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What can I do to cum more quickly?

secondmonkey

secondmonkey

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First let me say I'm on I think 6 various prescriptions for random health problems I have. Some of them are know to cause delayed orgasm. These medications cannot be changed right now.

The thing is, I don't have that problem when I'm alone. I can easily masturbate in 3-5 minutes. I have a hookup buddy and we mostly meet for jacking off or oral sex. I also like to meet guys from craigslist from time to time. For some reason even if I'm super horny and haven't had an orgasm all week and I have a HOT guy giving me a blow job...it takes FOREVER for me to cum. It feels great, but after a while he gets tired of it. ;)

In other words, my own fantasy is really happening and I can't cum. !oops!

Is there anything I can do about this? I avoid masturbating for at least a week before I plan to hook up. I have no problem getting and staying hard. Is there anything else I can do to help the process? I'd hate to ask the doc, but is there any drug that might help me?
 
I believe sex columnist Dan Savage calls this the Grip of Death. In essence, it describes the inability for men to cum when they're having sex or being sucked off because they masturbate so hard that it desensitizes their penis against any kind of touch that is softer than the death grip they use when masturbating.

His solution is to masturbate more gently to gradually train your dick to be responsive to softer touch. That should help you cum during a blow job.
 
I would avoid asking the doctor for any more medication; the ones you're already taking are bound to be stressing your body enough without you adding to it with more medication.

Also, since you're able to come quickly when masturbating, you know it isn't the medication you're already on that's the problem.

... actually, it doesn't really sound as though you have much of a problem. You say it feels great, except that your buddy gets tired. What you need to do is teach him your rhythm. He needs to get some feedback from you so he will know when to increase the pace and pressure and by how much. At the same time, you need to learn how to come with a different rhythm than the one you normally use when masturbating.

I think you just need to practise more :D
 
Being on 6 different medications at age 23 is a lot.

And I would caution you not to get into the mindset of looking for a 7th medication to deal with the possible side effects of the 6 medications. It's not a good cycle to get into.

If one of the 6 medications is an SSRI, then that is a likely culprit.

Go to your doctor and talk to him about the problem. It may be as simple as changing one of the medications, changing the dose or maybe discontinuing it altogether.
 
You are like my current boyfriend who masturbated 4 times a day before meeting me. It is VERY hard for me to get him off except through a combination of oral + hand. Funny thing is when he gives me a hand job it feels SO sensitive that it almost hurts! I think its just because he is used to his own method. I generally try to get him not to give me a hand job, but that usually ends up with a 'fake' hurt look (puppy dog eyes!). I guess I'm soft when i masturbate.
 
secondmonkey said:
First let me say I'm on I think 6 various prescriptions for random health problems I have. Some of them are know to cause delayed orgasm. These medications cannot be changed right now.
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I took a mild anti depressant for GAD a couple of years ago and that was its main side effect. It is a fustrating problem, for me everything would work just fine and I would feel the need and want to cum, but to do it was very fustrating and difficult which would only make the problem worse. Best advice, like many others have said, is not to look for another med, but work on the problems you have, talk to your doctor about the problem and see if there are other options.
If it is a psyc med look at addressing the problem. You might find that this is just a side effect that you will have to deal with until you are off the meds.
 
wait my penis is never sensitive anymore.. is there a way to make it more sensitive so i can cum cuz ive never been able to cum from getting a blowjob nor a handjob!
 
luminum said:
I believe sex columnist Dan Savage calls this the Grip of Death. In essence, it describes the inability for men to cum when they're having sex or being sucked off because they masturbate so hard that it desensitizes their penis against any kind of touch that is softer than the death grip they use when masturbating.
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Hmmm...wouldn't that pretty much apply to all men? I mean, who *doesn't* masturbate? I don't think I do it particularly hard, and I always use lube.

3nipples said:
Also, since you're able to come quickly when masturbating, you know it isn't the medication you're already on that's the problem.
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Well, just as an example I got a nice BJ from someone I consider a 9 out of 10 earlier tonight. I was REALLY horny. Leaking in my boxers horny. But, after a while of sucking, he wanted me to jack it until the end, which he finished. Even though I was masturbating in my normal way, with live porn in front of me, it took so long to cum I think my dick will be sore for a few days. Not only annoying, but unsafe if I get any kind of open wound. :(
 
Just some more thoughts: You guys are right, I don't need any more prescriptions, but IS there anything available to help you cum? What about anything herbal? Or maybe should I jack off before I leave...and stop just before I pop?

This is just so annoying for me, if I couldn't get hard or went off early I know there are things you can do about that, but I'm the opposite. Some of my medications are for depression, and this problem REALLY doesn't help that.

PS - As much as I'd love to have an actual boyfriend, that's just not possible for me right now...thus the reason why I hook up.
 
If it's herbal and it works, then how is it different than a medication?
 
you need to improve your general health, all health conditions are cureable, with diet and workout you build up better sexual duribility, you need to first get off your meds because they are holding you back from being fully normal in this department
 
3nipples said:
If it's herbal and it works, then how is it different than a medication?
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most herbal remedies dont seem to have negative side affects cause theyre natural. medications come with a shit load of problems running from headaches to kidney disfunctions to heart failure. i would say herbal remedies are very different.

cant think of anything though, sry :(
 
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