What do you bisexuals think of 'faux' bisexuals?

[demedja]

Since the beginning, the entire GLBT movement has ultimately fought for one reason: To show to the world that there's no shame in being who you are sexually; that it's okay to be yourself.

So what's with all this hate against bisexuality? It baffles me that gay people - who should understand this more than anyone else - are afraid to admit any bi-curiosity they may have.


A lot of people who're in the process of coming to terms with being gay struggle with the fact of "I'll never get married and have babies naturally like everyone else does". I think a lot of young gay people desperately want to believe that they're bi as a way around this; to believe that they can fit in and be like everyone else.

Just because they aren't actually bi doesn't necessarily mean that there's no one on the planet who's genuinely bi.

But, a lot of gay people actually do get married and have babies naturally like everyone else does. And many will stay married and never come out of the closet. I've known and had discrete flings with quite a few guys who are in this situation. I've become close buddies with several of them over the years, and from conversations I've had with most of them, some of these guys are actually gay, not bi at all. But they don't even like to use words like 'gay' and 'bi' much less label themselves in either category.

Are these guys happy? I don't really know. I suspect they may be more frustrated than they are willing to admit. They like being intimate with other men, but they seem to like the hetero family man image, more---at least for the time being. People can totally convince themselves of whatever they want to believe. And to many, happiness is more about their contentment with other people's perceptions of them than it is about true personal bliss.

But, there is another side to this. I don't know that these guys are 'faux' or how the Kinsey scale might even be relevant to their sexuality. There is much anecdotal evidence that a lot of gay men marry and have kids and stay in their marriages for many years before dicovering their homosexuality and moving on to live their lives more in tandem with it.

 

[Ryuukie]

I used to call myself bisexual because I had sex with woman. I never enjoyed that as much as having sex with men -- especially the kissing part. I really don't think anything of men who call themselves bisexual, whether or not they are. I know I'm being self-centered, but I only ever cared about myself and people I'm having sex with or had sex with. I just don't care what other people are doing and with whom they're doing it with.

 

[Srsly]

I can't speak for everyone, but I think that a person is bisexual and it's just a matter of which part of your bisexuality you want to identify,

nowadays people are "switching" sexuality all the time, and i find myself truly attracted to both women and men.

I think it's much easier for women to announce their bisexuality than men because of the fact that men have to be "macho" and "without feelings".. i mean i know some guys who won't even admit if a guy is good-looking they'll just be like .. "I DONT KNOW!!".. jeez

Sure, People use it to get publicity, but it doesn't annoy me as much as men who try to act TOUGH and steer clear of anything that may ever make someone consider their sexuality

just look at that fat prick Jim Belushi, he hides his bisexual feelings my machoing himself as much as possible, god that tv show is shit.

 

[Krakenbwool]

I used to call myself bisexual because I had sex with woman. I never enjoyed that as much as having sex with men -- especially the kissing part. I really don't think anything of men who call themselves bisexual, whether or not they are. I know I'm being self-centered, but I only ever cared about myself and people I'm having sex with or had sex with. I just don't care what other people are doing and with whom they're doing it with.

I actually think that's a pretty good mentality to have. It annoys me when women get freaked out over dating bisexual men. So what if he's fucked a guy before? As long as he's disease-free and not cheating on you, how is it your business?

 

[AsianDream]

I actually think that's a pretty good mentality to have. It annoys me when women get freaked out over dating bisexual men. So what if he's fucked a guy before? As long as he's disease-free and not cheating on you, how is it your business?

HMM - the whole "cheating on you" monogmy idea is far more important to monosexual people (of either gender) than to BI/Pan sexual people - for many of whom "sexual fidility" within a relationship doesn't actually matter.

 

[biman395]

These people disgust me. I loathe them extensively, they're the reason so many people "don't believe in" bisexuality.

Oh Jeez me too! they're the worst! Because of them I've gotten the old "it's a phase" or Jesus Christ man pick one girls or guys!! They give true bi's like me a bad rep and we're seen as a myth.