Was I obligated to reciprocate?

[heir-to-the-wind]

When I was young and hot, living in San Francisco, guys wanted to suck my cock all the time. If the sexual encounter was casual [like in a porn theater or the back of a bookstore], I felt no obligation to reciprocate getting him off. On the other hand, if I had a conversation with the guy that ended with ‘’Your place or mine?’’, I felt that reciprocation was implied unless explicitly stated otherwise.

I once met a guy on one of my weekend trips to Reno. Seeing that he was eager to suck me off, I invited him to my motel room. With his jeans on, he gave me a fantastic blowjob that drained my nuts. I offered to reciprocate, encouraging him to whip it out so I could suck it. He seemed reluctant and did a little strip tease. When he finally revealed his dick, fully erect, my eyes popped out. It was huge and definitely suckable. Then came the disappointing catch: ‘’I only like to fuck ass,’’ he said.

For me it was a moment of reckoning. I had experimented with bottoming only twice with an average-size cock – excruciating. My ass was extra tight and his cock was extra big. I knew I was going to scream, but I felt I was now obligated to reciprocate in getting him off, having led him on. Luckily he was patient and gentle, but it nevertheless hurt like hell. I don’t think he would have raped me if I had refused. He apologized for the pain he put me through and seemed truly appreciative for letting him get off in my very tight ass.

Did I really have an obligation to reciprocate; and if so, was I obligated to get fucked as he desired, or only obligated to suck him off as he did me?

 

[aaggii]

In a few words, when it comes to sex no one has any obligation to do anything they don´t like. Why would you, it kills your mood and sex is about having fun, right?

 

[Hidden Element]

no.

No one should ever have to do anything they dont wish. I hope this is an event u look back on without regret its never worth doing anything u dont want to just to please someone else.

 

[heir-to-the-wind]

no.

No one should ever have to do anything they dont wish. I hope this is an event u look back on without regret its never worth doing anything u dont want to just to please someone else.

No regret. His patience in trying to fuck me, and his moans of pleasure when he finally penetrated me, was extremely erotic and a treasured memory despite the pain.

I am sure that the size of his cock turned me on, despite the fearful prospect of pain. But would anyone else have refused to reciprocate; and if so, how would you do it? He could easily have forced me.

 

[Seasoned]

With strangers this ought to be discussed before you're in a locked room together. If there's fear of rape, he's not hook up material. When he said he only fucks you could have said you only suck. You also could have lubed up and told him to thigh fuck you

 

[heir-to-the-wind]

With strangers this ought to be discussed before you're in a locked room together. If there's fear of rape, he's not hook up material. When he said he only fucks you could have said you only suck. You also could have lubed up and told him to thigh fuck you

Good advice. But when a cute one comes along, and your dick is hard, all prudence evaporates.

 

[heir-to-the-wind]

Anyone else have an experience like in my OP?

 

[AdamRikerLiker]

Tricky, but the general feeling is correct. Do not do anything you are not happy with. My cock is 7 inches and a lot of men are scared by it. x