
My cat was run over on Sunday. She died (hopefully, painlessly) on impact. The lady who hit her (my cat) was hysterical when she came up and banged on the door...she told me how she would feel just awful driving away without informing the owner what had happened.

We ran outside and I saw my cat lying in the street, obviously dead. Now, you should know, this cat was one of the sole things in my life I had that brought me joy and happiness. I completely broke down when I saw her lying there. It's been about 4 days now, and I'm still non-functioning, for lack of better words. I can't think, every time I get up out of my chair I wander around aimlessly, I have no appetite, and I can't even leave my bedroom because all my cat's things are outside. It's horrible.

I know most of you might just be thinking "it's a cat, get over it!", but anyone who's ever had a pet might identify with me. I was so attached to that animal, and now I feel completely lost.

So anyway, I just wish I had some direction. I know nothing I do is going to bring my pet back, but it doesn't stop me from sitting here crying every day, wishing there was something I could do.

I was sad before all this happened, but compared to now, it's like it didn't even matter before. I know it's useless going to my family; my dad was critical of my emotion from the moment he found out what happened, my mom's oblivious to it all (mental condition)...so I'm going to the internet. Can anyone help me with some advice?

 

[jft245]

It sounds harsh, but get another cat asap. Then, remember you old cat but transfer your love and attention to the new cat. Losing pets has always been very hard on me so I know what you are going through, I still cry when I think of a friends pet that was put down last year. I used to take care of him when my buddy was at work or away and I became just as attached to him as if he were my own.

Another thought, if you do get another cat, keep her indoors. It is not mean to keep them inside, it is for their own good.

I hope these thoughts help, and know that someone cares and can share your pain.

 

[Ron123]

Hello..perhaps..you can do adopt a kitten from an animal shelter..
Not trying to replace your lost cat,,but..this seems a nice way to honor her memory...You may find in time a new kitty will help you heal,,and..bring along it's own joys..
If you can't bring yourself to adopt just yet..you can always donate money ( in your cat's name) or..maybe more importantly,,your time to an animal shelter..They always need help in some ways...
As with the loss of a child..giving some items that belonged to it/him/her..to those in need passes the love & caring forward,,I can think of no better way to send a message of love and healing into our world..then to turn old sadness into new joy..
Many blessings..!!..
Ron

 

[Puzuzzu]

For sure dude, new cat to help you ummm...regulate i guess.

 

[hornyshauny]

I'm so sorry for your loss. You must feel terrible.

I agree with jft245. You can't bring your beloved cat back - but think how many other cats there are out there that could benefit from your love and care.

 

[jetsonboy]

First, my heart goes out to you. I can imagine your grief and sadness. Animals are wonderful creatures that give us unconditional love, and I know you loved your kittykat, as I do mine.
I disagree with the idea of getting a new pet ASAP. You should give yourself some time to mourn your beloved pet. Bringing in a new cat into your home may actually not be fair for it, because you might resent them as they are not the pet you lost. In time you will learn that your kitty will be in your mind and heart forever and you will give a new pet the same love and care you are capable of giving a pet, and perhaps save a life in the process. All best wishes!

 

[Kigan2006]

It is a terrible feeling to lose a pet. And the same thing doesn't work for everyone.

In my aunt's case, getting a new cat shortly after one had to be put down was a great help. However, when I lost a pet (a dog, to seizures), I needed time to recover first before I could have handled another dog.

Also, I agree with keeping the cat indoors. The closest to outdoors my 3 cats get is the screened in porch. It keeps them safe.

You just have to take what people say and try to figure out what will work for you.

Best of wishes

 

[LaloGS]

I'll just cut to the chase.
My cat was run over on Sunday. She died (hopefully, painlessly) on impact. The lady who hit her (my cat) was hysterical when she came up and banged on the door...she told me how she would feel just awful driving away without informing the owner what had happened.

We ran outside and I saw my cat lying in the street, obviously dead. Now, you should know, this cat was one of the sole things in my life I had that brought me joy and happiness. I completely broke down when I saw her lying there. It's been about 4 days now, and I'm still non-functioning, for lack of better words. I can't think, every time I get up out of my chair I wander around aimlessly, I have no appetite, and I can't even leave my bedroom because all my cat's things are outside. It's horrible.

I know most of you might just be thinking "it's a cat, get over it!", but anyone who's ever had a pet might identify with me. I was so attached to that animal, and now I feel completely lost.

So anyway, I just wish I had some direction. I know nothing I do is going to bring my pet back, but it doesn't stop me from sitting here crying every day, wishing there was something I could do.

I was sad before all this happened, but compared to now, it's like it didn't even matter before. I know it's useless going to my family; my dad was critical of my emotion from the moment he found out what happened, my mom's oblivious to it all (mental condition)...so I'm going to the internet. Can anyone help me with some advice?

This helped me when I had to put my Basset down because of incurable illness. I know how you feel, and I commiserate with you. Sorry for your loss of a dear friend.

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

 

[racer2438]

Sorry for your loss, but a cat, to a cat lover is NOT just a cat.

It's your child that you have raised, loved, and cherished.

We have 4 cat's now and have always had from 4 to5. All with differant personalites. My bf had acat given to him from his niece that was born my b/f grew up in. This kitten was first named "little joe" as he was the runt.

My b/f renamed him "morris" from the tv commercials. We had him for 17yrs.
He was so cool. Morris always seemed to get hurt some how and was always going to vet. But he always pulled through. We went on a vacation for my bday and while away he died of natural causes it was a really bad blow for us, to make matters worse my bf mom died 4days later.

I found a lost kitten on streets and could find owners, so I took home and placed a ad. No one responded. So I gave the kitten to my b/f. as a grown cat now he looks almost identical to the one we lost and does the same things also. We named him "Diego"


So go to animal shelter and find your self a new kitten, share the love you still have in you. Bond with him and tell him about your other one and build and new friendship w/love.

Look into the kittens eyes at the shelter and see which one talks to you, when you see it in there eyes you will knew he/she is the one. Bring to your home and some of the hurt in you will start to heal.

God Bless your cat.

 

[DotComGuy]

Im sorry about your cat. We can all relate to losing a pet, whether we are a dog or cat lover.

You are grieving and it is a process. Maybe if you look up on the internet about grief that that will give you some insight.

10 years ago, my cat was run over and they took off. A good samaritan took him to the vet where he lied overnight at the vets. He learned his lesson about going near roads.

I think an indoor cat is a giid idea but I would get a micrship because what if the cat got out? Most indoor cats dont have id tags

Do what you have to do to feel better, but it will probably take time

 

[Golliwog]

My deepest sympathy to you in your sad loss.

Another idea for consolation is this.
If hour city has a Crisis Center, call and talk with a counselor. No grief is to be neglected. You will be taken seriously, and referred to the proper source for advice and comfort.

Bless you!

 

[chatolandia]

sorry to hear about your cat




I would also wait before I get a new pet, it is important to mourn our loved ones

that is why I do not let my cat out, she is a strictly indoor cat

 

[alley]

I am so sorry for your loss, you do have to through the mourning process---Your sadness shows how deeply you did care about your kitty. I urge you to use some of the above suggestions if you do need to talk about it.