Weird feelings

[Wunderklad]

Yesterday I came out to my father (nice christmas present lol) thx to the help of few drinks. He gave me the normal speech that it might just be a phase but was very supportive.

I was just wondering... is it normal that I feel disgusted of myself because I told him, even if everything went more than perfectly?

 

[number42]

It is. You probably weren't ready to come out yet, so telling him while under influence probably made you have second toughts about it. Those second toughts would not have been there if you prepared yourself for it.

While your sexuality is not a phase, this IS. Just go on with your life, in a short while the disgusted feeling will be gone. You'll be comfortable with the fact that he knows.

 

[panda29]

Once it sinks in that you came out to him, it will feel like you were reborn.You can start to live your life openly.

 

[KaraBulut]

I was just wondering... is it normal that I feel disgusted of myself because I told him, even if everything went more than perfectly?

Only in the way that it feels really weird when you take off a heavy backpack that you've been carrying around for a while. You got used to the heavy backpack. You'll get used to not having the heavy backpack and after a little while you'll think,"God it feels good to get rid of that damned backpack".

Coming out is a lot like getting rid of a heavy burden so that you can get on with the rest of your life.

If you're still feeling disgusted after a while, then it's not about the coming out to other people... it's about not accepting yourself.

 

[Wunderklad]

If you're still feeling disgusted after a while, then it's not about the coming out to other people... it's about not accepting yourself.

I'm fine arround people that I came out to, I don't know... I think it's just weird that my dad knows. =/

Anyway, thanks guys for the answers, really appreciate.

 

[asianstudlover]

Yesterday I came out to my father (nice christmas present lol) thx to the help of few drinks. He gave me the normal speech that it might just be a phase but was very supportive.

I was just wondering... is it normal that I feel disgusted of myself because I told him, even if everything went more than perfectly?

Nobody said its easy coming out even if it IS "easy". The emotions are sometimes hard to swallow. Youve announced to others nd most importantly in a formal way to yourself that you are gay. Your dad was basically supportive, but lets not forget gay boys are boys and a lot of the times we want to emulate or please our fathers or at least live up to their expections if they are reasonable.
Youre just new at being out to him. It feels like you put a burden on him, when really you took one off yourself and made it more honest clear and real for him in the long run.
Give it time. But congrats. Fantastic courage-that can take

 

[asianstudlover]

I'm fine arround people that I came out to, I don't know... I think it's just weird that my dad knows. =/

Anyway, thanks guys for the answers, really appreciate.

BTW I havent posted alot since I joined but I remember joining JUB after I came out. and it looks like you have too.

 

[tipmyscales86]

It's normal to have that awkward "what did I just do?" feeling after coming out sometimes. I felt that way after coming out to my dad. He was supportive, but a cynical part of me wondered if he was sincere, but over time I became assured that he was.

 

[Wunderklad]

BTW I havent posted alot since I joined but I remember joining JUB after I came out. and it looks like you have too.

Hehe nah, I've been crawling arround for a while =)