WATCHING BRAD
Part XXXVII
Children's Aid moved faster than I had expected. Within two days, an appointment was set up for a home visit and introductory interview. Promptly at seven-fifteen, the doorbell rang.
"Doorbell!" Lindsay called from the livingroom. Just in case we didn't hear it.
"Well, this is it," I said as I arose from my chair at the kitchen table.
"I'll be with Lindsay," Brad said as he grabbed up our coffees and headed for the livingroom.
I opened the door to a pleasant-looking young woman.
"Mr. de ‘vil-YAY'?"
"de ‘VIL-ee-yurs'," I corrected. "Please, come in." I stepped back and let her pass.
"I'm sorry," she said, smiling through her embarrassment. "Is that French?"
"South African, actually," I said. "My Grandmother was British."
"Oh, how fascinating," she said. "Are you a Canadian citizen, yet?"
"I was born in Dartmouth, Nova Scotia."
"Sorry again, Mr. de. . . um. . ."
I smiled politely. "Why don't you just call me Ted?"
"Thank you, Ted," she said. "I can handle that one, but I'll practice the other one. I'm Nancy Stillman." She held out her hand and I shook it. "Please, call me Nancy." Then she handed me an identification card for me to keep.
"Please," I said, indicating the way to the livingroom. She followed me in. "Sweetheart," I said when I got there, "could you turn off your cartoons for awhile, please?"
"Okay, Daddy," she said and pushed a few buttons on the remote, turning off both the DVD player and the television.
"Nancy," I said, "this is my daughter, Lindsay."
"Hello," Nancy said, smiling.
"Hi," Lindsay replied.
"And this is my. . . ah. . . partner, Brad Hayes."
Brad stood up and offered his hand. "Pleased to meet you," he said.
"Very nice to meet you," she said, smiling and shaking his hand. "A nice, easy last name for me to pronounce."
Brad smiled at her. "Can I get you anything?" he asked. "Coffee? Tea?"
"Coffee would be wonderful, thank you," she replied. "Just a smidgen of milk, please."
Brad left to get her coffee and I indicated the chair at the end of the coffee table for Nancy. She sat as I took my place beside Lindsay. She crawled immediately into my lap."
Nancy set her briefcase on the coffee table and opened it up. "May I ask how long you and Mr. Hayes have been together?" She pulled a notepad and pen from it.
"Just over three months, actually."
"Is he the reason for your marriage ending?"
"No," I answered. "I was already divorced when I met Brad. I was still hetero then, too."
She smiled. "Late bloomer," she said.
I had to smile back. "Yes, I guess you could say that."
Brad returned with Nancy's coffee and set it on the coffee table in front of her, spinning it so the handle faced her.
"Thank you," she said.
"You're welcome." He took his seat beside me.
Nancy picked up her coffee mug and took a noisy, cautious sip. "Ahh," she exclaimed. "Perfect."
"Well, Lindsay," Nancy said, "it looks like I caught you during one of your visits with your Father."
"No," Lindsay said, shaking her head. "I live here now."
Nancy looked questioningly at me. I said to Lindsay, "Sweetheart, why don't you go with Brad and get a bowl of ice cream, okay?"
"Can I put chocolate syrup on it?"
"Sure," I said. She crawled into Brad's lap. He picked her up and headed for the kitchen.
"She's certainly not afraid of him," Nancy said quietly.
"Far from it," I told her. "She adores him." Then I leaned toward her. She leaned toward me as well. My voice was little more than a hush. "I have sole custody of Lindsay. Her mother is in prison for abusing her. She's relinquished all parental rights to Lindsay."
Nancy's face was deeply concerned. "Oh, dear," she said. "How bad was the abuse?"
"She fractured Lindsay's arm just for looking at her make-up kit."
"Oh, the poor dear," she said. "She looks so happy now."
"She is," I told her. "I have all the court papers here. Should I get them?"
Nancy shook her head. "Not right now. Could you explain quickly about you and Mr. Hayes? You said you were straight before?"
"Yes. He lived next door with his parents. He helped me move in and we became friends. And then we just sort of fell in love with each other."
"And you had no homosexual urges before that?"
"None, and neither did Brad."
"Well," she said smiling. "You never know where you're going to find it, do you?"
"No, you don't." I smiled back.
"Thank you," Nancy said. "I'll talk to you in private about the court case. Is it okay to talk about you and Brad with your daughter here?"
"Yes. We're very open with our relationship with her. She understands it."
She nodded and sat back in her chair. I settled back into the sofa again. "Okay, Brad!" I called.
Nancy pulled a paper out of her briefcase. "I'm going to need to see your Social Insurance card, OHIP card, your birth certificate, and. . . your driver's license."
I pulled them out of my wallet and handed them to her. She glanced at my birth certificate and OHIP cards and handed them back to me, then wrote down my SIN and license numbers before handing them back as well. "Your address and phone number? And a number at work?"
I told them to her, including my cell number, as Brad and Lindsay returned. She set her sundae on the coffee table, knelt on the carpet, and dug right in. Brad had also added some chopped nuts and red maraschino cherries with a squirt of whipped cream on top.
Nancy finished writing, added some extra info in a few other spaces, then handed the paper to me. "If you could fill this out and fax it to me at the number at the top as soon as possible?"
"You'll have it tomorrow morning," I assured her.
We continued for awhile, filling out the proper waivers and information release forms and references before getting into the more casual info-gathering chat.
"Whose idea was it to adopt?" Nancy asked.
"Mine," Lindsay said, a dollop of ice cream dripping down her chin. I handed her a tissue. "I wanted a baby brother and Daddy said he would try to get one for me."
Nancy looked at me. "Surely that's not your only reason."
"No," I said, shaking my head. "I hadn't really thought about it until Lindsay mentioned it. Her uncles are thinking of adopting and that's where she got the idea. That started me thinking and I liked the idea, so I decided I'd like to check into it."
She turned to Brad. "How do you feel about it?"
"Ted and I have talked about it a lot," he said. "It was a mutual decision."
"It was a three-way decision, actually," I said. "Lindsay had as much input into the decision as we did. It was a family decision which we all had to make."
"And if one of you didn't agree?"
"Then you wouldn't be sitting here now," I told her.
Nancy nodded. "Good answer," she said. To Lindsay, she asked, "So, you want a little brother?"
"Yup."
"Lindsay?" I said, reminding her of her manners.
"Yes," Lindsay said, correcting herself.
"What about a little sister?" Nancy asked.
Lindsay's nose crinkled. "No," she said. "I want a brother. A sister would want to play with all my toys and wear all my clothes."
Nancy chuckled.
"What are our chances, Nancy?" I asked. "As a single father and gay couple, I mean."
"Well, there are plenty of children who need permanent homes with loving parents. We would need to find a child for whom you would be well-suited. Of course, it's more difficult finding children for a gay couple." She became pensive for a long moment, then asked, "May I speak with you privately, please?"
"Of course," I said as I stood up. "Brad, keep Lindsay here."
Brad nodded.
I took Nancy into the kitchen. Her voice was low and hushed. "As you know, it's the policy of CAS to find parents suitable to the children. Not the other way around."
I nodded.
"It's not possible to find gay children for gay couples unless they're in their teens."
My hands came up defensively. "Whoa," I said. "I'm not sure I'm ready for a teen-aged boy."
"No, no," she said quickly. "I'm sorry, I'm not doing this very well. What I'm trying to say is that we have to find suitable parents for the children, to give them some sort of familiarity with the new family. Something that they know and are comfortable with."
"I think I understand."
"Good," she said. "How would you feel about adopting more than one child?"
My eyes popped open in surprise. "How many more?" I asked hesitantly.
"Just one more." There was an odd look of wariness in her eyes, combined with a look of hope.
My eyes turned to the side for a few seconds, then back to Nancy's. "We'd have to talk about it and I'd have to do a lot of thinking."
Her hand rested gently on my arm. "Please, Ted, do that."
"You have some children in mind," I stated. "Boys or girls?"
"I can't say anything more," she said. "Please, just think about it and get back to me as soon as you can."
"Okay, I will."
We returned to the livingroom. Brad refreshed our coffees and Nancy stayed and chatted with us until she finished her coffee.
"It was wonderful meeting all of you," she said with a pleasant smile. "I hope to see you again soon."
With farewells completed, I showed her to the door. "Thank you," I said.
"You won't forget, will you?" she asked quietly.
"No," I assured her. "You'll have an answer soon."
I closed the door after Nancy left and returned to the livingroom. Brad was standing, waiting for me. I went right into his arms. "I think it's going to happen, Brad," I said.
He hugged me.
"Am I going to get a baby brother, Daddy?" Lindsay was sitting on the sofa now, her sundae finished long ago.
"I don't know, Sweetheart," I said honestly and separated myself from Brad, "but you might."
I sat down and she climbed into my lap. "I hope so," she said.
"So do I, Sweetheart."
Later, when Lindsay was in bed and asleep, Brad and I lay together in our bed, staring up at the ceiling. "I wanted to bounce this off you first before we talk to Lindsay about it."
"What?" Brad asked.
"When Nancy took me into the kitchen, she asked how I would feel about adopting two kids."
"Wow," Brad said. "Two. Boys or girls or one of each?"
"I don't know. She couldn't tell me anything," I said. "She wanted me to think about it first."
"We'd need at least one more bathroom. Where would we put them?"
"If it's two boys, in the study off the livingroom," I said. "It's supposed to be a bedroom anyway. The only thing we use in there is the computer. We could take out the closets and the closet in the foyer and extend into the study a bit to make a new bathroom. It wouldn't need to be very big. Just big enough for a toilet, sink, and small tub and shower combo. There would still be room in the study for two beds. I've been thinking of extending this bedroom room into the back yard to add an en suite, too. We can even cut into here a bit. This room is way too big for us anyway. It's mostly empty. That would give the kids their own bathrooms."
"Whoa, Ted," Brad said. "You're talking major renovations here."
"I know," I said. "I can handle it."
Brad turned his head to me. "You've already decided, haven't you?"
I looked at him. "Yes," I told him. "I just need you and Lindsay to agree."
"Are you sure you can do it? At least until I get out of school and start working?"
"I can do it, Brad."
He smiled his chipped-tooth smile. "Then I'm in."
Brad got plenty of hugs and kisses that night before we fell asleep.
Nancy Stillman had her answer the next morning when I faxed her the completed form she'd asked me to fill out. Two brothers for Lindsay would not be out of the question.
* * * * *
My birthday fell on a Wednesday that October. Since Thanksgiving, Lindsay had been sneaking around and whispering and calling people on the phone and helping Brad carry plastic bags full of stuff downstairs into the laundry room and doing her best to pretend that absolutely nothing was going on. I, of course, pretended nothing was going on, too.
The Sunday night before my birthday, as we lay in bed and Brad cuddled me in his arms, he whispered, "You have to be late getting home on Wednesday. Lindsay's going frantic because one of your guests can't be here before six."
"How late should I be?"
"Six-thirty should be good."
"Okay, I'll handle it in the morning."
"You should see her, Ted," he said. His smile was bright, even in the dim light from the digital clock beside our bed. "She's so excited."
"I am, too," I said, "but I'm a bit worried. How humiliated will I be?"
"It's nowhere near the Thwack-Thwack thing," he assured me with a stifled giggle. "It's going to be cute."
"You're not just saying that, are you?"
"No, Ted," he promised. "It's really cute. You'll like it."
"If I don't, my ass is off limits for a month."
"Better grease up then, Baby, ‘cuz Wednesday night, you're going to enjoy the present I give you when we get to bed."
I grinned at him and winked. "You've given me that gift before."
"I'll tie a blue ribbon around it."
* * * * *
The next morning, at breakfast, I told Lindsay I was going to be late getting home from work on Wednesday. "I have to put new snow tires on the car before winter," I told her.
Her pretty little face lit up and a huge smile split her lips. "Really, Daddy? That's too bad."
I wouldn't be putting new tires on the car, of course. The all-season radials were only a few months old, but Lindsay wouldn't know the difference. She rarely looks at car tires.
That afternoon, my telephone rang at work. "Good afternoon," I said. "Ted de Villiers speaking."
"Hello, Ted?" the voice said. "This is Nancy Stillman."
"Hi, Nancy."
"Would it be possible for you and Brad to come to CAS. . . say. . . Wednesday afternoon?" I listened carefully to her voice. I couldn't hear anything in it except an official tone.
"I can be there," I told her. "Brad has classes at Ryerson, but I'll see if he can get away. Would you like Lindsay there, too?"
"No," she replied. "But I need Mr. Hayes here. Could you be here at two?"
"We'll be there."
"Good," she said. "I'll make the appointment for you. See you Wednesday."
My heart began to race. This was much too fast. Why did she need Brad there? Why not Lindsay? This was a family thing. I didn't sleep well for the next two nights.
Brad took his classes on Wednesday morning and came directly to my office from the GO station. By two o'clock. We were walking through the front door of CAS. I announced my appointment with Nancy and the receptionist directed us to have a seat as she called Nancy on the telephone.
A few minutes later, Nancy came into the reception room. We stood up to greet her. "Nice to see you again," she said as she shook our hands. "Please, follow me." She took us to her office and indicated chairs for us. We sat.
Nancy sorted through some folders on her desk and pulled one of them out and opened it. "Mr. Hayes," she said to Brad, "would you be willing to let us look into your personal information? Like your medical reports, criminal records, and such?"
"Of course," he said. "May I ask why? I won't be adopting anyone."
"Well, CAS would like to consider you a couple and your information would certainly help."
"Sure, okay," Brad said. "What do I have to do?"
By two-forty, Nancy had all the information she needed and Brad had signed all the necessary papers. Nancy looked at her watch. "There's someone I'd like you both to see," she said. "Would you come with me?"
She took us down a hall, through a door, and down another short hall. She stopped in front of a door with an electronic lock, slid a magnetic card attached to her wrist through the slot, and opened the door. We entered and she followed us in.
The room was dark. A pair of large windows faced into a room filled with toys and desks and such. A young woman sat in a chair, watching two little tousle-haired boys playing quietly together on the floor. One of them looked right up at the window, and he looked right at me.
I waved instinctively. "He can't see you," Nancy said. "It's a one-way mirror."
But I knew better. The boy was looking right at me. My hand found Brad's hand and I squeezed it. The boy went back to playing with his car. They were both blond, and both wore identical jeans and sneakers. Even their socks were the same colour. The only difference in them was their shirts. They were both white, but one had light-blue stripes and the other had red stripes. The boys were twins, and they were identical.
"The boy in blue is named Justin," Nancy said. He was the boy who had looked at me. "The boy in red is Jeremy. They're four years old."
I was speechless. I don't think I could have talked, even if I had anything to say.
"Their father was killed about a year and a half ago. He was a single father like yourself, Ted, and he was gay as well. The boys have been in a number of foster homes since then. You may have read about the case, or heard it on the news. The father's lover murdered him and abandoned the boys. He left them alone for almost two days with their father lying dead on the floor before the police found them."
"I remember that," Brad said. I felt him shudder. I did, too, but I still couldn't say anything.
"The twins are inseparable and they're very wary of people," Nancy added. "They don't interact well with adults. Especially females. That's one of the reasons it's been so difficult to find a home for them. It's difficult to find someone willing to adopt both of them. That's why I asked you if you would consider adopting two children."
"What. . ." My voice cracked. I cleared my throat and I tried again. "What's the other reason?"
Nancy hesitated a moment before responding. "Neither of them has spoken a single word since we found them."
I watched Justin as he played with the car. It was one of those transformer cars that turns into a robot. I watched as he opened it and closed it all back up again. He opened it once more before setting it aside and picking up another toy.
"Can I meet them?" I asked.
"If you wish," Nancy said. "I can have them brought to my office."
"Can I meet them in there? Alone?"
"I suppose so," she said. "It's just the viewing room, but I suppose you could. Debbie will have to stay in there with you, though."
"Okay," I said. "That's fine."
"I'll go with you," Brad said.
"No," I told him. My eyes never left the window. "Wait here."
Nancy picked up a phone on the wall and pushed a button. A buzz came over the speaker. The woman in the room stood and picked up the phone behind her. "It's Nancy. Ted de Villiers is coming in to meet them."
Debbie turned to the mirror and nodded, then hung up the phone, as did Nancy.
"First door to the left," Nancy said. "Just knock and Debbie will let you in."
I squeezed Brad's hand again, then released it and walked out the door. I moved down the hall to the next door and knocked. It opened almost immediately. I held a finger to my lips in a ‘shushing' motion. Debbie nodded and stepped aside.
The boys looked up at me as I entered. They stopped playing. Debbie closed the door and sat down again. I knelt on the floor in front of the toys. I picked up a car and examined it, set it down and looked at another toy. Setting it aside as well, I picked up the transformer car. I'd watched Justin do it. I began working at putting it back into its car shape.
I started twisting the arms and folding them into themselves I knew they made the front wheels and sides of the car, but I couldn't get them in place. I tinkered and turned and twisted. And then two little hands came toward me, grasped the arm, turned it, and tucked it easily into place.
I looked up at the boy with the blue shirt. "Thank you, Justin," I said gently, and I smiled at him.
I put the other arm into position as I had been shown. I did the same with the legs, trying to make them into the back wheels of the car. Again, Justin's hands came out and showed me how. "Thank you," I said again. A tiny smile curled Justin's lips.
I turned my attention to the head now. I knew where it went, but I knelt there, pushing with my fingers and turning the car over and over in my hand. "Jeremy," I said as I looked up. "What do I do with the head?"
Jeremy reached out and tucked the head neatly and easily into place. The car was complete. "Thank you, Jeremy."
Jeremy looked at Justin and then back at me. I smiled and his lips curled up in the same way Justin's had done. Their faces were identical except for a tiny scar above Justin's upper lip. I took careful note of that scar. "My name is Ted. Thank you for letting me play with your car."
I stood up and left the room, heading back to rejoin Brad and Nancy. I went immediately to Brad and hugged him tightly and kissed his cheek. Nancy was getting the full treatment and I didn't care. This was us, and I wouldn't put up false fronts for her benefit. I had just had one of the best moments in my life and I wanted to share it with him. Brad held me just as tightly, and I started to cry.
To Be Continued