What do you think of Blackamerican guys who don't reciprocate...

[blackdarren]

I've never reciprocated head or a fuck...I've always negotiated this to my potential partners before any conflict, disagreement, and a few have accepted it...

I've serious issues with my Blackamerican (gay) sexuality and am present not ready to be fucked or give head to any guy to date....

I know that there are some guys who are fine with non-reciprocation, i.e, bottoms, submissives...but some bristle at the prospect of not being "serviced" in some way....

What's your opinion on this matter....

 

[star-warrior]

It's your life, do what please you. But, you miss out. You should wonder why they like the pleasure of getting someone else off....

 

[G-Lexington]

You're currently what might be termed a "100% top". You'll take head, you'll top in anal, but won't give head or bottom anal. That's fine - there are guys out there like that. I don't think it's selfish as long as you make it clear beforehand that that's what you like to do, although I would suggest you at least open yourself up to the idea of reciprocating sometime down the road. It's actually quite fun if done right. I don't think this is necessarily a "Black" issue - I mean, it might be the specific reason why YOU won't bottom, but it's certainly something seen in all races.

Lex

 

[SantaCBear]

Some would say you're selfish -- But it is your life...

 

[coolwillis]

Damn, I really never thought about it till you guys raised the topic. I am black, and I do not give head nor do I bottom. However, guys I have intercourse with prefer it that way anyway. So, I would not consider it selfish. To each his own I guess.

 

[SantaCBear]

coolwillis, some bottoms are like that. It plays into their fantasy of a str8 man fucking them

 

[sixthson]

Ok I'm going to share with you what I know from experience...First, I'm a Top and I hate sucking dick or getting fucked (in fact, most Black tops will tell you this)..Is it a "Black thng"?

I think it is more a shame based thing than a race based thing. Some ethnicities seem to have a higher than average amount of shame about their sexuality. Being gay is not manly therefore they feel ashamed.

 

[SantaCBear]

Some of my black friends in my past life say black women wont suck dick either... Yeah right

 

[coolwillis]

coolwillis, some bottoms are like that. It plays into their fantasy of a str8 man fucking them

I think you are on to something, but I am going to slightly disagree with you...I think the fascination with being w/ a straight man is because straight men know their role in bed and that is they are tops all the time. I really have no desire to be with guys who are versatile. This is not to say that there is something wrong with being versatile. I just think that when someone describes themselves as versatile, that just seems to me the guy has no sexual identity and basically just wants to get off anyway...anyhow. When I tell guys that I am a top I want him to know that this is what I do and I am da bomb at it.

Here is an experiment for you guys. Wear a T-shirt to the club that says "TOP" and see how much attention you get. Let's face it, the gay community, no matter where you are, is sooooo bottom heavy.
As far as giving head; it definitely not in issue with me being comfortable being gay. I have been out for a long time.

 

[Soilwork]

What's your opinion on this matter....

That you're a boring lay and I'm glad I've never had to bother telling you to drop dead and go find a guy who's willing to have sex with me.

Blame your personal issues on your race all you want. Maybe if you do it enough you'll even fool yourself.

 

[Soilwork]

So in the end, it's about "YOU"..If the guy you're with is not feeling you sexually (no matter if he's top or bottom) it's not going to happen.

What the fuck is it with people these days that they have to blame EVERY ONE ELSE for their own neurotic loser tendencies and not take responsibility for themselves?

Britney blames Sarah Silverman, Kanye West blames MTV and now you're blaming the people you have sex with for your innadequecies as a sex partner.

If you won't take part, it's not because the other guy isn't good enough, it's becuase you're an inadequate loser in bed.

Jasun.

Has.

Spoken.

 

[mark1111]

Not even a reach around?

 

[Soilwork]

Ok I agree with most of you who ask "what does race has to do with it?"..but only to a degree...In some Black and Latino communities, the Machismo Factor is always in full effect...

if you're too much of a coward to suck dick, doesn't that make you less of a man and more a little boy?

MAN, I'm glad I don't have all that bullshit getting in the way when I'm having sex. I prefer to just enjoy sex.. not have to think of what my community at large thinks of it.

 

[Circe Infuria]

...straight men know their role in bed and that is they are tops all the time.

Not with this kinky cowgirl......

While that may be true for most of the time, you'd be surprised at how willing
straight guys are in letting the women climb on top of them and let the ladies ride it to town.

 

[Soilwork]

First of all, you need to CALM THE FUCK down!!

I'll take irony for $500, Alex.

You've attacked everyone on this thread

Not everyone. Just people who are too scared of what mommy would think to actually be an active participant in sex. Which, as far as I can see.. is only one or two people in this thread... not everyone.

Rest assured you won't get it from me!!

I'll add that to the list of things I won't get from you right under "blowjob."

 

[Soilwork]

Challenging their train of thought will only lead to hostile attacks and name calling....

and we dont' want THAT now, do we?

What/Who is the Militant Gay= A angry liberal queen.

oops.

Oh well... I guess that we'll never really hear the end of it.

Hey, I'm a top. Quite a confirmed top. If you dont' like sucking dick because you don't like sucking dick, by all means, don't suck dick. I like sucking dick, but that doesn't mean everyone else has to do it.

If you dont' suck dick because of some social reason unrelated to not liking dick sucking, you suck. Even though you don't.

the OP asked how we felt about a guy who was going to refuse to touch you while he used you like a blow-up doll. I told him I'd send him packing and go find a real man.



MAN, I love it when they leave in a huff and I get the last word.

 

[sixthson]

I'll say it again: it's about shame. A guy who only tops and won't touch a guys dick in return is ashamed of his sexuality. Somehow it makes him feel better about himself that he doesn't touch another guy's dick.
He tops because it makes him feel like more of a man and less of a shamefilled homosexual. Plus he has to stick his dick somewhere and ain't going anywhere near a vagina.
When he tops, he can look at that gorgeous male ass and those broad male shoulders with all those lovely hard male muscles. He even enjoys looking down and seeing two sets of balls bouncing around (not that he will admit to it).
Then he can pretend being a top is so manly and thank God he is not one of those bottoms or cocksuckers.

Shame and denial. Yup, that's what it is.

 

[justsimon]

I just don't see how one can possibly be a good top without having sucked the occasional dick.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

I am a TOTAL top and have been one all my life.

I am as white as they get, and blue-eyed, too. I live in very liberal communities, where no one really gives a damn. Neither race not machismo have anything to do with it.

But, I am, who I am.

Just like everyone else, I am looking for a compatible partner. I am looking for guys, who are total bottoms or are willing to be so for me, regardless of what their usual role is.

Nope, I am neither selfish nor anything else. I clearly state, who I want and what I want, and everyone addressed is free to accept it or reject it, as they find fit.

So far, I have faced very, very few rejections because of my being a total top. Actually, compared to the number of my sexual partners, the number of the very few rejections is completely negligible.

I have no doubt that most places, I have been to have a serious unbalance with lots of very willing bottom and versatile dudes. Being a total top there is usually a matter of major advantage in the field.

I also agree that a number of bottoms crave for a total top as it plays into their fantasy of being fucked by a str8 guy. I have never told anyone that I was str8. On the contrary, I always very firmly state that I am exclusively gay. It is purely their fantasy and that's fine with me.

Sex is not about the reciprocation. Sex is about giving and receiving pleasure. Since everyone happens to have his own, individual definition of 'pleasure', we go for what pleases us most and hope to get it. Obviously, we get it best with men, whose individual definitions of pleasure complement ours.

It ain't racial.

It ain't societal.

It ain't selfish.

It ain't limiting your partner choice.

It is who you are and what you do.

SC

 

[RationalLunacy]

I've never reciprocated head or a fuck...I've always negotiated this to my potential partners before any conflict, disagreement, and a few have accepted it...

I respect anyone who negotiates a sexual scenario before the act takes place. I'd do you.