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What are you thinking?

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I'm thinking that it's time to follow what my mind tells me rather than what my heart does in terms of friendships/relationships.

Each time, my mind has been correct, and my heart has failed me.

I'm thinking it's possible my heart is faulty.
 
MNRomantic said:
I'm thinking that it's time to follow what my mind tells me rather than what my heart does in terms of friendships/relationships.

Each time, my mind has been correct, and my heart has failed me.

I'm thinking it's possible my heart is faulty.
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Do you remember our chat about the downside of being a romantic? One of the risks of being a romantic is to be ruled by your heart while ignoring your mind. As with most things in life, there needs to be balance. Your heart is not faulty, but perhaps you are lacking balance in reality. You are in control only when you have that balance. You wouldn't want to be ruled by your head at the expense of your heart, either. If our hearts are the seat of our emotions and feelings, then our minds must help us in analyzing the truth of the matter and whether we are being lead too far in the wrong direction. Emotions and feelings can't really be trusted. They come and go, often without reason. We want something so badly, like love/relationship, that we ignore the facts that it might be unhealthy for us at this time and place.
We sometimes place relationship on a pedestal above the other person. Even people are not meant for pedestals.
We have a habit of falling off. We talked about that, too, didn't we?

Another risk comes when we are hurt and disappointed by love. We are tempted to harden our hearts and minds to it because it's painful and we don't want to take a chance again. Ultimately, the risk is to turn inward and end up overly self critical and consider ourselves failures. You're not a failure. You're human.

Stop looking inward, stop finding fault with yourself, stop the downward spiral into despair. Be strong, you can do this.

Do you hear?
 
ScottishBiTeen said:
I'm thinking that I should just resign myself to the fact that I am, and always will be, a total screw-up who can't do anything right....
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Would it help to know we have all felt that way at some time? You'll never be a total screw up as long as you keep getting up when you fall down. Change your resignation into determination: determine to keep getting up. OK?
 
sixthson said:
Do you remember our chat about the downside of being a romantic? One of the risks of being a romantic is to be ruled by your heart while ignoring your mind. As with most things in life, there needs to be balance. Your heart is not faulty, but perhaps you are lacking balance in reality. You are in control only when you have that balance. You wouldn't want to be ruled by your head at the expense of your heart, either. If our hearts are the seat of our emotions and feelings, then our minds must help us in analyzing the truth of the matter and whether we are being lead too far in the wrong direction. Emotions and feelings can't really be trusted. They come and go, often without reason. We want something so badly, like love/relationship, that we ignore the facts that it might be unhealthy for us at this time and place.
We sometimes place relationship on a pedestal above the other person. Even people are not meant for pedestals.
We have a habit of falling off. We talked about that, too, didn't we?

Another risk comes when we are hurt and disappointed by love. We are tempted to harden our hearts and minds to it because it's painful and we don't want to take a chance again. Ultimately, the risk is to turn inward and end up overly self critical and consider ourselves failures. You're not a failure. You're human.

Stop looking inward, stop finding fault with yourself, stop the downward spiral into despair. Be strong, you can do this.

Do you hear?
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What?
 
I'm thinking that, despite all of the trials, life will turn out for the best.
 
I'm thinking that I've made a few too many mistakes as of late.
 
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