Then do what I do - put it in your profile. Although I'm not aspergers, I'm the last one in that wonderful list that says "You fit all the symptoms, just not in order'. pdd-nos, I think is the abbreviation. At least yours only shows on message boards - I'm clocked in real life whenever someone meets me, although they usually just slot me in the 'asshole' category. "You're an asshole, but you're right" is something I hear much too often. The lack of most visual cues and the inability to process half of the ones I do notice suck.

If there was only one social paradagim it would be much easier, but there seems to be hundreds, all overlapping and everyone else just seems to take it for granted.