We're here to stay, get use to it already.

[zombiekiller]

By the way. The next time you get seated next to homophobes, be the ones who get up and ask to be seated somewhere else.

We've done that before.

Just tell them that you don't like being seated next to homophobes.

Actually, we were there first. We both saw that woman and her staring with expression of disgust almost immediately.

Normally, whenever we see any possibility of hostility we would leave. We also don't show PDA. This time, they left before us. Had they stayed there, we would probably have left. But since they left first we decided to stay.

 

[blanefan]

ZombieKiller, I am very sorry you had to put up with that situation.

I was born and raised in Central Illinois and am ashamed at my peeps for treating you like that. I actually worked on that campus if it was that largest university in Central Illinois after graduating from a different university. I can say that I don't recall having the same type of thing ever happen to me. But that was 35 years ago. There was s big hubbub about two guys dancing together at a "straight" disco in town, so I know it has happened before. I hope you were seated next to the only homophobes left in Central Illinois and that it won't happen again.

My boyfriend of 25 years and I have had quite different situations here in Dallas. We have gone to arguable the best restaurant in the city for many years on the "anniversary" of the day we met. When my partner made the reservations the first time, the hostess asked if his wife would be joining him and he replied "No". She then inquired if it were a special occasion and he replied "an anniversary". She wasn't sure what to make of it but took the reservation anyway.

The maître d' welcomed us with a "Happy Anniversary" on our arrival and thanked us for joining them for the special occasion. When the desserts arrived at our table, they contained a message in chocolate script on the plate that read, "Happy Anniversary!" We have repeated this many times over the years and have even had an older stodgy waiter have us hold hands and blow out the candles on our plates together! Not something you would expect in the South.

Yesterday on Valentines Day, we went into a restaurant that we frequent and the owner gave both of us a big strong hug and wished us a Happy Valentines Day before seating us. Every employee at the restaurant came by at one point or another during dinner and wished us the same.

We often comment how thing have really changed over the last 25 years.

My niece and her husband flew in from Chicago and surprised me a couple of years ago for the weekend. We were out at dinner and her husband said in another generation being a gay won't be an issue. Maybe it is because of people like my niece and her husband. When their seven year old daughter asked about me and my partner's relationship, they explained that we loved each other just like "mommy and daddy do." "Oh, OK", she said. And that was that.

We have made strides over the years and continue to do so, but at different speeds and different ways in different parts of the world.

I hope things are better for you the next time you travel south to see your boyfriend.

Blanefan

 

[Telstra]

But did you enjoy Deadpool?

Never let the homo haters get to you. A least your couple did just move.

Years ago, my partner and I were seated in a restaurant near a group of slaggy tarts, several of whom wore wedding rings and one of those women made it clear she did not like homos and kept making faces and talking about us in a very unflattering way. The word fag was overheard. But we stuck it out and pretended like it wasn't happening.

On the way out, I handed our waiter a note to pass on to her, saying 'I fucked your husband.'

That was funny, but did the waiter handed the note to her

 

[EddMarkStarr]

I'm so glad that blanefan brought this up, we're not all reading from the same playbook. I often catch myself after chatting online all day that the world may not be so accepting. Sometimes I need to be reminded that real people in real life are not always on my side.

That's why posts from some of the members which read like a "we're all friends now, let's all hold hands", kinda give me a "red alert" moment. I'm concerned that younger JUB members reject my observations that the less than friendly world I grew up in is alive and quite well, able to ruin your day in a heartbeat.

Zombiekiller's story is more than just an isolated occurrence. I'm not just old, I'm also black. I've survived by being cautious, I've seen things I will never post on this website and I will never forget. Experience tells me that society can change for the better but sometimes it can get worse before that happens.

As a proud citizen of the USA, a word of caution: this is a big country made up of many regions that aren't so accepting. Do what you want in the wrong place, at the wrong time, and you young men will be reminded of what "my" USA was like. This is why I get so angry when I see gay men always being pressured to be "open", "accepting" and yes, "trusting".

What happened to zombiekiller was just a friendly reminder of what lies just beneath the "pretty face" we all like to display to each other.

 

[Willie Boy]

So, this morning I drove to my boyfriend's university. Take a wild guess what we did as soon as I walked through the door into his apartment

Anyway, we went to see Dead Pool. Then we went out to dinner.

Anyway, at the dinner, while we were waiting for our food, there was this couple that looked like they were late 40's or early 50's that were seated next to us. That woman kept staring at us with a face of disgust. At one point, I held my boyfriend's hands and told him how much I'd been missing him. I guess that was the last straw for that woman, because she got her husband to get up and they went over to talk to one of the waiters. They were then led to somewhere else in the restaurant. I'm guessing they told the waiter they wanted to be seated somewhere else.

Normally, my boyfriend and I make it a priority to get up and leave as soon as we see any hostility. We just don't want to deal with any possible hassle. Today, we decided to stick around because that couple left before we could.

It's 2016. Yes, gay couples exist. And yes, we get to go out for Valentines' day, also. These homophobic straight people need to get use to having us around.

I complain because that incident sort of ruined the moment for us. We both lost our appetite. We ended up boxing most of our food. What a mood killer.

She was actually disgusted by the large blob of snot hanging from your nose, the one your BF didn't tell you about. She just couldn't enjoy her meal with the sight of that thing dangling out your nostril.

 

[Telstra]

She was actually disgusted by the large blob of snot hanging from your nose, the one your BF didn't tell you about. She just couldn't enjoy her meal with the sight of that thing dangling out your nostril.

do you think that is funny?
Poor willie zero funny joke lol

 

[jensu846]

I don't think I would have been able to keep my cool in a situation like that. I would have had to say something to that bitch and asshole husband if I were you. Not sure what id have said or did, but I know something would have came to me in the moment. That shit pisses me off.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

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[zombiekiller]

do you think that is funny?
Poor willie zero funny joke lol

Why'd you have to quote him? I have him on my ignore list for a reason.

 

[NotHardUp1]

I would expect that bullshit if you were in the Bible Belt but in Chicago is odd. Fuck them.

Actually, everyone should expect to possibly encounter it anywhere. The gay bashing headlines pretty much happened in the Northeast in 2015.

Just because there is a bias politically in the South doesn't mean there are more acts there than anywhere else that are homophobic. There is also the disparity in population of the Eastern Seaboard and the South, with greater numbers availing more bigots a likelihood of conflict opportunity in the East.

And I disagree with the poster who insisted this was race driven. It's more likely that it was homophobia, as interracial tables happen all the time in restaurants to no effect, and it's hardly as if a Caucasian or Vietnamese couple would presume "look, our gay boy over there would be straight if it weren't for that foreigner." Only so many Trumps in the world, after all.

 

[swerve]

That sucks ZK...

I remember back QUITE a few years, when my then partner and I went on 7 day south Caribbean cruise. The ship had 2 meal service times and assigned seating. Although we were both open, my partner back then was very obvious -- plus, it was a romantic cruise!!!

Well, within 15 minutes of having been seated for our first dinner service, one man at the table just started spewing hatred and homophobic bullshit

Well...

I asked my partner to meet me at the entrance to the dining hall (because I could tell that his head was about to explode) -- where I explained the situation to the Maitre'd -- and we left and went back to our cabin. They brought our dinner to our room with complimentary wine and all sorts of extra bullshit, changed our seating schedule to a table who thought that we were an ABSOLUTELY FABULOUS couple!!! -- and we were pretty much treated us like royalty by the staff for the rest of the cruise. We had an amazing time -- yet, looking back, It would have been a better story if I hadn't of stepped in...

 

[rareboy]

That was funny, but did the waiter handed the note to her

Yes he did. We watched him do it.

The reaction was priceless.

 

[tarallucci]

Sorry about the unpleasant episode...

Unfortunately there are people who don't just limit to disagreeing with homosexuality but they have to let you know.

I'm concerned that younger JUB members reject my observations that the less than friendly world I grew up in is alive and quite well, able to ruin your day in a heartbeat.

It's true, and I hate to be pessimistic but I don't think it will ever change.

 

[Keeland]

That woman kept staring at us with a face of disgust.

That's why one should always carry one's own cream pie to a restaurant.