Wedding Planning

[ufjock1987]

Fiance and I are planning our wedding for next April and have been looking for inspiration and vendors. Most vendors we've spoken with haven't done a non-hetero wedding. While searching for hours, I found this sweet video of two guys on their wedding day, and I love how traditional the event looks. To me it's uncommon to find any many resources that match this for gay weddings, but maybe it is all location specific.

Anyone else going through wedding planning, advice?

 

[ufjock1987]

 

[Pierresro]

where IS THE VIDEO ARE YOU THERE???

 

[ufjock1987]

where IS THE VIDEO ARE YOU THERE???

vimeo.com/393458030

I tried posting it but it wouldn't upload

 

[TX-Beau]

You can't find a gay wedding planner?

It's worth the expense.

 

[ufjock1987]

You can't find a gay wedding planner?

It's worth the expense.

Sure, wedding planners are very helpful! The vendors are still the same regardless if the planner has done gay/straight weddings before. Looking at event spaces, you’re held to contractual agreements of using specific caterers, florists, etc that work with specific companies. I’m finding these vendors to be a struggle.

Unsure if anyone that’s gotten married has dealt with the same. I understand they don’t specialize in gay weddings, but it’s a strange blanket of ignorance

 

[TX-Beau]

Been through it. So what exactly is the struggle. How exactly does the florist/caterer/event space need to change their service based on the gender of the couple? Nobody we used gave a fuck so long as the checks were good, and we're in Texas.

 

[ufjock1987]

Been through it. So what exactly is the struggle. How exactly does the florist/caterer/event space need to change their service based on the gender of the couple? Nobody we used gave a fuck so long as the checks were good, and we're in Texas.

I'm really glad you had a great experience man, I'm looking to maybe hear from people that can provide a little more input? All event spaces we've toured have never done a gay wedding, we run into things like "are you the grooms brother?" "when is the bride coming to meet up?". Florist had the preconceived notion that we'd want rainbow colored roses. Looking online and so many people have been meant with the same. Maybe we just need a destination wedding to Texas.

 

[MusicMan321]

Hey congrats on you two getting married hope everything turns out good for the both of you

 

[briefs4me]

My fiancé and I were going to do the Las Vegas wedding thing. Unfortunately, the coronavirus has put that on hold. I guess it all depends on where you live. We live in North Carolina and there is NO way we would be able to get married here. Maybe try a destination wedding?

 

[TX-Beau]

I'm really glad you had a great experience man, I'm looking to maybe hear from people that can provide a little more input? All event spaces we've toured have never done a gay wedding, we run into things like "are you the grooms brother?" "when is the bride coming to meet up?". Florist had the preconceived notion that we'd want rainbow colored roses. Looking online and so many people have been meant with the same. Maybe we just need a destination wedding to Texas.

Get used to it, people will be assuming you're married to a woman for the rest of your life. If it's not malicious, who gives a fuck? We got the same thing, but really, you correct and you move on, unless you're getting bigots and 'phobes deliberately trying to hate on you - pick your battles. There is enough stress involved without bothering yourself with silliness.