Went to my first bath house

[azndude89]

... and it was a disaster! I was nervous like no other. I went down to Tampa to a popular bath house of which I heard from sites that it was very good. So I proceed to find this bath house in the heart of ybor. When I finally found it. I parked and tried to find the entrance.

I walked in the lobby with high hopes of what I envision what a bath house was like (numerous rooms, brightly lighted, and tons of hot guys). I paid my $13, got a towel and my locker key. I walked in and as soon as I saw the pool, there was an old guy swimming naked. I walked upstairs and it was dark...

Really dark with a couple of red lights to guide my way. I checked out the whole place and there was probably 10 guys tops. One couple was in the showers making out and one person was on the couch with his towel open. And another guy was following me...

So long story short, I'm most likely not ever going to a bath house again. It may be the lifestyle of some guys, however it's not my cup of tea.

Just wanted to share that. =]

 

[aberro21]

I've read good reviews about one in NYC. I'm going one day.

 

[blublud]

Only been to a bath house once in my life. It was Club Excess or something in Toronto.

And yea, I was nervous too but I went with friends who helped.

I loved it.

Wanna go back sometime.

 

[gatormonster]

Some nights are good and some are really bad - remember stalking trolls are everywhere!

 

[jensu846]

I went to the one in Reno once when I was visiting there. But I had to be a little drunk to go cuz I was so nervous. My experience was similar as that it was dark & not many guys there. I ended up with maybe 3 different guys, all of whom were much older than me. It wasnt the best experience, but I figured I had to see what it was all about. Wont be going back to that one anymore (if its even still there) but would like to try a more upscale one maybe someday.

 

[onlyme2]

I've been to a few here are my recommendations:

NYC - Eastside and Westside clubs - big thumbs down. Rude staff, grandpa clientel, no features (pool, hot tub)

Club Fort Lauderdale - Beautiful facility, out pool and hot tub. Clean well lit, hot guys.

Steamworks Chicago and Toronto - Really nice, clean, a bit low on the lighting but really worth a visit.

Midtowne Spa Denver- Large place. Could use some updating and a paint job but lots of hot guys make up for it.

 

[AsianDream]

So long story short, I'm most likely not ever going to a bath house again. It may be the lifestyle of some guys, however it's not my cup of tea.

Just wanted to share that. =]

So you went on a bad night – I love gay saunas (Bathhouses) – usually very sexy

But if the one time you went to one there was just 10 guys – then that’s not a very good basis for forming an opinion.

Probably not worth you sharing your experience - not of much use to anyone else.

 

[aberro21]

Some nights are good and some are really bad - remember stalking trolls are everywhere!

what are stalking trolls? Do I need to bring a sword

 

[AlmondMilk]

what are stalking trolls? Do I need to bring a sword

No...they like swords. If anything, bring putty tat.

 

[AsianDream]

Some nights are good and some are really bad - remember stalking trolls are everywhere!

Not many stalking trolls in a gay sauna if there are only 10 guys there anyway?

Plus the one main rule is "No means No" - so not much danger from stalking trolls.

 

[luvme4evr]

wait...so where are the good ones in nyc?

and how exactly do bathhouses work...? do you just go up to random guys and say, "hey wanna fuck?"

i want to go to one but I'm afraid its going to be like either 1. grandpas 2. muscle bound people who will look away in disgust upon seeing me.

1st dont ask them ''hey wanna fuck?'' if a guy catches ur eye then u will hook up naturally. I went to a bathhouse in Houston, Tx called The Club. I live in Dallas, but I was speaking to this guy online who told me about Club Houston. He said it was right across the street from the Greyhound Busline. So I took the bus ride to Houston, and found the place. Then I met the guy I had been speaking to online. He was a cute guy 5'10'',blonde, blue green eyes, right amount of hair (i hate the smooth look on men) and probably late 20's, he wanted money of course so I paid him for the night. We had a good time, the rooms were spacious, and it was very clean with a gym, sauna, showers and an outside/inside pool that was lit by the stars in the sky. Their were other guys there also, this one big fat guy kept following us around, and when we got a room, the big fat queen kept feeling on the door trying 2 come in. I hate ppl like that. But all in all it was a good experience. I really liked it and how clean the place was, I plan on going back there soon.

 

[luvme4evr]

1st dont ask them ''hey wanna fuck?'' if a guy catches ur eye then u will hook up naturally. I went to a bathhouse in Houston, Tx called The Club. I live in Dallas, but I was speaking to this guy online who told me about Club Houston. He said it was right across the street from the Greyhound Busline. So I took the bus ride to Houston, and found the place. Then I met the guy I had been speaking to online. He was a cute guy 5'10'',blonde, blue green eyes, right amount of hair (i hate the smooth look on men) and probably late 20's, he wanted money of course so I paid him for the night. We had a good time, the rooms were spacious, and it was very clean with a gym, sauna, showers and an outside/inside pool that was lit by the stars in the sky. Their were other guys there also, this one big fat guy kept following us around, and when we got a room, the big fat queen kept feeling on the door trying 2 come in. I hate ppl like that. But all in all it was a good experience. I really liked it and how clean the place was, I plan on going back there soon.

 

[MarkDW]

Give it another chance, Azndude. I've had good and bad experiences in bathhouses. Sometimes there are hot horny men in abundance, sometimes nothing happens.
It sounds like you went on a slow night if there were only 10 other men. You might want to check out other places in Tampa (or Miami).

^ What he said.

Could of been the day of the week, could of been an off night for everyone. Don't judge just from one attempt. Give it a few tries, go on a Friday or Saturday night. Sometimes it depends on the time.......I hear later is better, i.e. 12, 1 AM. They can be great fun, or a great bust. Also, maybe go with a bud?

Keep us posted.

 

[bike10]

Going to baths first time was also littel nervous. But before went on line to check out the CLUB in St.Louis. Location and what had to offer. Went first time about 6 years ago and was treat with great respect by the staff. Enjoy going back when get a chance. There will be times when it will be hit and miss. But take time enjoy what the baths have to offer in facilities and yes men. You will amazed as to number of bi/straight/married guys who join us gay guys at the baths. Headed out on labor day for the day CLUB.

 

[AsianDream]

wait...so where are the good ones in nyc?

and how exactly do bathhouses work...? do you just go up to random guys and say, "hey wanna fuck?"

i want to go to one but I'm afraid its going to be like either 1. grandpas 2. muscle bound people who will look away in disgust upon seeing me.

It’s interesting – a few months ago a friend of mine (also Asian) split up with his long term Ozzie BF – and tried gay saunas (bathhouses) for the first time.

I think he’s hot looking – for the first few times he just went there and had no luck at all – anyway me and another friend gave him a few tips which did seem to make all the difference. So for what it’s worth – I’ll pass these on here.

I guess gay saunas (bathhouses) vary quite a bit by country – also can be completely different depending on day of the week and time.

The “Hey wanna fuck?” approach is really unlikely to work – there’s often different etiquettes for different venues or areas within these. Myself - I prefer where it’s mostly nude – the saunas in HK are nude most of the time – while those in OZ have “nude nights” and nude areas.

What most guys don’t want is a public rejection – so giving the right signals is important. In the cruising areas it’s real easy to signal a guy you’re interested in playing just by giving them a smile. If they smile back then touch yourself and look them in the eyes (even wearing a towel works best if you’re hard). A guy smiling at you and stroking his dick is quite a clear signal.

Mostly steam rooms are a bit dark and crowded for subtle signals. With guys sitting on the benches the easiest way (assuming you’ve got an erection) is to just stand quite near in front of a guy you like the look of. If he likes you chances are he’ll want to touch you.

In OZ – Sunday afternoon at the sauna is the unofficial “married man’s” session (in HK it’s when you get lots of Filipino guys). With the married guys - smiles and signals don’t work so well - one of the best ways to approach them is to just stroke their arm (not too sexually). If they don’t flinch away gradually stroke more of their body – plus I find it’s best to stroke their balls till they get fully hard before touching their dick (at which stage they’ll usually start to respond).

Also – if you go to a gay sauna with mates – maybe keep an eye out for each other – but don’t stand around talking together – no way will most guys try and approach anyone in a group.

One other good “etiquette” thing is to be able to “break-off” gracefully if you’re playing with a guy and decide you don’t want to go any further. I usually just say something nice like “have fun” – and give them a couple of friendly pats.

Another one is to respect it if a guy doesn’t want to cum yet – I love being sucked – but if they’re using their hand on me as well makes me cum too quick. Even when guys are thinking of cumming several times – they’ll want to spread this out over a few hours.

 

[spunk-junky]

Don't give up after the first try. Generally I have really enjoyed my experiences. Some places are clean, some not so much. Some nights are slow, but other times full of hot guys. Go on a different night or try a different bathhouse. You wouldn't give up on sex just because the first time wasn't all that, would you?

 

[BiAggieGuy]

Like everyone else has said, don't give up because the first time sucked. I've visited bath houses in Dallas and Houston. Sometimes it's been a blast, other time a total snooze fest. Of course now and then you'll run into a troll who won't take a hint. Usually when that happens, if there is no one else around I am really interested in, I just leave.

Last time I was in Dallas I wasn't planning to go to one, but did so one evening when I was in my hotel room and bored. It was a lot of fun, lots of guys of all types, didn't encounter a troll, and stayed all night long.

 

[azndude89]

I guess you're right, I'll try another night in a couple of months. Maybe a friday or a saturday night. Thanks!
and remember people- CONDOMS ARE YOUR FRIENDS AT THESE PLACES!!!

 

[onlyme2]

wait...so where are the good ones in nyc?

and how exactly do bathhouses work...? do you just go up to random guys and say, "hey wanna fuck?"

i want to go to one but I'm afraid its going to be like either 1. grandpas 2. muscle bound people who will look away in disgust upon seeing me.

The Eastside and Westside clubs are the only ones in NYC. They both suck.

 

[cocksucker4use]

I like public or semi public venues, and gettin naked with other dudes for nsa/anonymous sex. These venues are guaranteed to run hot and cold, depending on who shows up....have had really nothing experiences when it's hella busy and way hella hot sex when there's just a coupla or even ONE other guy that I clicked with....Just like any other kinda hookup, there are no guarantees and that's OK by me, cuz like this is not the last chance for dick...pick times when it should be good....like, rush hour after work, noon hour.....Friday nites....