Weird date

[tallguy23]

So I met this guy on Scruff a few months back and we've been chatting for awhile. He recently moved to my city and we decided to grab dinner and drinks. All of our chats previously were really nice and we seemed to have a lot in common.

1. He's super hot and definitely my physical type. So that's that.

2. He was 25 minutes late because he had an unexpected business call. He then spent the first 15 minutes of the date talking about the business call and how much money it would make him. He also told me about all his income streams and his how much money he makes from each.

3. He barely asked me any questions about me. He mainly talked about his career and how he's guarded because so many people take advantage of him and try to use him. He said that his friends never get hit on but people will approach him at bars and grope him and that it makes him angry.

4. He then showed me his abs and said he needs to lose more fat to truly look good.

Just wanted to get an outsiders perspective because it was truly a mind-boggling date. Especially since he appeared so calm and grounded before we met.

 

[swerve]

It sounds like he is insecure with himself.

A good way to handle that (as the other party of the date) -- would be to compliment him and show interest in what he is saying.

It is OK to make it all about him.

Although -- it may not lead to another date. With the physical attraction -- I would have probably steered it into a hookup instead.

That is my perspective.

 

[eastofeden]

Hard to say....

Maybe he was nervous? I think at least sometimes people can be very different online and off.

My ultimate deciding factor is if there was any chemistry? I guess physical attraction is chemistry for some people....but chemistry is what it is...unique...different with different people. I think if you have to force chemistry you should look elsewhere.

As for weird...I would have had to tell him I needed to go. I had "money guy" once for a few years..abusive fuck....and he wanted me to care about his money which is why he talked alot like your date...and I didn't care about his fucking money. I paid for everything myself even when he insisted on paying. It pissed him off because money=power and control...it does for alot of people...especially the ones who brag about it.

..but that is just my opinion....

Good Luck!

 

[KaraBulut]

Survey says, "narcissist".

 

[SixpackSimonGermany]

Doesn't sound good, does it? He wants to show off his money and his body. So sounds like a good one for a few nights, but nothing for a relationship, dunno what you are looking for in him.

 

[Seasoned]

An attention seeker complaining about getting attention? The lady doth protest too much.

 

[TX-Beau]

Survey says, "narcissist".

Second.

There are red flags all over this. If you an have his body and ignore the rest, go for it. There is no better way to seduce a narcissist than by generally ignoring him.

 

[mcbrion]

Doesn't sound good, does it? He wants to show off his money and his body. So sounds like a good one for a few nights, but nothing for a relationship, dunno what you are looking for in him.

Or perhaps, just not have sex with him at all, DON'T have a second date and DO go find someone who can relate to the OP.

 

[grcd24]

Either an extremely nervous guy who can't handle his stress properly or just a narcissist. The second option seems more plausible.