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want to be straight

I think the below is 100% bullshit..

USEDCAR said:
I understand where your coming from the straight life is much more easier then being gay.
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Don't agree. Straight people have just as many pressures as we do. More so... straight people are considered to be failures if they don't get married and have children, move to the burbs, have a perfect marriage and a perfect life. If we're out.. just being happy is enough.

Being gay is one of the hardest things ever,
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Oh woe is you. Christopher Reeve couldn't walk or breathe on his own for the last 10 years of his life and you have to deal with being attracted to hot guys.

you have to come out and have crushes on straight guys and hopefully people will accept your sexuality, stuff like that.
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You don't have to have crushes on straight guys... hey, if you put yourself out there and meet a few gay guys you'll forget those straight crushes ever existed. Yes.. if you cower in your little corner.. you'll fixate on men you can't have much like straight men who don't get out and meet women will fixate on women they can't have. Not seeing a difference.


Yes you can have a family with another guy but its just not the same as having the all American family and it would be nice to have a natural baby
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OK.. NOBODY has that all-American family... that's a lie we were all told... everyone who's trying for an "Ideal" like that is just setting themselves up for disappointment.

And i know that getting a girlfriend is much easier then getting a boyfriend
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And I know you're wrong.
 
Just be yourself. Live the riden3 lifestyle.
 
Soilwork said:
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Oh.. and if you're lame enough to do this... DO NOT HAVE KIDS.

I can't imagine anyone who'd be so without personal accountability that they'd bring innocent children into a life of being yet another "prop." Like a desk or a lamp. Imagine finding out that the only reason you were born was so daddy could suck the neighbors dick on fishing trips but the people at the PTA wouldn't know....
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Soilwork, excellent point about the kids; I never thought of it this way before.

Riden3, I'd re-read all these posts again. There is a common theme here ..|.

Good luck (*8*).
 
kevbo said:
Just be yourself. Live the riden3 lifestyle.
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After reading through the whole thread this was the only piece of information that spoke to me. Maybe I'll get over this problem and be happy gay. Maybe I'll find a girl and start a family. I'm just going to do what I want to do, even if it means just for others.
 
If someone handed me a pill to "cure" my gayness, I'd throw it on the ground and stomp it into powder, then piss on it.

My partner & I have been together ten years. We live in a 100 year old 3-story Victorian house in a rural town of less than 100 people. Other than the fact that we sleep with each other, we could hardly be identified as living a "gay lifestyle."

We're people. Just people. Just like our neighbors.
 
marleyisalegend said:
i couldn't agree more. there's definitely a HUGE bias in this thread that "being gay is okay, get over it, there's nothing wrong with it, don't conform". i don't think wanting a "normal" life is conforming at all. if you do come to terms with your homosexuality, more power to you. if the heat is too much, get out the kitchen, noone's gonna fault you for taking that road. bottom line do what makes YOU happy at the end of the day, not what's made everybody else happy
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If being gay was a choice, I'd agree with you.

I do not.
 
marleyisalegend said:
noone's gonna fault you for taking that road. bottom line do what makes YOU happy at the end of the day, not what's made everybody else happy
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yeah, don't worry about all the other people you use as you hide form yourself... all that matters is what total strangers think of you.
 
marleyisalegend said:
are you kidding me?? he is obviously attracted to women and men so the only way to "be true to himself" would be to fuck both right?? choosing women over men is no different than choosing one guy over another to a gay person. alcoholics wanna pick up a bottle everytime they pass the liquor store so are they not being true to themselves for not engaging in the behavior they desire?? what's all this defensiveness about?? what's wrong with this guy choosing a female if he desires to?? (which he hasn't even said stated as being the case yet)
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So on top of giving shit advice, you can't read.

He said right off the top that he wants to try to find a way to find women attractive.. which he doesn't.

Man, I swear, people just confuse the shit out of me... I'm not defensive.. I'm just irritated by weakness, cowards and people who live to impress other people...
 
yeah... I'm just getting a bit "This town needs an enema" myself.

don't mean to attack you... you're not the cry baby...
 
I wish for the OP that light bulb moment when he will realize that living a lie is far more distasteful than living the truth he doesn't currently find comfortable.

Hopefully, when that light bulb comes on, it won't blind some poor unsuspecting woman who fell for for the lie.
 
Sometimes I have that mentality too just depending on a bad time I am having with guys. Living the gay life is not as easy as what some others think. I only had 3 boyfriends throughout my entire life and any of them never lasted for a month. So it's fair to say hookups is an honest answer. If you are not happy with who you are re-examine yourself and try not to let the smallest things in life change you because you are your own person. You have to remember that you have the control over your well-being. Becoming straight is only going to put yourself in denial and can ruin a love relationship with your boyfriend if you haven't already talked to him about your issues. If you ever need someone to talk to just pm me.

Wishing you all the best! :)
 
I can never recall a time when I ever had a boyfriend because ironically every one of them lasted for 4 weeks and just a couple of them were only taking advantage of me. My first one is still a good friend of mine and I don't see the two of us hooking back up again. So technically speaking I had never been in a true love relationship.
 
I can't believe it's 2008 and gay guys are still doing what I did back in the 70's and 80's.

25 years ago, there were laws against being gay or performing "sodomy". You could be jailed for being gay. There were few positive gay role models in sports or Hollywood or politics or business.

Today, sure there are still negative stereotypes. But we see gays on TV, in movies, in sports, politics, business. Most of those laws (in the US) against sodomy have been struck down.

Coming out as gay is no worse than coming out as an atheist (both can get you disowned or killed, but it's getting rarer and rarer).

What are you young guys so fucking afraid of?
 
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