What Am I?

[Logic3]

Hello, I have been to this forum various times just lurking and reading and i thought you all might be able to help me out.

My question is: Am I gay? or bisexual? or this just normal for a straight guy?

Ok so heres my story: Ever since the seventh grade i have wondered what I am, I about an even amount of gay and straight porn. However everytime I 'finish' while watching gay porn I feel physically sick and close the porn immediatly and unlike straight porn i have never just viewed it for the sake of viewing without wanking. I have never been with a man but i have been with women. I generally last two hours during sex and even when wanking to any sort of porn I tend to last a long time (do I have a penis problem?). When i have been with women i have had the most intense sexual feelings and orgasms are like full body pleasurable experiances. I can't even begin to describe the joy and fun felt by my member. I have tried 'ass play' with fingers and very small objects and it generally hurts like a bitch. Once or twice I wanked while fingering and I sprayed huge loads. When I think of myself in a relationship i am always the man/the provider ect. and 99.99% of the time its with a woman, only once have i imagined myself in a relationship with a guy and it was one of my close straight friends.(By the term relationship i mean married) I often dream about women and men not always sexual. I have only ever had one sexual dream about a man (same straight friend who i imagined having a realtionship with)


If you guys need anymore information feel free to ask.

 

[Brian Greene]

I don't feel exceptionally qualified to comment on your post but I am going to anyway. Take it with a grain of salt.

I was in a similar situation as you for a long time during my life. I would say focus less on the label and just let yourself go with the flow. Once I started to care less about the label I was able to actually feel who I was, and it was liberating.

If you are gay, you are the same person you were before, you can have a fulfiling relationship, love, sex, friends ect. You just will do it with a guy by your side. If you are straight, you will do the same things but with a woman.

It took me a long time to allow myself to 'feel,' out who I was. There is no need to rush. If you find yourself asking this question a lot though, it is possible you are gay or bi. Sexuality is a spectrum and people can fall anywhere on it.

How old are you, if you don't mind me asking?

 

[rareboy]

At first I thought this was an April Fool's thing.

And then I thought, what if it isn't?

So you're straight, but you want your ass played with.

No biggie.

Just find the right girl to do it.

 

[Logic3]

Im 19, I live in Australia. Its not an april fools thing, its not even the 1st in australia.

 

[latinheat]

hmmmm well u never know until u try it ha haha trust me i posted "my first time tonight" which was me basically meeting up with a guy for sex and i found i did not enjoy like i thought but im knocking it cuz i thought i was something because i was told i was gay most of my life.....(parents ugh!)but once i tried it i wasn't disgusted with myself just happy im straight i have enjoyed fingering my hole once in awhile while jacking off but come on! it feels the best on ur dick when u cum!!! p.m if u wanna talk more in depth

 

[AreYouON21]

If it hurts when you try to finger your self, you're doing it wrong !

use lube and make sure your nails are short and smooth ... and it should feel great ;]

also, you can be gay and still be the man/the provider

 

[Lube]

Hello, I have been to this forum various times just lurking and reading and i thought you all might be able to help me out.

My question is: Am I gay? or bisexual? or this just normal for a straight guy?

Ok so heres my story: Ever since the seventh grade i have wondered what I am, I about an even amount of gay and straight porn. However everytime I 'finish' while watching gay porn I feel physically sick and close the porn immediatly and unlike straight porn i have never just viewed it for the sake of viewing without wanking. I have never been with a man but i have been with women. I generally last two hours during sex and even when wanking to any sort of porn I tend to last a long time (do I have a penis problem?). When i have been with women i have had the most intense sexual feelings and orgasms are like full body pleasurable experiances. I can't even begin to describe the joy and fun felt by my member. I have tried 'ass play' with fingers and very small objects and it generally hurts like a bitch. Once or twice I wanked while fingering and I sprayed huge loads. When I think of myself in a relationship i am always the man/the provider ect. and 99.99% of the time its with a woman, only once have i imagined myself in a relationship with a guy and it was one of my close straight friends.(By the term relationship i mean married) I often dream about women and men not always sexual. I have only ever had one sexual dream about a man (same straight friend who i imagined having a realtionship with)


If you guys need anymore information feel free to ask.

If you have to ask, you're not straight.

If you've been wondering for 6 or more years, you're not straight.

If you have gay porn, you're not straight.

If you're lurking on a gay porn site, you're not straight.

Welcome to the club.

 

[Reality101]

If you have to ask, you're not straight.

If you've been wondering for 6 or more years, you're not straight.

If you have gay porn, you're not straight.

If you're lurking on a gay porn site, you're not straight.

Welcome to the club.

I could not disagree more with this. Lube nothing against you, but I swear I do not understand your thinking sometimes (emphasis on sometimes)

If you have to ask, you're human and curious about the normalcy of your thoughts and actions

if you've been wondering for 6 or more years, then you are young and figuring yourself out (in his case)

if you have gay porn, something about gay porn fascinates and stimulates you

If you are lurking on a gay porn site, you have curiosities and questions that you want answered.

Keep in mind the guy is 17...

 

[KaraBulut]

Hello, I have been to this forum various times just lurking and reading and i thought you all might be able to help me out.

My question is: Am I gay? or bisexual? or this just normal for a straight guy?

Ok so heres my story: Ever since the seventh grade i have wondered what I am, I about an even amount of gay and straight porn. However everytime I 'finish' while watching gay porn I feel physically sick and close the porn immediatly and unlike straight porn i have never just viewed it for the sake of viewing without wanking. I have never been with a man but i have been with women. I generally last two hours during sex and even when wanking to any sort of porn I tend to last a long time (do I have a penis problem?). When i have been with women i have had the most intense sexual feelings and orgasms are like full body pleasurable experiances. I can't even begin to describe the joy and fun felt by my member. I have tried 'ass play' with fingers and very small objects and it generally hurts like a bitch. Once or twice I wanked while fingering and I sprayed huge loads. When I think of myself in a relationship i am always the man/the provider ect. and 99.99% of the time its with a woman, only once have i imagined myself in a relationship with a guy and it was one of my close straight friends.(By the term relationship i mean married) I often dream about women and men not always sexual. I have only ever had one sexual dream about a man (same straight friend who i imagined having a realtionship with)


If you guys need anymore information feel free to ask.

Well, let's clear up a few misconceptions:

• Assplay feels good, once you learn to relax, whether you're gay, straight, male or female.
• Not all gay guys like ass (sometimes I think straight guys are more obsessed with anal sex than the gay boys).
• Not all gay guys like to get fucked.
• Being gay is about liking and being attracted to masculinity, not about being effeminate.
• No one is 100% straight. No one is 100% gay. Most people fall somewhere in between- with feelings for both genders- even if they never express interest/attraction in a sexual way.

OK. So you're a mostly straight guy who has fantasies about kinky stuff and about hot guys which makes you feel kind of dirty afterward. Right now, that's as much a fetish as it is anything.

Not all fantasies have to be explored. Your dilemma here is that you have a little "bent"- a kinky-guilt turn-on about sex with guys but you're not ready to take that exploration to the real world and act on it.

There's nothing wrong with that.

 

[tallguy297]

Mate, basically what Kara said ^ but I'll add this...

Being gay or bi or str8 doesnt automatically mean you fit into any sort of box, or that every aspect of those "types" will apply to you.

First and foremost you are you. Unique, valuable, and no one cimes close to containing all the aspects of who you are. Once you come to understand that your combination of traits, likes and dislikes forms who you are then your sexuality becomes secondary.

For now, try to cut yourself some slack.

Being aroused by men in any sexual role doesnt make you sad or wrong or a deviant of some kind. It simply means that you find something attractive or arousing by the male form.

Feeling guilty because of that is really where the issue lay, and often thats a factor of our upbringing and the image we think others have of us as well as our own self beleif.

Guilt is an emotion learned from others. It comes from fear and the beleif you might hurt or dissapoint someone. But you'll do neither of those things if you learn to accept and embrace who you are and the importance of being true to yourself. For its those things that ultimately will make you a happy fullfilled and successful guy.

And honestly mate, thats all the people who love and care for you are worried about.

 

[bleedlikeme]

Sounds like how I was.
Still trying to 'figure it out' at age 19.

I reckon you should know when you see a really hot guy that comes into work.
If you look up and think 'wow' then that's a sure sign I reckon.
Take it easy.

 

[Lube]

I could not disagree more with this.

Well, then, we're even.

I stand by what I said 100%.

(I'm so tempted to keep track of posts like this, and see where the guy is in 3 years. But I have a life to live. )