Want him all to me

[Jo-thin]

I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 19, we've been dating for 2 years and 1 month straight we truly love each other, and now he lives with my family and I, for like about 4 months now. Well of course we see each other everyday, when going to sleep and waking up, our relationship is very romantic and tell how much we love each other all the time, never gets old!
But what seems to be gettin old is the sex. Not with me but it seems like it is with him it does. We rub dicks most of time, and rarely have anal sex if we're lucky (since he eats acidic things >.>) Well I'm the very 1st person and only person that he's had any sexual contact with, and I want to keep things interesting sexually so he doesn't crave to venture out sexually with other guys. I fear that he's gonna cheat on me just to fulfill a fantasy. I mean we're so young, and our relationship is so serious

Any advice on keeping him interested sexually?

 

[anchihiro]

Perhaps you'll eventually lose him to your own insecurity.

It's natural for a long term relationship to have a lull in the sex department. Even if you are young, even if you're still very loving and affectionate.
Maybe you could try an open relationship. Maybe you could have a threesome.
If you're not comfortable with these ideas then might i suggest toys? Or sit down and ask him if he has any unfulfilled sexual fantasies. He could be into something that you two have never tried together.

 

[Lube]

I would go for the fantasy/fetish thing. Surely you two are not all played out.

 

[altlover85]

I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 19, we've been dating for 2 years and 1 month straight we truly love each other, and now he lives with my family and I, for like about 4 months now. Well of course we see each other everyday, when going to sleep and waking up, our relationship is very romantic and tell how much we love each other all the time, never gets old!
But what seems to be gettin old is the sex. Not with me but it seems like it is with him it does. We rub dicks most of time, and rarely have anal sex if we're lucky (since he eats acidic things >.>) Well I'm the very 1st person and only person that he's had any sexual contact with, and I want to keep things interesting sexually so he doesn't crave to venture out sexually with other guys. I fear that he's gonna cheat on me just to fulfill a fantasy. I mean we're so young, and our relationship is so serious

Any advice on keeping him interested sexually?

Have you talked to him about this issue?

I didn't know acidic foods were bad for anal.

Regardless, I would try the suggestions named here. Perhaps a night or two in a nice hotel would give you guys some inspiration. If I were living with my family it might be a killer in the sex department. Maybe that's part of the issue?

 

[Jo-thin]

Have you talked to him about this issue?

I didn't know acidic foods were bad for anal.

Regardless, I would try the suggestions named here. Perhaps a night or two in a nice hotel would give you guys some inspiration. If I were living with my family it might be a killer in the sex department. Maybe that's part of the issue?

yes we talked about it, and he ended up admitting that he does crave other things. I mean he's had the same dick for 2 years and finding out he has played me once but didn't go through with it even hurts >.>

But Acidic food does effect him because his ass burns lmao

 

[hylas]

i can see how you would want to spice up your sex life after being monogamous for a while, but statements like "Want him all to me" and "I want to keep things interesting sexually so he doesn't crave to venture out sexually with other guys" make me a little suspicious. you may be dealing with insecurities and issues of possessiveness and jealousy that arent gonna just go away by trying out some new sexy things.

("possessiveness"... name a word with three double-s...)

 

[Jo-thin]

i can see how you would want to spice up your sex life after being monogamous for a while, but statements like "Want him all to me" and "I want to keep things interesting sexually so he doesn't crave to venture out sexually with other guys" make me a little suspicious. you may be dealing with insecurities and issues of possessiveness and jealousy that arent gonna just go away by trying out some new sexy things.[/I])

you're very right about this, and its something I hadn't realized! I am insecure and ect but I don't like to show a sign of weakness around him.
Any advice on it?

 

[AstareGod]

I'm dealing with sort of the same thing. I've caught my boyfriend on a few occasions venturing on adam4adam and messaging random guys. He and I had a talk about it, and he gave me a couple of reasons for doing it. Around the time I first caught him, he said I was being a little too clingy (ouch - clingy was a reason I broke up with one of my exes four years ago because he was the clingy one), and that it was a way of acting out and escaping. Another reason he gave was that it was fun to indulge in fantasy, and that he feels sexy when other guys flirt back with him. He's 15 years older than I am, by the way.

I felt really jealous and insecure after discovering that, because I feel like I should be the only one who he should be flirting with and sharing those feelings with. Then again, even though ti seemed like he was going to cheat on me, he reassured me that he had no intention of actually meeting these guys or cheating on me, which reassured me, but I've had lapses and have become suspicious every once in a while. It's still an issue between us.

I'm not sure if I should let go and let him do whatever flirting he wants, as long as it does not harm our relationship - or if I should not compromise, say enough is enough, and break up with him. This has all been going on for a month and a half, and he and I have only been together for a little over two months. I know it's early in the relationship, even though I've known him since April of this year, but there are a lot of questions unanswered as to his motives and how much I am willing to accept.

I don't mean to hijack this thread so let me respond to the OP. I'd suggest just talking with him about everything. Maybe get him to change his diet - eat less acidic things. And I'd follow others' advice and ask about any hidden fantasies or fetishes. He might be ashamed and not share them, so you'll never know unless you ask! Two years is pretty good in my mind (I can't seem to make it past 3 months) so you two seem like you have a good relationship going already. Hopefully you two have a good communication style and can talk things out. Good luck and let us know how things go!

 

[Jo-thin]

No hijacking at all! It's very nice to hear peoples similar experiences whether is now or the past and thanks, yeah we're surprised we struck 2 years, with all the debate we have it feels so unreal but we know this is true to the heart love, my advice to you is don;t get way too attached if you can, this might sound fucked up but if I knew my bf craves more dick (lmao) then I wouldn't fall in love with him, but then again I don't regret his loe and passion at all (if that makes sense) I want us to last till the day we die

So for the last couple of days we've had sex, it was amazing to where he likes to talk about it . I just want to keep this up, I mean he lives with me and I'm afraid to have so much sex that we get bored of it. In a way I trust him because he told me everything that has happened and admitted that he's had the chance to sleep with some stud but declined (little did he know that was a friend of mine) I mean I know I'm too paranoid but I don't think that's bad, if he went to fuck around with some other guy you know how low my self-esteem will go? I'm not packed with muscles! I don;t have a perfect smile, so it's hard that he looks at other guys that doesn't even look like me, but I know hes attracted to me but that only goes so far. This relationship is so strong and is something I don't want to loose but then again I don;t want to hold him back to fucking around with other guys either, I mean come on guys... we have dicks and our minds are filled with sexual pleasing thoughts

 

[AstareGod]

That's so good to hear! Unfortunately, I'm out of town and away from my boyfriend, which has been causing some unrest because he did come out kinda late in his life and missed out on a lot of sexual experiences that I was able to experience when I was younger. He talks every now and then about wanting to branch out sexually, but he and I have had a lot of talks about it and he says he wants to stick around by me for now. I'm not sure how long that'll last, either, but just like you Jo-thin, I want it to last till the day I die too!

Earlier in our relationship, I have noticed myself getting attached and emotionally dependent on him, which like I said before, was the main reason I broke up with one of my previous exes, is because he got attached and emotionally dependent on me. It takes a lot of work keeping myself in check. But making sure you can still be independent and self-sufficient is important, because if the day comes where your love breaks up or cheats on you, you're left all alone, and you have to make sure you can stand up on your own.

 

[Jo-thin]

sorry took so long to reply to this.

My advice to you is talk to him, tell him exactly how you feel about him and his situation because if it isn't talked about then things will bottle up and explode in your face >.<, but most important advice is follow what you think is right to do.
I know I'd take it hard if he ever broke up with me, I mean he's my 1st true love and if this isn't love then wtf is love?

but the thing about me is I haven't even exactly come out yet and only thing I crave is him. Couple of days ago he noticed I was upset and I told him all what I thought about cheating and he grabbed my face and told me that all he craves is me and I have nothing to worry about. That he's busting his own ass to gain my trust again and doesn't know what else to do to gain it and the things he was saying was so romantic lmao. So now our relationship stands stronger, we can talk about anything, it's just unlimited now.

(sorry if this is scattered, Im in a hurry typing this)