What can I do to get a gay or bi guy to approach me.

[newbie9000]

I'm new and nervous, but am dying to try with more men. Are there certain discreet/subtle signals I can give out? I'm totally ignorant when it comes to this. Please teach this newly bi guy how to get some cock/maybe more. Thx!

 

[LAPan75]

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I feel ya' and sure many others do too.
Unless you are borderline flaming or more it is not easy to find a guy.

I am the fat former jock type, like Earth tones, have a baby face, married to an older woman people often mistake for my Mom, & not hairy.... which basically says there is nothing about my outward appearance or actions that says c'mere guys.... It says check my ID.

It would be so much easier if we had some inside code that would let others know our proclivities without announcing it to the world.

It's not like I could walk around wearing a Rainbow Pin and not have people looking at me weird, though they usually look at me weird anyway. Even a Bisexual or Pansexual logo is so random it just stands out.

It seems every time I find out about a "signal" it has been adopted into everyday culture and has lost it's meaning. (ie: which ear and how many you have earrings in, exposing underwear & type of underwear, wearing your collar a certain way, color & locations of a bandana, etc....)

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[umjreon88]

Just randomly tell someone that you are bisexual, like what happened to me on New Year's Eve!

Chances are, if the guy has any inclinations towards men (gay or bi), they will respond positively.

 

[bijaxfl]

If you want to remain discrete, not easy to cross the line.. Make a profile on a site like adam4adam or place a craigslist ad, but then you have to weed through the weird, creepy and down right scary guys. If it is someone you are close to ( Friend/Coworker) drop some hints and watch porn after some alcohol, but that can backfire... so keep it joking at first and take time to fully figure out if he is on the same page

 

[Medusa]

#1. Say that you are a straight curious guy, that is getting tired of super duper hot sexy female supermodels that look like Candice Swanepool throwing their pussy at you, and you are enchanted by the mystic wonder that is gay men

#2. Be 6'7 feet tall

#3. Be drop pantie dropping, cock instant hard on handsome/gorgeous.Such as Brad Pitt,Kellan Lutz,Tom Hardy,Henry Cavill,Johnathan Rhys Meyers,that gay guy from that usa network show about a thief robbing people, and Billy Bob Thornton

#4 Have a big dick

#5. Be arrogant as hell.From what I can tell gay guys like bad boys, and you will need a Harley

#6. Be extremely macho. Say that you LOOOOOVVVVEEEEE sports, and that you participated in every sport on the face of the earth.Even chess.

#7. Be very clean.As in, take a shower, and brush your teeth before you leave the house.

#8. And be kind of homophobic.Apparently you when you are, that means you are an dormant gay man that's scared to be himself out in public, and I guess some gay men like that shit.

This is my advice to you, and I hope it helps

 

[zebec847]

stare into my eyes and hold my hand longer than necessary

 

[Bi Married Male]

Go to an adult bookstore. Get a booth with a glory hole and make sure it is occupied by a guy in the next booth. Put your hard cock through that hole and a gay or bi guy will approach it and suck on it.

 

[snakeeater1]

Show him your hard dick! … always worked for me!

 

[firsttimeagain]

I'm new and nervous, but am dying to try with more men. Are there certain discreet/subtle signals I can give out? I'm totally ignorant when it comes to this. Please teach this newly bi guy how to get some cock/maybe more. Thx!

I understand where you are I’m in that situation myself. So, I may not the best to answer , but letting you know you are not alone in your desires. Talking here has helped me in my journey coming out. I’m still searching and I am excited about the possibilities. It’s hard to know if a guy is into you or not. I am much more open than I ever have been, but I have a long way to go. I’ve missed out on a few possible opportunities being too nervous. But, some of the nervousness is behind me now that I have decided to come out. I may get shot down in my search but I’ve decided that if I’m not a little more direct and bold in my approach, I’m never going to get there. I’m OK with rejection or making the wrong assumption. It’s taken me a long time to get here but I am actively searching like never before. If I think a guy is remotely interested, I’m not going let it pass me by.

I’m looking to find places to be around other likeminded guys. If I know most everyone is gay, then I’m sure I’ll be more confident. If there is a hint of an opportunity I’m going to be in eye contact and engaging conversation. I think breaking the ice is going to be the hardest part…so, I’ve changed my mindset and I’m not scared anymore. I’m excited for the possibilities to come…I’m open for ideas for sure…