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What do you miss?

I miss it most because that space is now occupied by an overpriced, obnoxious Greek cafe that blasts house music up and down the street whenever it's warm enough for me to open windows (and even sometimes when it isn't).
I used to live across the street from a 'cafe' which was like that, but it was a cafe only during the day. In the evening, it turned into a pub of sorts for all the young college and university students who come to the city each year. Occasionally, they would host live outdoor concerts which would blast their music into the wee hours of the morning.

I moved a few blocks north and I don't hear the music anymore.

I don't miss it.
 
I meant more of can you either contain the area of concern, or change your response to risk or adversity? Can you use methods to change worry to acceptance or find ways to change the source of the worry?
 
It's a result of essential tremors. It's a condition which mimics Parkinson's, but only when I hold something in my fingers. I don't even have to pick something up, really. Just closing my fingers as if I were holding something is enough to cause my fingers and hands to shake. If I'm writing, my writing becomes virtually illegible. If I must sign my name, I print it in front of a witness. (Cursive is a thing of my past. Even I can't read it.)

The way I explain the tremors is to imagine everything you do with your hands every day and then imagine doing it with someone shaking you hands enough that you shake your peanut butter sandwich right off your plate when you're carrying it to the table. You should see the shape of my fingernails.)

For what it's worth, typing is getting very difficult now as well. My fingers bounce on the keys. Then there's the shaking of the mouse.

Everything I do with my hands now is a challenge.

Worst part is that I'm diabetic and can't even test my blood sugar. Haven't been able to for over a year. And I can't afford the Libre sensors. ($250 per month, and OHIP won't cover them unless I'm on insulin. Good luck with that if I can't even prick my finger for a blood test.)

Signing my name is really the least of my concerns.
GoodRX was able to bring down the cost of the sensors for my mother. But that was a couple years ago.
 
My mother. I miss her so much. It's coming up on a year since she passed. We were very close (and I'm an only child). I would give anything to be able to have a conversation with her again.
Hi. I lost my mother and grandmother one month apart some 21 years ago. It hardly seems possible that two decades have passed.

But, I don't feel bereft, and didn't when they passed. Maybe I'm a good bit older than you. Don't know. But I had forty years with them, and that's a lot of life. I'm very much imprinted by that living, and in the absence of any men, really.

Not only do I cook things they did, laugh at things they found funny, and hear their voices when I speak, I share their stories with my friends and co-workers. Some of the ancient cultures that keep the dead alive through remembering them, maybe that's right.

Can you do similar, and not be saddened by it? I think of Day of the Dead in Mexican culture. They celebrate the dead, not mourn them on that day.

Would you feel funny, or even lonely, were you to talk to her, when your doing chores, watching a show, or feeling frustrated? I think that might be cathartic. I mean, you already know what she'd say, don't you?
 
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