hello... it's only been a few hours.... snail mail, not slow email. Patience, we're all dying to hear. Geez. LOL
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Well...It's Written, Advice Wanted
- Thread starter Moi10
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ok well its been 2 days..i mailed it at 230ish on tues...i figure they prolly wouldve gotten it by now, no?
i think this is the one reason i had my doubts about doin the letter...you don't have their immediate reaction...but in this situatuiion it was best.
now im starting to worry about how im gunna react when they finally do call me back...eep.
i think this is the one reason i had my doubts about doin the letter...you don't have their immediate reaction...but in this situatuiion it was best.
now im starting to worry about how im gunna react when they finally do call me back...eep.
halubtsi
Optimist Eternal
Moi10, just take a deep breath and try not to think too much about it. Your mind will be working overtime trying to anticipate every conceivable reaction, and you're just going to end up stressing yourself out. So, take a break and just relax. Go out with some friends and enjoy yourself.
If you're too impatient, you could always call your parents to see if they received the letter. Of course, if they didn't receive it, then they'll be asking you why you sent them a letter. And if you don't tell them the reason, they'll begin to stress out.
I hope the silence will be broken soon. Waiting in anticipation can be excruciating. I did an e-mail come out once...I vowed never to do it again. Way too much stress while waiting for my liking.
If you're too impatient, you could always call your parents to see if they received the letter. Of course, if they didn't receive it, then they'll be asking you why you sent them a letter. And if you don't tell them the reason, they'll begin to stress out.
I hope the silence will be broken soon. Waiting in anticipation can be excruciating. I did an e-mail come out once...I vowed never to do it again. Way too much stress while waiting for my liking.
Yea, i think that they will be the only ones i do a letter to..of course it just had to be my parents lol. But when your 8 hours from home , in school in Buffalo, it really was the only way.
halubtsi
Optimist Eternal
You could have told them at Thanksgiving next week? I told mine on Good Friday, when I went home for Easter. I go to school 8 hours from my parents as well. But truth be told, it wasn't any better the way I chose to do it. I boarded a milk-run bus at midnight from Ottawa, it took 6 hours to Toronto. My parents picked me up in Toronto and we drove 4 hours home to Windsor. So, for 10 hours, I was just nervous and tense. Best comings out are the ones you don't really plan, but you're the one in control of the situation. ie: You see a friend at Christmas after 10 years, and after catching up, you make a gay reference.
I just realized your Thanksgiving isn't for another 2 months. And I doubt you go home for Columbus Day. lol
as we all wait... at least they deliver mail on saturday so we hopefully won't have to wait until monday.
well....they got the letter...at least my dad did. ends up my mom was out east for the weekend with all the females in our family for a "womens weekend" so shell read it like tomorrow.
he called me after reading it...one of the first things he said (after me explaining how i almost died in Canada last night...LOOONG story lol when i get time ill post it in the proper section) was "we still love you" ,....that just stopped me immediately. my dad was never good with explaining emotions or dealin with awkward situation, as am I, so to here him say that just means SO MUCH.
at the same time i think he kinda wasn't expecting it..didn't mention anything about already knowing it or anything. in fact he was kinda like "ok well..i needa go do wash" ummmm yeah. i think he needs to talk to my mom before calling me back, he even said thta they will call me back and such. i honestly think its just shock, so ill give him space.
its stil hittin me that they know now...whoa.
he called me after reading it...one of the first things he said (after me explaining how i almost died in Canada last night...LOOONG story lol when i get time ill post it in the proper section) was "we still love you" ,....that just stopped me immediately. my dad was never good with explaining emotions or dealin with awkward situation, as am I, so to here him say that just means SO MUCH.
at the same time i think he kinda wasn't expecting it..didn't mention anything about already knowing it or anything. in fact he was kinda like "ok well..i needa go do wash" ummmm yeah. i think he needs to talk to my mom before calling me back, he even said thta they will call me back and such. i honestly think its just shock, so ill give him space.
its stil hittin me that they know now...whoa.
mexamor
Sex God
I think it sounds good. Youre parents want to love you remember that.
halubtsi
Optimist Eternal
I'm glad to hear that things went well with your dad. And normally I wouldn't agree with giving him space, but under the circumstances, I think it's probably best. You don't want to have to answer all your dad's questions, only to have to answer them again with your mom. Anyway, Congratulations!
Keep us posted, buddy.
Keep us posted, buddy.
Christopher123
Still a Virgin at heart
I'd really love to know what's happened. This post and the letter really hit home with me, but in a different way. My parents died before I ever got the chance to tell them. I cried when I read his letter. And I'm really really curious to know what has happened.
well i talked to madre...
i feel like i was just hit with a frying pan
when i asked what she thought, all she said was, "As long as your happy, im happy and im happy for you" ...i couldve died right then.
we had a long talk, and she really seems ok with it. wow..just wow...at the same time i feel like i need a drink.
it's kinda like Kill Bill..."Wiggle your big toe...Wiggle your big toe...Wiggle your big toe...*wiggles* ok...hard parts over, time for these 9 other piggies" You try for so long to tell somone, and once you do, it suddenly seems really easy to tell anyone else.
However, i do think i really did catch my dad off gaurd...my mom was like "he seems ok.." now, my dad is either ok or he's not...he's never inbetween. So i told her, before i try to talk to him, i think its best for him to gather his thoughts, sort things out, talk to each other, etc. I think that's the wisest course, because I do not want to force either of them into a conversation if their not ready.
Still, the fact that she said that they are ok with it just means so much.....so much...
i feel like i was just hit with a frying pan
when i asked what she thought, all she said was, "As long as your happy, im happy and im happy for you" ...i couldve died right then.
we had a long talk, and she really seems ok with it. wow..just wow...at the same time i feel like i need a drink.
it's kinda like Kill Bill..."Wiggle your big toe...Wiggle your big toe...Wiggle your big toe...*wiggles* ok...hard parts over, time for these 9 other piggies" You try for so long to tell somone, and once you do, it suddenly seems really easy to tell anyone else.
However, i do think i really did catch my dad off gaurd...my mom was like "he seems ok.." now, my dad is either ok or he's not...he's never inbetween. So i told her, before i try to talk to him, i think its best for him to gather his thoughts, sort things out, talk to each other, etc. I think that's the wisest course, because I do not want to force either of them into a conversation if their not ready.
Still, the fact that she said that they are ok with it just means so much.....so much...
Christopher123
Still a Virgin at heart
Yes it does. And I'm very happy to hear it went as well as it did. I mean, it coulda been much much worse.
Sometimes we get these 'fantasies' (or at least I know I have) that we'll tell someone we're gay and they'll automatically say, "Well so you're gay, so what! It doesn't make any difference to me, let's go have a beer."
Or, well, okay, maybe not that exact scenario but something similar. In other words it shouldn't be any shocking than telling your parents you're straight. But unfortunately it isn't that easy. And I admire your courage. And I think you did the right thing because even if they wouldn't accept it, as sad and heartbreaking as that would be, at least you'd have tried. It would be off your chest. And then, regardless of their reaction, you could move on with your life accordingly.
Anyway, I'm glad you posted. I was wondering about it since I've read this thread. And I hope things go the way you want them to.
Time and patience. Tolerance and understanding. Crucial ingredients in a situation such as this.
to you.