well...I found out!

[socalnate20]

This is the update to my previous post "I don't unterstand him"....turns out It was never who I thought it was!...

..."erik" and I had a long distance relationship that lasted 6 months!!!...and a week ago remember he said I deserved the best and all that bullshit...well "erik" and I spoke for the first time today after a week..and he said he didn't know how to tell me..I was prepared for him to say something like we couldn't be together for whatever reason,but we could still be good friends...turns out "erik" is realy antonio!

Yes that's right guys!!... this whole 6 months I was just being played!...he said he was getting the pics from some guys profile on myspace...so I told him I wanted the url to the page...and it was true...this guy is an aspireing model in ensenada...he was the popular jock in high school,he's the same age as me 19...but I was going through this guys pics,and he has pics of himself with his girlfriends and all his buddys...

...I couldn't hold back but cry when I was looking at this,beacouse it was true and this guy in the pics is the guy that gave me all the confindence to accept that I liked guys and everything was gonna be ok as long as I was with him...and in reality he doesn't even know who the fuck I am!

I told antonio who's realy only 18 that I truly hope no one ever plays with his heart and feelings the way he did to me,beacouse it realy hurts a lot!

I'm glad now that I didn't come out to my mom about "erik" beacouse he doesn't exist ...atleast not in my life.

 

[kevbo]

That sucks.

Although it speaks volumes about how cautious one should be when attempting internet relationships.

 

[Kouken]

Internet dating has always been a dangerous thing but personally I think you got more lucky then other.

I think in the end from what I read and how I understand what you said is that you fell more in love with the 'picture' then the actual person behind it.I understand that what he did was wrong and to lie is something someone should never do but at least he had enough balls to tell you.

He could have played along with the lie,asked to meet you and you would have been in hot water from that point onward.It sounds kind of like it started with a lie and during those six months he grew to care for you and rather then risk hurting you more he attempted to break it off.

It just seems kind of strange to me that over those six months you grew to like this guy in return and threw him you were able to overcome many things and come to likes guys.

I might be in the wrong in saying this and if I am then just find yourself scrolling right by but it sounds like he gave you alot of things but once you found out the pictures were fake you slapped him in the face with 'you're not who you said you were,I don't like you anymore."

I don't know the whole story and I don't think I ever will but this is just my take on it but answer me one question.If he showed you his real picture when everything started and he was say 'fat' would you still give him the time of day?

 

[Ohiospeedo]

You know you never mentioned in the prior post that you had never even met the guy, and that this was just an internet relationship. Here is a suggestion, don't do any internet dating. It is fine if you meet friends on the internet, and get invested into a friendship. But until you meet someone in real life, don't start dating. People are different people in the real world.

 

[socalnate20]

Well this guy said that he usually just went online to get off with other guys,but when he started chatting with me...he was actually interested in just chatting


...so he got to know me,and I know it was stupid of me to date him,but see that's how sprung up I was on "erik"...and at first I didn't think of it to be fake,beacouse I met him on gaywatch (myspace but gay)...and he had a few pics on there,and then I asked for more and they were all of "erik"....so I didn't think nothing of it,and then we started talking on the phone,and that was it....I guess that's why I'm soo sad right now,beacouse "eriks" real name is sergio and I'll never know what his voice sounds like.

And no I didn't just fall in love with his pics,beacouse when u see his regular pics you don't think he's a model...he looks like an average healthy fit guy.

But this just realy hurts a lot,even though antonio came out and appologized,and you know I didn't feel a lot of anger towards him...I was more hurt that I never met the guy that I fell in love with.

 

[mascbiguy]

...I couldn't hold back but cry when I was looking at this,beacouse it was true and this guy in the pics is the guy that gave me all the confindence to accept that I liked guys and everything was gonna be ok as long as I was with him...and in reality he doesn't even know who the fuck I am!

he didnt give you the confidence, it was in you. you just needed some one to open you up to your self.

 

[backpacker]

Given the way you met, I guess it's not surprising that he used a fake name and pics. He's probably in the closet and did it to protect himself. It went much further than he ever expected it to and he didn't know how to get out of the lie. He doesn't sound like a creep that was just out to mess with you. Of course it still hurts, but maybe it will hurt a little less if you think that it wasn't his intent.