Virginity question...

[supernovachap]

Alright guys, I've got a question (obviously lol). I was recently talking to a guy I met online who lives near me. We were both looking for a long-term relationship and we basically had what the other was looking for in a partner, except for one big difference... he wanted to have sex practically on the first date and I wanted to wait until I felt a connection. He ended up blowing up on me and told me I'm never going to find my "prince" and I'll be a virgin until I'm 30, maybe even 40.

That's really just the preamble to my question: Is it so bad that I want to wait until I find somebody I actually care about? Obviously the chances of the "fairytale romance" are slim and I won't be with the guy who takes my v-card forever, but is it so bad to want it? Is it really that un-realistic?

On a seperate note, me and the guy started talking again and we're still kinda friends. So, try not to focus on the guy being a jerk or the fact that it was an internet hook-up, but instead focus on the question "Is it so bad to want to keep your virginity until you love someone?"

Thanks guys!!

 

[darkdreamerx]

That guy was rushing things way too much, and doesn't deserve a long-term relationship. That being said.. you should do it when it feels "right" - it's not about a certain "time frame", or at least that's how I feel.

 

[bankside]

A guy who wants to blow you on the first date is not really looking for a relationship. He might be happy to find one, but he's just kind of bobbing along (excuse the double entendre), waiting to see what comes up. (excuse the other double entendre)

My guy and I have been together 11 years. I had to wait till I was 24 to find him. Virginity is not the only thing our relationship is based on, nor is it the most important thing. Technically both of us had done some fooling around before we met. But I do like that my guy is the only one to know what it is like when I have an orgasm.

Ultimately, it was worth the wait. I wasn't shy, as you might guess from my post. I wasn't afraid, and I wasn't like a snotty-nosed princess in my tower waiting for the right prince to come along. I was just serious about finding the right person. It was worth it.

Plus, while you wait, a person can learn some really superior wanking techniques, and even in a relationship that comes in handy for fun times with your guy.

 

[supernovachap]

May I ask how old you are now?

I'm 18 . Thanks for the advice so far guys!

 

[Coffee]

Oh 18 is still young, it's hard to control sex drive these age lol. But you should follow what your [heart + head] agree to do. From that I mean you just do what you want if you're sure you won't regret later on. What if you lose your virginity to a one-night-stand type of guy?
In my opinion, first sex may be not so good because you don't have experience about it, y'know being awkward or so. So making love with your true love may help you feel better (or less disappointed).

 

[Attack]

Personally virginity was never really an issue to me.

Its possible the first person you waited to have sex with may leave you in the end. Sooo no longer being virgin doesn't change anything. Wasn't virginity originally applied to women long ago because of the whole honor thing and keeping blood lines intact and clear?

I mean what if the person you eventually fall in love with say had sex with 10 different people? would it really matter?

 

[On The Edge]

It's ur choice..there's no harm in waiting..when u ready..