Wandering eyes!

[LatinCoffee]

If you boyfriend or friend--have the 'wandering eyes' syndrome...would it bother you? Why or why not?

 

[jaysizzles]

no. I have wandering eyes too.

wandering hands, lips, dick, etc....now that's another story.

 

[Durango95]

Males have a sexual thought every three seconds. Guys are hard wired for sexual ques. Guys who say they don't look aren't telling the truth. It is pretty simple. If you and a guy have an understanding as far as monogamy, then that would be another issue entirely. I personally have found monogamy to be too confining.

 

[LatinCoffee]

Confining, how?--@Durango95

 

[Durango95]

Confining, how?--@Durango95

Guys, whatever the orientation, are not built for monogamy. Gay guys especially are very poorly suited for monogamy. There is no need for it. There is no issue concerning children or the transference of familial property. Two guys cannot produce children. That is for what the concept of monogamy was originally developed in the western culture. The consanguinity concept is primary in western European culture. To state again it has no application whatever in matters of the relationship between gay men. I can see where monogamy is important maybe for health reasons, i.e., AIDS and STDs, but that can be managed in other ways besides exclusivity of sex partners.

 

[MMMonsterBoy]

I would not say that men are not meant for monogamy. I would say that you aren't meant for monogamy. Everyone has their own temperament and it is always good to know what it is before dating. I am a monogamous guy who has never felt trapped by being held together with one guy. My ideal guy feels the same. That is just for me. Some people who feel confined would do better with open relationships and the like.

I personally wouldn't really care if my boyfriend checked out other guys. I would only care if he crossed lines that would disrespect our relationship.

 

[HunterM]

no. I have wandering eyes too.

wandering hands, lips, dick, etc....now that's another story.

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Men, in general (me included), have wandering eyes. It's natural.

 

[IsItJustMe]

I would not say that men are not meant for monogamy. I would say that you aren't meant for monogamy. Everyone has their own temperament and it is always good to know what it is before dating. I am a monogamous guy who has never felt trapped by being held together with one guy. My ideal guy feels the same. That is just for me. Some people who feel confined would do better with open relationships and the like.

I personally wouldn't really care if my boyfriend checked out other guys. I would only care if he crossed lines that would disrespect our relationship.

Thousand times this, I really dislike how people think they can generalize something, same as saying all gay guys are sluts. Its a matter of how you yourself are wired and what your point of view is.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

Looking is ok *, Touching isn't ok.




* This doesn't mean he can sit 6 inches away/same room from some guy watching him jerk off though either.

 

[earlgrey]

Doesn't bother me if he looks. And because we'll have such different tastes anyway, I find it interesting if we point out to each other who we find attractive.

 

[winterkill]

Guys, whatever the orientation, are not built for monogamy. Gay guys especially are very poorly suited for monogamy. There is no need for it. There is no issue concerning children or the transference of familial property. Two guys cannot produce children. That is for what the concept of monogamy was originally developed in the western culture.

“We have found a great many persons who have would like to know how many males have extra-marital intercourse. Obviously this considerable interest depends on the fact that most of the married males who ask this questions have already had such experience, or would like to have it if they could reconcile it with their consciences and if it could be managed without involving them in legal difficulties or public scandal. ...

There seems to be no question but that the human male would be promiscuous in his choice of sexual partners throughout of his whole life if there were no social restrictions. This is the history of the anthropoid ancestors, and this is the history of unrestrained human males everywhere. ...

In practical terms that means that there are a great many human females who find it incomprehensible that so many human males should look for sexual relations with women other than their wives. On the other hand, most males see some force to the argument that variety is attractive in any sort of situation, whether it concerns the literature that one reads, the music that one hears, the recreation in which one engages, the food which one eats, the type of sex relation which one has, or the sexual partners with whom the relations are had. …

Throughout the history of literature, extra-marital intercourse has provided an overwhelming abundance of material for biography, drama, fiction, and serious essay. There is probably no sexual theme that has appeared more often in the world's literature, both great and small, in all ages and among all nations.

For me love means encouraging lovers to live life to the fullest, without sexual restrictions.

 

[Seasoned]

Any committed couple can create any type of relationship they chose. My husband and I are monogamous and are both aware of other good looking guys without rubbernecking or drooling.

 

[Scealle]

Since I don't know any gay couples in rl, I am not sure how it works. But I think it's actually quite common ( at least in my str8 couple friends. )
But if I am in love I'd be too busy to have wondering eyes lol.

 

[Scealle]

Oh and my team mate who had a gf, ALWAYS has wandering eyes. So much so that, every time a girl walks by I would expect him to check her out lo. And I was right every time LOL! Str8 guys

 

[thefishinthesea23]

I think its an unrealistic expectation to expect your significant other to not have wandering eyes. Especially early on a relationship.