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Shady007

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Ok so I've been hooking up with this black male for about half a year now and its been fantastic, pretty much everything I ever wanted. First let me describe this guy, he 6'2 is say around 210 lbs, well toned, nice smile, big fuckin dick (9 inches) and we get along just fine. We have mind blowing sex, we make out, I can suck his dick for hours he pounds my ass like I've never experienced. So when I say we have incredible sex I mean it. Like I said hes been fuckin me for the past 6 months, the routine usually goes something like this: I call or text him to see if hes free and he gets back to me and if he is I come over and ride his dick for hours and I leave afterwars, I dont hang around or anything. But today he texted and this is how our conversation went:

HIM: Would you ever consider being in a relationship?
ME: Like with a guy..boyfriend type thing?
HIM: Yea..
ME: ikd..i've never been emotionally involved with another man..y do u ask?
HIM: Its just that i've been thinking about it, and we have sex like we are in love already and we get along really good
ME: Yea..so?
HIM: So..shouldnt that mean something?
ME: I dont think so..im really only in love with your dick lol.
HIM: I know that, believe me I wasnt born yesterday at the beggining I only wanted sex from you but lately things have changed for me
ME: How so?
HIM: Well since we decided to be exclusive (sex wise) my feelings have grown for you..and eventually I would like to be your man
ME: I dontknow about that..this is all a bit weird for me..
HIM: Give it a try..
ME: Ill think about it and ill get back to you later..

This is where our conversation ended. So what I'm thinking is why does this guy want a relationship? I dont, I'm more than happy with just gettin sex from me. I really dont know the rest of the emotional baggage that comes with it. Another part of me though is telling me to go along with it, because I absolutely love having sex with him and I highly doubt ill find some one else like that. In other words I dont want to lose his enormous cock..let me know what you think guys..

p.s I attached some of his dick pics so you can see what im talking about
 

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Well I guess the first questions is whether you are gay or bi - the curious status went away. Secondly, are you out? Third, do you really want a relationship with another man right now? Do you still date women? I can see not wanting to let that cock go - but there is more to life and a relationship than sex.
 
From what you've said, it's pretty simple. You're not "relationship" material right now. All you have to do is tell him "not now".
 
Be upfront and honest. Tell him the way it is. If he leaves, then he leaves. There are other big cocks out there, but like previously said, there's more to it than a big dick.
 
What baggage are you afraid of? His or yours?

It sounds like he has his head screwed on straight. If you went to a movie or had dinner together, would that be so bad? Maybe introduce him to a friend or two.

He digs you. When someone tells you that you're worth hanging out with more than just in the sack, that is a big compliment. It would be a big mistake if you didn't let him know you were at least taking the idea seriously.

You can be honest and tell him you have never thought like that before and you don't know how it is going to work out. But at least tell him you are impressed by the fact that he has given you a great compliment, and that you will think about it.
 
bankside said:
What baggage are you afraid of? His or yours?

It sounds like he has his head screwed on straight. If you went to a movie or had dinner together, would that be so bad? Maybe introduce him to a friend or two.

He digs you. When someone tells you that you're worth hanging out with more than just in the sack, that is a big compliment. It would be a big mistake if you didn't let him know you were at least taking the idea seriously.

You can be honest and tell him you have never thought like that before and you don't know how it is going to work out. But at least tell him you are impressed by the fact that he has given you a great compliment, and that you will think about it.
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I consider myself bi, i still date women, no I'm not out to anyone. This is all just brand new to me, I've only been emotionally attached to women, never men. I'm worried about the baggage that comes with a full on relationship..you guys know what I mean right? And about the dick thing, I know theres more to it than a big dick, but I only feel like that toward women. To me men are just that..only for dick thats all. Is that so wrong of me?
 
I think you should try it and see what happens if it doesn't work out then tell him, you won't know if there is baggage if you don't at least try it
 
hopefully you told him you were bi to begin with. if not you need to tell him now and that you are mostly into women in terms of any emotional attachment. then you need to be prepared for him to say ok, then no more.
 
Make it clear to him you don't want a relationship with a man. You have made it clear to us that you don't want one yet.

Do not mess him around because you are worried he won't fuck you anymore.
 
Well, sounds like a hot guy. Sounds like a nice guy. It doesn't happen every day that a guy like that serves himself up on a plate.

I understand the expression now "You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink."

But no there is nothing wrong with not wanting a relationship, as long as you let him know.
 
Nah man i dont think there is anything wrong with only wanting his cock. Im the same way. Im hot for guys but just not emotionally. its all physical attraction. I only see myself ever being in a relationship with a woman and having them buds on the side for a suck or fuck every once in a while. And damn you definitely can not give up that cock.. it looks so fuckin good.. YUM YUM YUM.. does he got any brothers lol..|
 
Shady007 said:
I'm worried about the baggage that comes with a full on relationship..you guys know what I mean right?
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No, I don't know what you mean.

Basically, he is just an object to you and you have told him as much. Now he needs to decide if that is OK with him for the future. If you are incapable of emotionally committing to him, you are incapable of it. You have been upfront about it.

You may not be able to do better than him, but he sure could do better than you.
 
Yeah, thing with the friends with benefits kind of thing is that it may bring emotional attachment which obviously the guy is experiencing. People have said to try it. So why not? You'll never know unless you try it. And if anything, you don't have to go out skipping down the street together and holding hands, lol. If you end up not having any emotional attachment to him, I guess it's best for you to stop seeing him.

You know why? The hurt will just grow if you continue to see him while he begins to get more feelings for you.
 
I'd say there's nothing wrong with your situation IF the other guy looked at it the same way you do, but that's not the case. It sounds like he may genuinely care for you, but you told him that you're only into him for his dick. Is he out? If he is, I doubt he'll want to continue what you have solely as a secret relationship. And you two are exclusive? You've been banging each other for six months, so making it a relationship isn't much more of a step. It's not like you have to move in together. But you might do things that don't always involve sex. You should make up your mind sooner rather than later. It wouldn't be fair to let his feelings for you grow when you know you're not going to reciprocate them.
 
Ugh. So it finally ended. I really dont want to get into details ( LOOOOONG STORY ) but we both reached a mutual agreement that its best we stop seeing eachother. End of Story.
 
it is best especially for him. now he can pursue someone that wants to love him.
 
Next time you find someone, make it clear from the beginning. You really don't want to get someone's feelings hurt. Don't know if his were or not, just saying.
 
Shady007 said:
Ugh. So it finally ended. I really dont want to get into details ( LOOOOONG STORY ) but we both reached a mutual agreement that its best we stop seeing eachother. End of Story.
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Ending the "Fuck-Buddy" friendship was the best thing for both of you. He wanted more and when he asked for more you basically said "No" in so many words. It looks like he got the picture.

Was he Bi or Gay? I had a solid "Fuck buddy" friendship with a Bi-Guy for over a year and we both had an "understanding". We did become good friends and even traveled together. In my situation, I think if one of us "wanted" to explore being Lovers it would have worked because we were seeing each other for so many months.

We liked each others company in and out of the bedroom. So it would have been easy for the 2 of us to start dating..So I guess over the 12-months we graduated from "Fuck Buddies" to "Friends with benefits"....

I guess you was still (& wanted to remain) in that STRICT "Fuck-Buddy" phase which made it easy for you to say "No thanks" to dating....
 
sex is never without consequences , just remember if you continue to have two bob each way one day you WILL be sprung. so get your story straight now ! good luck.
 
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