What do I do?

[LanceDanski23]

Alright so I recently turned 18, and quite a few friends know about me being gay. My family is psycho religious and I was screamed at for months for just telling them I support gay rights. I would love to move out on my own, but that obviously isn't a smart idea. What should I do?

 

[cincygay2506]

That depends, if you came out would your family go as far as to kick you out?

 

[Seasoned]

Welcome. A good rule to live by is, safety first. You need support at this stage of your life and as difficult as it might be you might need to bide your time. Look for support in as many places as possible. Good luck to you.

 

[Rolyo85]

Why would it be a bad idea to move out?

 

[swdguy]

U need to take care of yourself first. U are responsible for yourself. They can't tell you what to do since you are over 18. U can simple respect their wishes and whatever they want to do. U can help yourself better by moving out. If you can't do that, try not to say anything that will provoke them into taking actions that may harm you. It's illegal for them to harm you in any ways (that is if you live in the U.S. - I don't know about other countries' laws) If they want your opinions, u can ask them if they will respect your opinions. if not, then don't make any comments.

That's my two cents.

 

[Just_Believe18]

Job, college, whatever it takes. You have all the time in the world to plan and make your escape to a much better life where you aren't dependent on your family.

 

[mbamike]

Wait until you can financially support yourself and have your own place to disclose to them that you are gay.

 

[palbert]

^^^ what he said.

 

[hylas]

under the circumstances you described, theres nothing shameful about staying in the closet for a little while longer. youre not being dishonest, youre just protecting yourself - the way somebody in witness protection gets a different name, not as a lie, but as a way of protection.

try to move out and support yourself as soon as you can. then come out.

also, surround yourself with friends - true, real, genuine friends you can trust - so they can support you now, and also later when you finally come out. i wish you the best of luck, my heart goes out to you. and i dont know how you feel about your parents, but they get a heartily 'fuck you and drown in shite' from me.