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Walked in on my roommate masturbating...

Boi101

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Hey everyone, I'm a Freshmen in college and I share a dorm with a roommate (he's a Freshmen too). Today I came into our room and my roommate turned completely red and was like, "Dude, this is so messed up right now. Can you give me a second?" I didn't "see" what he was doing so I didn't "get it" right away but then I looked at his computer screen and realized what was going on. I just stepped outside and waited until he texted me and said he was really sorry that I had to see that. I told him not to worry about it but it was obviously still bothering him.

While I was outside I called a friend on my cell phone and started talking about something completely off topic so when I came back into our room, I was on the phone.

It's been a few hours... I've been on the phone with my friend talking about random things so I haven't said anything to my roommate yet. It's pretty awkward.

Can I just let this one heal with time? This is probably the most awkward situation I've been in... I feel really bad for him. =/
 
I did that to my roommate several times when I was in college. I'd have to leave for class first and then he'd apparently go at it. Being foggy and forgetful, about half the time I'd have to come back to the room from the elevator because I forgot something. He'd quickly cover up, sigh, and give me a dirty look. LOL You'd think the horny bastard would keep his hands off himself until he knew I was gone for good and not coming back for a forgotten item. But, he wasn't quite that bright.

Anyway, this probably really isn't a big deal. Did he ever mention anything? Weirded out about it? Was he looking at porn? Straight or gay?

Oh well, next time offer to help!
 
I'd say something. Just to let him know that it's not a big deal and he shouldn't feel bad about it. He's probably feeling really embarrassed about it.

I walked in on a friend once. It caught me off guard and he was trying to cover things up. I stepped out and let him get together. I went back in and could tell he was really upset. I said something to the effect of "don't worry about it. everyone does it at one time or another." Didn't take long and things were just fine.

Let the guy know that your cool with it and that it's no big deal. Almost everyone does it and leave it at that. I've read about roomies coming up with some way of letting the other know that it's not "safe" to enter the room. I think 1 guy said they would put a sticky note on the outside of the door or something. Offer some type of "warning system."

good luck. let us know how it goes.
 
"Hey man.......we ALL do it.........don't let it bother you......."

Doesn't get any more simple than that.
 
One night when a friend was staying over, he was sleeping downstairs on the couch. My mother woke up in the middle of the night to go downstairs (she had to get water, or something) and sure enough, he was laying on the floor between the coffee table and couch whacking it. . .with a roll of toilet paper on the table. :lol:

The next day, my mother told me what had happened, and i've never seen ANYONE as embarrassed as he was that day.
 
Treat it like it's no big deal. Because it IS no big deal. If it feels really awkward, say "Sorry about that. Hope you didn't have to start all over after that." You might suggest some sort of signal - maybe when one of you needs "alone time", you put a rubber band around the outer door knob. So if the roommate comes home and sees it, you don't come in. Just remember to take it down when you're done. :)

Lex
 
I walked in on my roommate Freshmen year wackin off to Penthouse. I had left to bring stuff to my car because I was going home for break, but left all my clothes on my bed, which I had to come back for. Last thing I said before I left was "Be right back man." He goes "ok". He was high 92% of the time so, that explains something of the fact that I returned moments later to find him totally naked (so hot btw). He quickly threw a sheet over himself and said "oh shit, sorry" I said "It's really not a big deal. Have a good break, I can see you started early." He laughed and told me to shut up. I told him to lock the door.
 
Thanks for the replies, guys. When I walked in, he had rushed into the closet and and I didn't notice what was going on until I turned around to walk out the door and noticed porn on his laptop... I didn't really pay attention long enough to notice if it was gay or straight but I'm pretty sure it was straight.

He's the one of the "good boy" types, a lot like me, which is probably partly why he freaked out so bad... but I mean, we all do it. I just don't want him to get so freaked out that things get weird and we have to live with all this tension for the rest of the semester. I've been in the room with him since, but he hasn't said anything (except for the text messages right after it happened).

I'm just gonna wait until tomorrow and try to make normal conversation with him... I don't care at all that he was doing it. I just don't want things to get weird between us... especially over something everyone does. And we've still got a little over two months left in the semester!! lol...

Anyway, thanks for the responses.
 
Good call mate...,

And you're right, we do all do it, so thats exactly the way to handle this... just let him know its all good and theres nothing to worry about.

Neither you nor he needs a semester of weirdness... and it sounds like your gonna have to be the one to break the ice and move things along... hes gonna die of embarrassment before he brings it up again it seems!

So as long as you dont care, I'm sure he wont either in the long run... and my guess is hell be grateful you said something!
 
Boi101 said:
I don't care at all that he was doing it. I just don't want things to get weird between us... especially over something everyone does. And we've still got a little over two months left in the semester!! lol...
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^^ That sounds like exactly what you should say.

If you need a way to bring it up, just say that you want to come up with a way to let each other know that you need privacy in the room for a bit- whether it be because you want to watch porn, have a wank or whether you have a "guest" in the room.

And also come up with how much time allowed before you text or call for an "all clear"- in case one of you forgets to remove the post-it or the necktie or the rubber band or whatever from the door.
 
Sounds like your going to do the right thing. Please don't let it go too much longer though. I'm sure the guy is stressing out over it. Let him off the hook and get it over. The longer you wait the more awkward it gets.

Let him know it's no big deal and offer up the warning system as a way of making sure it doesn't happen again.

you sound like a good guy. I'm sure you will handle it just fine.

Best of luck.

Steven.
 
Just thought I'd keep you guys updated. I started to make normal conversation with him today and he responded... he just couldn't look me in the eyes at first. But then he started another conversation a little later and everything started going back to normal...

We haven't spoken about what happened but just talking about normal stuff seemed to do the trick because he has no problem starting conversation anymore. The past 24 hours were definitely the most awkward of my life... lol.

Anyway, thanks again for all your replies.
 
Holy Moses have things changed since I was in college. If we caught someone jerking, we would open the door wide and practically scream "What are you doing, you jerking off?" Of course the guy jerking would be frantically be getting his porn put away and his dick put back in his pants. Some other guys would come running to check out the scene and then the jerker would come charging after so we would run and lock ourselves in someone's room, hoping that he was not trashing our rooms. It was fun! After the event, nothing was ever said about it because everyone knew we all did it, but we just happen to catch one guy doing it.

Heck, I knew one guy who was a chronic masturbator. His roommate would walk in and the guy would just lay on his bed, face the fall and just keeping going. He had issues.

Now days things seem different. I can't believe guys text each other about jerking. What does he say? - "I'm done pulling my pud" Do you respond, "Was it a good pull?" Is there some texting etiquette about notifying your roommate you are about to rub one out. I just think its funny that guys are so sensitive about this.

Well, it sound like you handled it well. I suggest just to be sure you run over to the campus card shop and get one of those Hallmark cards saying I am sorry for walking in on your wank.
 
So you accidentally caught someone masturbating. You need to heal after something like this? The previous post is right, times sure have changed; everyone has become so sensitive about the pettiest things.
 
I've had, and continue to have many conversations with friends where they say "I'll pick u up in 20 minutes", and I say "make it 30 i wanna jack off" or something to that effect. I guess I've always been that way with my guy friends, who, oddly or not oddly, are hetero.
 
Yep, this is a situation that has already fixed itself. No need for awkward conversations, I think.
 
nate78 said:
I've had, and continue to have many conversations with friends where they say "I'll pick u up in 20 minutes", and I say "make it 30 i wanna jack off" or something to that effect. I guess I've always been that way with my guy friends, who, oddly or not oddly, are hetero.
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Yeah, it's different with your friends. I've said that kind of stuff to my friends too but it's just different with a roommate who you don't really "know." He's nice and all, but we're obviously not close enough to say stuff like that to eachother.

Situation's been resolved anyway.
 
When I was in college my room mate and discovered the pleasures of mutual masturbation.
 
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