Wanking while in a relationship

[Corny]

i'd say most guys do

 

[SuperDave]

yeah but not as often

 

[Antibiotico1]

Well if you're as horny as I get, sometimes, your bf doesn't want to go for a third time...then yes. Go for it! hahahahha

 

[altlover85]

maybe it'd be different if we lived together or something, but I'm not going to stop jerking off just because I'm seeing a guy a couple times/week.

I don't think it should have to be different if you lived together.

Generally couples aren't always going to want to have sex at the same time every time, so I think it's normal to allow that jerking off is going to happen.

 

[medic1]

I have to admit some of the best sex i have had in the last 6 months
is me a bottle of lube a really good dvd and an even better right hand.
The other bonus is that you dont have to play good host all the time .
Like making the usual chit-chat afterwards or making lots of coffee .
Dont get me wrong i love snuggling with a guy but just occasionally
it is great to beat your own meat at your own pace and knowing that there is
no pressure to perform like a porn star .
Though as i said earlier nothing beats snuggling up to a guy that you thought
was out of your league then you grt chatting after the obligratory shower
together and he tells you the exact same thing about you being out of his
league .Ding-Donge round two FANTASTIC .

 

[Maklaar13]

Although we have a great sex life, I am a sex animal and enjoy it more, therefore I do wank on a regular basis. I used to hide it, but realize that, first there is nothing wrong with it and secondly in order to have a great relationship you must talk about everything and nothing should be off limits. I have also enticed my bf to do more wanking too, he really enjoys it.

 

[paatreides]

Jacking off is such a normal part of a man's life - even in utero (no lie!) - that it should never be viewed as anything other than normal activity.

Guys whack off for all sorts of reasons... We're horny, we're bored, we're anxiety-ridden, we need "me time" - time where we don't have to be worried about satisfying anyone else sexually, to learn what feels good to us...

It's good for you: It lowers blood pressure, it stimulates the heart rate, it lowers your risk of prostate cancer...

The sooner solo activity is more fully accepted as normal and healthy, the better off the world will be!

Hell, even mental health experts now condone it, marriage and sex therapists suggest it for patients all the time - to even do it while the other watches.

I feel sad for guys like Pianist ^^ who feel they're cheating by getting in a good wank. The only thing they're cheating is themselves.

 

[cliffdweller]

"Masturbation is cheating" or "watching porn is cheating" is something I'd expect to hear coming from a woman posting on Yahoo Answers: "OMG I caught my husband MASTURBATING. I feel so BETRAYED! Why am I not good enough? I feel like turning on the oven and sticking my head in! I mean, is he some kind of PERVERT? Should I be worried about the CHILDREN?"

I've been in a (monogamous) relationship for 5 years. We both masturbate and watch porn (solo and together).

 

[KaraBulut]

Nah, most guys are just here just to read the forums.

 

[paatreides]

So, no need for you to feel sad for me thanks.

And yet I do - even more so after reading your reply. I'm sorry you have not been able to experience the joy and contentment of a loving relationship. It may surprise you to find that there indeed are guys out there - in your age group and who can relate to your situation - who would not only find you attractive, but be interested in a long term relationship.

That old adage: There's someone for everyone is probably true... And I hope someday you find him.

 

[medic1]

Pianist i have read many of your posts and i can only think of 3 that i have
disagreed with .
You come across as being very erudite and just the right amount of compassion
try not to give up my friend as one of the other posters has said it is a big world and i think that you may be surprised at just how many guys would find you
handsome in the meantime from me to you .

 

[NineOfClubs]

I was in a relationship with a guy who was often too tired for sex, too busy, or too into his work.

But he had no problem rushing home during his lunch break to have a solo jerk-off session.

Part of the reason why we're "ex'es"....

 

[paatreides]

I was in a relationship with a guy who was often too tired for sex, too busy, or too into his work.

But he had no problem rushing home during his lunch break to have a solo jerk-off session.

Part of the reason why we're "ex'es"....

Did you ever think about getting there a few minutes ahead of him, stripping down, putting some porn vid into the dvd, and be stroking your hard-on when he walked in at lunchtime??? He just may have been pleasantly surprised and appreciative...

Just a thought....

 

[NineOfClubs]

^ The busiest part of my work day at the time was the lunch hour, otherwise I might have tried that.

 

[conrad]

Youthful masturbation was our way of becoming aware of ourselves as sexual beings. Since we were mostly programmed to view ourselves as young men who one day would become husbands our masturbation was soon blended with the expectation that one day we would lodge our cocks in vaginas . But, life does serve up surprises; in my case, it was the new guy in town with whom I bonded in deep friendship that soon made the sweet communion of sex a way of expressing our affection, something we both needed and wanted. For two years we learned by doing but my masturbation fantasy continued to be mostly of heterosexual coupling.

I have always been a faithful partner in sex, but my solo sessions always remained important to me as they did provide the means of letting my mind bring back the delicious memory of my former partners as well as providing a free zone where I could continue to entertain sexually attractive persons whom I have never had the opportunity to bed in loving relationship in real life.

The animalurges which remain so persistent can be managed--and relieved--by thoughtful joining of hand to cock. No one gets hurt and the beauty and mystery of human sexuality is kept before us.

 

[AlmondMilk]

maybe it'd be different if we lived together or something, but I'm not going to stop jerking off just because I'm seeing a guy a couple times/week.

Yup! I felt the same way.

 

[Ninja108]

Even though we live together, I still watch porn and use my right hand. Helps to releive the tension if he isn't in the mood and vice versa.

 

[racer2438]

We have a great sex life and we do j/o alone hen the other is gone, or alseep. I think it's healthy to still have your own ME time.

We have been to gether for 26+ yrs now and if we horny and need to release we gotta J/o.

Last night my honey went to bed early and I could not sleep.. so I went back on line and did some edgeing for about 3-4 hrs, with a full hardon or a good simi.. mostly hard. And I watched some porn and kept edging. So when I was ready to blow I lube up real good and shot a huge load and with one hand I rub it in all over as I still was spurting more. I lost count on 11 good long heavy spurts of cum. I was drained and then I was able to go to sleep...

 

[racer2438]

Did you ever think about getting there a few minutes ahead of him, stripping down, putting some porn vid into the dvd, and be stroking your hard-on when he walked in at lunchtime??? He just may have been pleasantly surprised and appreciative...

Just a thought....

I have just worn some loose sweats and t-shirt and taken lunch to my honey and I j/o off for him in front seat as he ate his lunch.....

 

[Hello-Good-Bi]

We play cock pic tag all day long so when I do J/O its always with him in mind.